At present, the proportion of married men and women in my country is seriously imbalanced. The marriage problem of unmarried men is no longer a personal family problem, but has gradually transformed into a social focus problem, especially in rural areas, where this phenomenon is even more serious. Marriage in the vast rural areas is no longer the same as in the past, "girls don't marry far away, and don't go out of a radius of ten miles." As a result, in some backward rural areas, men who lack the means of earning a living and whose family is not rich have no advantage in marriage, and it is inevitable that they cannot find a wife. So how can this problem be resolved?
Recently, Hunan Xiangyin County Civil Affairs Bureau is worthy of advocacy: one is to abandon expensive wedding gifts through the promotion of new marriage customs and concepts; the other is to educate and guide unmarried young women to love and build their hometown and encourage them to stay in their hometown. Efforts should be made to reduce the problem of marriage of young men and women in rural areas; the third is to do a good job in employment and increase income.
Through observation, it is not difficult to find that the family conditions of those older unmarried young men are very poor, and they cannot meet the high gifts required by the woman, and they are not able to earn a higher income. Just imagine, for such a man who wants money but no money, and has no ability, which woman's family is willing to marry his daughter to suffer poverty? Therefore, the root cause behind the problem is that the young men's labor income is too low. If they want to attract the phoenix, they have to own golden phoenix trees.
Taking our hometown as an example, I have eight cousins and six cousins. Among them, five cousins between the ages of 30 and 35 could not find a wife, and as many as four cousins married to other provinces. Among the five men, they generally have a high school education or lower, and have limited means of earning a living. They go home to work on the land when the farm is busy, and they usually work outside, and their annual income is very low. In the process of proposing marriage, the bride price is close to 100,000 yuan, and the necessary condition is that there must be at least a house in the county town. With these two hard conditions alone, the brothers can't even reach the price. Moreover, unmarried young women in rural areas are too scarce nowadays. There are often those of the right age. The matchmaker who proposes marriage can break through the threshold. After a little hesitation, they are booked by others.
And those cousins who married far away did not know how long they came back to visit relatives. Anyway, I haven't seen each other for many years, and I don't know if I can recognize each other when I meet them on the road. Why did they marry away back then? Without exception, the man’s home conditions are better.They all have small businesses, and the gifts they give are relatively generous. Correspondingly, they also help a lot of natal parents.
And I am one of the more fortunate ones. I stayed in the city through studying in the early years. Although my family was poor at the time, the future can be expected. This may be the main reason why it is not difficult for me to get a wife.
Going home this Chinese New Year, a 35-year-old cousin "finally" got married. Because there is no condition to get married before the age of 30, it is really too difficult to find after the age of 30. It is either that the age difference is too large and the woman’s family disagrees, or the introductions are all divorced, oil bottles, and released from prison. It's a mess of people, how can he bear it with a dignified "big man with yellow flowers". It's not been a few more years, seeing that I'm on the verge of 4th, I can only accept that I am looking for a second marriage, and there is no oil bottle. Fortunately, the two have had a girl recently, and he can be regarded as a bitter and willing to come.
I agree with this proposal with both hands. In fact, parents are unwilling to marry their daughters too far away, and it is hard to even want to see each other, just like without a daughter. So it’s not enough to encourage young women to stay in their hometown. Who doesn’t want to have a good family? Increasing employment and increasing their income are the key. In addition, individuals have to work hard. Once they have earned money, they still worry about not marrying a wife?
.-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-
-