Wang Yalong has been a sensible and obedient child since he was a child. It is also his sensible and obedient child. In the eyes of his parents, he is a treasure and has been cared for since childhood.
This is the opening remark that Wang Yalong gave me when he told me about his story.
Wang Yalong's mother is Hao Yingxia, 70 years old this year. At the age of twenty-two, she married into Wang's family. In the second year, Wang Yalong fell to the ground and came to this cozy home.
In this small town in the south, Hao Yingxia and her husband are ordinary workers in state-owned factories. Although their incomes are meager, their lives are savory and stable. When Wang Yalong was two years old, her sister also came to this world.
women are good. Hao Yingxia and her husband wrote the word "good" and began the happiest struggle time in their lives. In their struggle, their children also grew up gradually. Especially Wang Yalong, who is obedient and sensible since he was a child, but has average academic performance. Although he has worked hard and paid various tuition fees, his performance has always been at a medium level. After graduating from high school, he enlisted in the army and served in the army for five years. In the third year of enlisting in the army, her sister got a high score and was admitted to a prestigious university.
At the age of 23, Wang Yalong was honorably discharged from the army and returned to his hometown. Under the control of his family, he entered his mother's unit: the county food bureau to work.
When he retired from the army, according to his father, he should work in the political and legal system. One of his immediate relatives was the deputy director of the county public security bureau. The deputy director also advocated Wang Yalong to work in the public security system. After all, he was a boy. After retiring from the military, working in the public security system has the advantage of "professional counterparts." In addition, in those years, I also recommended going to police academies and going to police academies by myself. The public security police. And working in the Grain Bureau, it is basically certain that he is an employee in this life.
However, the powerful Hao Yingxia did not listen to her husband's advice or her son's advice at all. Instead, as an old employee in the unit, she found the director of the county food bureau and spent some money to let her son in. Food Bureau.
In the 1980s and 1990s, the Grain Bureau was a good unit, with a saying of "a half city of grain": grain and oil shops were opened everywhere in the city.As well as the excellent welfare, this is a good unit that people envy.
Soon after he went to work in the Food Bureau, Wang Yalong started his first emotional journey with the help of his relatives.
Maybe it is because mothers like to hug their grandson earlier. Soon after Wang Yalong fell in love, she hinted that her son would take the initiative to contact other girls. The son was not stupid, so he listened to his mother's words and began to actively invite his girlfriend to be a guest at home. Although the girl is shy, she comes more often, and she has a more specific plan for the home and the future. And every time she came to her future husband's house, the adults in the family would find an excuse to go out. As soon as Wang Yalong's parents were not around, her younger sister lived in another school for graduate school, so there were only these young people in this family.
Although they are not young anymore, the young people at that time have low EQ, and they are at the beginning of their love. The two young people lived together in such an environment. At first it was sneaky, then it was a little bit upright.
Their semi-conjugal relationship between boy and girl friends only lasted for less than a year before they were abruptly separated by Hao Yingxia.
The reason why Hao Yingxia wants to break up her son's marriage is because she feels that the future daughter-in-law will not give her a fat grandson. As for the evidence that the daughter-in-law will not have a child in the future, it is "Why is she not pregnant after living in our house for so long?" Otherwise, take the two children to the hospital for a visit?"
But Hao Yingxia doesn't have the patience. She used all women to know the way, and drove away the future daughter-in-law.
Wang Yalong said that, his eyes looked out the window with some confusion, and muttered: "After we were separated, it might be because of her anger. Soon she married, and then she gave birth to that family one after another. Two children. Later, I heard from friends of friends that if it were not for family planning, they would still give birth."
When Wang Yalong was 25 years old, Hao Yingxia asked someone to introduce her son to another person, and started his life. The second emotional journey in it.
Wang Yalong’s object is called Xiaojing,Status, status, no proper job, just a girl working in a restaurant. For Xiao Jing, being able to marry into the family of Wang's dual-employee family is a high climb. Therefore, when Wang Yalong invited Xiao Jing to be a guest at his home under the suggestion of his mother, Xiao Jing was a little excited. Soon after, Xiao Jing found out that she was pregnant.
The future daughter-in-law is pregnant! After receiving the news, Hao Yingxia was very happy, and hurriedly asked the matchmaker to discuss the marriage of the children with Xiaojing's parents. Xiaojing’s family is a responsible family. For them, it is a disgraceful thing for their daughter to get pregnant when she is unmarried. Therefore, when Hao Yingxia talked about the children getting married, they shrugged off a little. The implication is: First give the child that the daughter is pregnant with, and then let the children marry again, it is not too late to give birth to a child.
However, Hao Yingxia firmly disagrees. In desperation, the mother-in-law had no choice but to marry her daughter hastily. Half a year later, Wang Yalong and Xiaojing and their sons came to this family.
Hao Yingxia looked good at Xiaojing when she was not together, but once she became their daughter-in-law, how Hao Yingxia looked at Xiaojing was not pleasing to her eyes. During the three years that Xiaojing lived in this family, "she clings to my son all day", "I don't want to do housework, I have to do everything with my son", "the young family has lost education, and I don't understand the rules at all", etc. These words were often told to neighbors from Hao Yingxia, and to Wang Yalong more than once. And Xiaojing has a hard time in this home, having to take care of the children and housework. She quarreled with anyone in this family, and it was her fault, especially when she quarreled with Hao Yingxia, Wang Yalong would not stand with her at all.
Over time, Xiaojing became an outsider in this family. When her son was three years old, Xiaojing left the house under the influence of Hao Yingxia. Xiao Jing didn't want anything, just let Wang Yalong and Hao Yingxia mother and son say. Wherever they say, Xiaojing doesn't say a word, hears it, executes it, and signs it.
