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My name is Ayun, I am 25 years old and I am from Jiangzhong.
My native family environment is harmonious, my parents love each other, and I am a happier family.
Ever since I was young, my brother has taken care of me when I grow up, and has never been wronged.
so that I have always wanted to find a man like my brother to marry, and then form a happy family like my parents.
Husband said that my mother will pay down payment and pay us monthly. The room book does not have our name written on it. It is justified
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introduced Abin and I met through friends. He is 28 years old, a mature and considerate man.
Since he grew up in a single family, he has always lived with his mother. He knew how to take care of others at a young age and was very considerate.
I fell in love with him because of this.
After two months of falling in love, I took him home to see his parents and planned to get married.
At first, my parents were quite disagreeable with him because his family situation was not good, and they were afraid that I would be wronged by marriage.
My mother mentioned the condition: The wedding gift is 100,000 yuan.
But my mother clearly stated that this 100,000 yuan is only a form, and the money will be returned to our daughter at our house as a guarantee for the future life of our young couple.
But Abin resolutely said that due to family difficulties, the 100,000 yuan gift money cannot be paid out temporarily, but to reassure my parents, I will add my name to my old house after getting married.
Ah Bin's sincere attitude moved his mother. Through her mother's concession, the family agreed to the marriage.
husband said,My mother pays the down payment, and we pay the monthly payment. The room book does not have our name. It is justified
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The next day, Abin went home to discuss with his mother. After getting married, he will add the old house to me. The name thing.
His mother's reply is: I firmly disagree with adding my name.
and send a message, 100,000 yuan gift money can not be given, you can give 50,000 yuan.
My family members were very angry when they heard the news.
Things that had been negotiated, suddenly changed, my mother felt that my future mother-in-law was a troublemaker, and told me not to marry.
Because I love miserable Abin, I used various methods to convince my parents.
Finally, under my various ideological work, my family doesn't care much about this matter.
Within a month, I got married.
Before, I always thought that Abin’s family was really in financial difficulties, so there was no way to come up with the gift money of 100,000.
That's why I tried my best to help him out in various ways and help him get the approval of his family.
Later, I found that my thinking was completely wrong.
Husband said, my mother will pay down payment, and we will pay monthly. The room book does not have our name written on it. It is justified.
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One day, Bin seriously said that there was something to talk to me.
"My mom has bought a house, 120 square meters, four bedrooms,The total housing payment is 1 million, the mother-in-law provides a down payment of 400,000, and the mortgage is 600,000. So, let us help her pay back the monthly payment." Abin continued to say seriously.
Continued: From my point of view, I think this way. When I am older, unlike our young people, there are opportunities to make money, so I What I want is to give her a protection after old age.
I was shocked when I heard these words: "Has the matter of buying a house been decided?" Has the money been given? Have you ever discussed this with me?"
Bin seriously said, "Yes, I don't think the problem is big. Anyway, both of us have a good income, and the monthly payment can be affordable.
I suppressed the excitement in my heart and asked: "Whose name Fangben writes, do you write it together?"
Bin firmly shook his head and said, "No, it's my mother's name alone."
I was angry and asked, "Why? Why is the monthly payment us? And our name is not on the book? The mother-in-law only paid 400,000, and we have to pay 600,000. We are the biggest ownership of the house.
Bin saw my emotions, and he was also very excited and said: "After my mother passed away in old age, aren't the things left behind that belong to us? What's the worry? Isn't it just a name?
"Haha, it's just the name, but..." I sneered, ready to argue with him.
"Isn't my starting point to give my mother a life security in old age?" Why do you have so many opinions on this little thing? Do you think of us as a family? I didn't expect you to be so snob! "Abin gave me a sentence, and then raised his hand.
I looked at his resolutely leaving back, and suddenly felt a little bit sour...
my husband said, my mom will make a down payment and a monthly payment. We went out, and the room book didn’t have our name written. It was justified
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. After thinking about it, something was really wrong.
Before marriage,My family asked his family to give out a 100,000 gift, but his family did not have the money to give it out.
After getting married, you can take out a down payment of 400,000 yuan a year.
Is this clearly lying to me?
Originally, this matter passed this hurdle in my heart. What I didn't expect was that his mother didn't discuss with me before buying the house, and asked me to pay the monthly payment directly after buying the house. Isn't this the rhythm of cutting first and playing later? And where is my position?
I can’t just leave it alone, I decided to talk to Abin.
Husband said, my mom will pay down payment, we pay monthly, and the room book doesn’t have our name written on it. It is natural and righteous
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Bin Bin because I disagree with the monthly payment, he has continued to do well. I have been ignored for a few days.
One day, when I saw myself watching TV in the living room, I walked quietly in front of him. I was both nervous and frightened, afraid to see him angry.
I said weakly: Let’s talk!
I saw that Bin didn't speak, he directly turned off the TV with the remote control, and walked directly into the guest room (we have been sleeping in separate rooms for a few days, because of this).
He was about to close the door, so I blocked my hand and slipped into the guest room, forcing him to talk to me face to face.
He saw me like this and squatted on the bed without saying a word.
I immediately stated my attitude again: "I don't want to pay for this house unless we write our names."
Bin suddenly stood up, stared at me and said: I'm telling you, I have decided on this. No, if you don’t make a confession, I will make a confession. This matter is no longer your business.
"You just have a small salary. If you promise to pay for the house, if I get pregnant, what will I eat?" I asked him back.
He saw my questioning and felt that I was provoking him, so he yelled at me directly: "This is the case. If you think something is wrong, give you a choice,Get a divorce.
"Kang Dang", these words are thunderous to me, I did not expect that Abin could say such things.
For the house of the mother-in-law, his wife would not want it anymore.
Husband said that my mother paid a down payment and we paid monthly payments. The house book didn’t have our name written on it. It was justified. Deal with it?
I didn’t dare to tell my family, I’m afraid the family would be sad.
Facing Abin’s persistence and attitude, how should I persuade him?
in his mind
If his mother is more than everything, should I divorce him?
If I promised him to provide for the house, in case of divorce, I will also pay out the money, but the house is still theirs, so what kind of protection do I have? No more.
What should I do?
Ask everyone to leave a message in the comment area and give me this helpless woman a suggestion. Thank you!
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