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love, if it is like the blazing description in Shu Ting's " to the oak tree ", it must be able to make us go to the sword for the love of the sea. But if you want to do it, you can't do it. When you love someone, acting negatively in some ways is also an expression of love.
When we fall in love with another person, to a certain extent, we put the other person's interests at the same height as our own, or even higher.
The so-called true love means that no matter when the two parties will not destroy the relationship that you rely on to maintain, or seek their own value by harming the interests of the lovers.
For this, you will do a lot of things to prove your love and care, and you will choose not to do something to prove the purity of your love.
There are three things. If you really love you alone, you won’t do it anyway. Even if you account for the same, it can’t be regarded as true love.
One: Splurge your hard money
In love, willing to spend money for each other, willing to spend the other party's money, is also an expression of close relationship. It's understandable to satisfy your lover when you have ample life.
However, there is a situation where your lover is having a hard time, and you know that your lover does not have much pocket money, squandering the other party's money, which is out of taste and just a use.
once saw such a post on the Internet, the male protagonist is an undergraduate from a poor family background.I really like a girl in the same college, so I feel wronged to save money for the girl.
According to him, he usually eats more than two yuan of instant noodles as a staple food, and he dared not buy daily necessities for himself. However, if a girl wants to buy more than two thousand bags, he agreed with one bite.
The girls are not unaware of his constraints, but there are often such excessive demands. These boys also endure it with their own love.
Who knows, I happened to see my girlfriend blocked my circle of friends, and I was showing off to my girlfriend that the boy had a problem with his brain and he didn't eat to buy something for her.
This is undoubtedly the last straw that crushes the boys. The boys finally broke up with the girls, and the illusion of true love was shattered.
An upright girl, even if she doesn't like you and rejects you straightforwardly, she won't have the heart to enjoy the hard work of others; people who are dishonest may not have such a sense of morality.
Love must contain strong empathy and distress. If a girl does not even feel distressed for you, and enjoys your "sutra" with peace of mind, then this must have nothing to do with love.
2: Let you fight for his dream
Love is love, career is career, and the value of life is the value of life. Although these are not clear, they should not be confused.
Many selfish people bind their career and the value of their life to their lovers.Let you carry his dream forward. However, life is too heavy, no one can bear the lives of others.
Japan has a famous tragedy-the Phoenix incident.
The boys in this incident bound their dreams to the girls. Although in the name of love, they eventually dragged the girls into the abyss.
The girl was originally the owner of a bar. She has enough life, and she looks cute and has a cheerful personality. She should have a good life.
Everything was shattered after the arrival of the boy. The boy is a male publicist and is good at sweet talk. The female protagonist soon fell in love with the male protagonist and ran to the bar where the boys worked.
Later, in order to have a better performance, boys put their own pressure on girls, hoping that girls can spend more money so that they can make more money.
The girl quit her job as a bar owner. Because of this kind of job, she can no longer continue to spend a lot of money on boys. She chose to take a shortcut to earn a salary for eating youth meals in exchange for boys’ money. Praise.
In the end, the boys were not moved by her spending money for themselves, but instead looked that she was worthless, gradually alienating her, and ambiguity with other girls.
An angry girl who assassinated a boy. Although it was unsuccessful, he was sentenced to more than three years in prison for .
The beautiful youth is destroyed in this "love",Although even in the end, boys may not have loved her, this is just a squeeze of love.
Love is equal in nature, and the person who asks too much in love but is unwilling to give love may not devote love to it.
Three: Deception
Deception is the biggest destabilizing factor in adult relationships. The breeding of deception will not only break the heart of the other person, but also break the trust factor between you And it can't be recovered anymore.
It is self-evident that deception can hurt feelings. It literally conflicts with true love, and it is incompatible with love in real life.
In the world famous book "The Great Gatsby", Gatsby deeply loves the beautiful girl Daisy, but Daisy never treats him sincerely.
Gatsby originally liked Daisy, but when he was a poor officer, he liked her. But Daisy has always wanted a better life, and she married Tom in her early years.
Later, after Gatsby became a wealthy man, Daisy once again expressed her feelings to him, maintaining an unclear relationship. Daisy didn't like him, but out of coveting his money, she kept cheating on him.
Daisy, who has long become cruel, drove into her husband's mistress and made Gatsby liable.
Gatsby convicted Daisy and was shot and killed by the mistress's husband, ending his young life. But Daisy not only has no trace of guilt,Instead, happily go on vacation with her husband.
Obviously, Gatsby's life's struggles have been in vain, and he even lost his life. Daisy has never been to Gatsby sincerely, and has never given love.
She is not sincere about anything, but she is very sincere about her material desires, which can turn all feelings into tools for her own use.
How can someone who really loves you always deceive you? Use you to build love on deception and grow flowers of false and evil. Love and deception are opposites.
Love is a very solemn word, which cannot tolerate any use, hold-up, or deception.
Many people turn love into a tool of moral kidnapping, in order to coerce each other to achieve their goals, realize their ideals, and tolerate their deception.
Once love has a redundant and complicated purpose, the love between you will gradually wear off, and even the one you originally loved will turn your love into pure unwillingness and resentment.
Huang Zhizhong said: "Love is what you can do for the other person."
When asked to do something for him, such "love" may not be true love anymore.
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