The son is raised by his father. There is not much joint property of husband and wife in the family, so the separation of family property is not involved. In this way, Xiao Jing lost a dowry and also lost more than four years of youth.She left her husband and son, whom she had no love for.
Regarding this marriage, Wang Yalong said to me like this: "At that time, I seemed to be nervous, and according to my mother's wishes, no matter how she looked at Xiaojing, she was not pleasing to my eyes. When she left our home, I even There is a sense of relief like relief."
Life is not about anger, nor is it just a matter of lip service. After Xiaojing left this home, he had to take his son and go to work again, only to know how hard it was to be a father and a mother. He also understood how hard and tiring it was for Xiao Jing to take care of the children and do housework.
But all this is over, it's too late. In the second year after coming out of Wang Yalong's house, Xiao Jing was married and married.
He has to go to work and bring children, which makes Wang Yalong miserable. And his father wants to go to work and can't help him. Although the mother has retired at home, she is busy dancing square dancing all day, and seems to have no time to estimate the affairs of her son and grandson. In this way, Wang Yalong's life can be imagined.
As his son was eight years old, his comrade-in-arms told Wang Yalong a marriage. The woman's name is Xiaoqing, and she is also married. Although she gave birth to a daughter in her husband's house, she was sentenced to the man, and she is now living alone.
At this time, Wang Yalong had enough life to run a family, so he thought about meeting this woman. Her mother Hao Yingxia didn't know where she got the information, she found Wang Yalong in the first place and said that she would also go to see this woman with her son. On the day of meeting with Xiaoqing, Hao Yingxia's impression of Xiaoqing was "Although she is a little thinner, she is still satisfied." Soon after the two met, Xiaoqing and Wang Yalong had a simple small wedding organized by Hao Yingxia. Only a few relatives and friends were invited, and they sat together, symbolically announcing their second marriage.
It is said that children are the meat that falls from parents. For Xiaoqing, why not? Since she married Wang Yalong, in addition to going to work, taking care of the family, raising adopted children, and serving in-laws, she has often remembered her daughter in her heart. She knew that her ex-husband, who was not doing his job properly, would not take care of their daughter. The child is in the growing stage, once the lack of basic and proper family education, the child's life will be ruined.
Because I am worried that the child will not eat well or wear warmth,After getting married, Xiaoqing will take her daughter from the school gate to Wang's house at intervals of every two after obtaining the consent of her husband. During the period, she talked to her daughter and cooked her daughter a delicious meal to fulfill her responsibility as a mother.
Xiaoqing doesn't take her daughter to Wang's house many times, only once or twice a month, and basically doesn't live with her. But even so, Hao Yingxia still feels that her daughter-in-law has done "too much!"
In order to prevent her daughter-in-law from taking her daughter home, Hao Yingxia first talked to Xiaoqing very vaguely, seeing the effect is not good, so she simply When Xiao Qing brought her daughter back, she said to Xiao Qing harshly in front of the child.
Xiaoqing was very angry, and had a few quarrels with Hao Yingxia. Wang Yalong seemed to be very angry too, but in front of his mother, he had been stubborn since he was a child. Therefore, when he saw his mother unabashedly reprimanding Xiaoqing for taking her daughter to the house for dinner, he just persuaded Xiaoqing to go to the back room and refrain from quarreling with his mother. At the same time, he also used words to imply that Xiaoqing should not pick up the child to anger his mother.
Xiaoqing sees her mother-in-law so impersonal, and then sees her husband so unreliable, and thinks about her since marrying into this family in the past few years, she has a legitimate job and a legitimate income, spends her savings and salary regardless of In this family, don’t you treat this family as your own family? But her mother-in-law treated her like an outsider, and she often made irresponsible remarks about her and their married life. She has no status at all in this family, how can she live this life, and what else can she do?
Thinking of this, after crying a lot, she thought of escape.
Since then, she has stopped bringing her children here. She wanted to have a baby, and opened a room near the school hotel. After receiving the child, first eat a meal outside, stay with the child for one night, talk to the child, and the next day, dress the child neatly, send the child to the school gate, and then go to work. By doing this, Xiaoqing aggravated the suspicion of her husband Wang Yalong. In Wang Yalong's view, she did not come home at night, not with her daughter, but with her ex-husband.
Soon, Wang Yalong and Xiaoqing divorced. The main reason for the divorce between Wang Yalong and Xiaoqing was Hao Yingxia's frustration.
After this divorce, Wang Yalong never remarried.He devoted himself to taking care of the children, and tolerated living a life of both a father and a mother.
I asked him: "Are you here to tell me a story without ending?"
Wang Yalong said: "Yes, no. I'm thinking, I have done my marriage life in the past few years. Master code?"
I continued to ask: "Do you need to be the master of your own marriage life?"
Wang Yalong said: "Of course I need to be the master, but I am a filial son again."
I asked again: "Is there a conflict between being a filial son and treating my wife kindly?"
Wang Yalong said in a firm and indisputable tone: "Yes! At least, there are conflicts in my life, but I don't know how to deal with them, and I can't deal with them. That’s fine."
I then asked: "The first girlfriend you mentioned, do you know her now?"
Wang Yalong said: "I know. She is doing well. We are in this area, the city is like this Little, it’s not difficult to get to know someone."
I asked: "Where is Xiaojing?"
Wang Yalong said: "She is doing well too."
I asked, "Where is Xiaoqing? She has a good time. How is it?"
Wang Yalong said: "These three women, after leaving my home, all have a good life. They know how to respect their parents-in-law and be kind to others. After so many years, they have managed the family in a colorful manner, and I , I still live in hard times."
I thought about the conversation between the two of us just now. I always feel that his life shouldn’t be so lonely. From the conversation between the two of us, I roughly know the reason why he came to talk to me, but I don't know how to enlighten him.
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