In this world, there are many things that are difficult to tell right from wrong. Because they have different living environments and different personalities, they will have different understandings of things.
When I was young, I always felt that I was right, and I would argue with everyone anxiously. But I don’t know when I suddenly became mature. Even if I don’t get the understanding of others, I won’t give too much explanation.
As the saying goes: "Still water flows deep, and the wise are few words."
There is no need for people to argue with each other. If you meet someone who is arrogant and arrogant, then no matter how much you argue, it is meaningless.
Really wise people will not waste time rebutting the opponent, but continue to do their own thing.
The smarter people are, the more they will do this when interacting with others, and life will go smoothly when they realize it.
I choose most of the silent writers 1: stay silent and accumulate strength silently
strong18spanspan strong18spanspanspanspanspan7 One of the main reasons,You can rarely learn humanity from words, but you can from silence. If you want to learn more, then you have to keep silent.
It is difficult for us to truly understand human nature from a variety of different words, but when you learn to remain silent, you can experience it more deeply.
In this era of competition, most people have their own ideas and ambitions. In order to get more opportunities and attention, they will continue to output through words, trying their best to prove who they are.
to the end, but a waste of energy.
People who know how to keep silent, they seem to have no desire, but in fact, they are quietly accumulating strength, and will try to seize it when the opportunity comes.
After graduating from university, Wang Zhou (pseudonym) went to work in a startup company. He was very busy every day, but his income was not high. Every time friends get together, many people will say what big projects they are doing recently, how much more income they have before, and so on.
Only Wang Zhou seemed silent and seemed out of place.
Some people, in order to integrate into the group, do not want to lose to others, they swollen face to fill their fat.
but Wang Zhou did not feel anxious,Instead, it worked silently. It has been learning. Later when the opportunity came, only Wang Zhou could speak fluent English, and he successfully participated in the company's new projects.
In less than two years, Wang Zhou's income was twice as high as that of his peers.
The smarter people are, the more they know how to keep silent when interacting with others. They don't like publicity, but they know how to do things seriously, and ultimately they can achieve success by their persistence.
two: the quieter the person, the more free the heart is _5pspan strong, if there is extreme peace and wisdom, span .
People who like to be quiet can let go of distracting thoughts that shouldn't be there, abandon all the constraints, and make oneself live more comfortably.
Quietness is a kind of high-level wisdom. When you get along with others, you can do no comparison, no care, no catering.
If you can understand it early, then life will go smoothly.
In an impetuous world,Only when you can calm down and feel the current life can you live more sober and not be disturbed by emotions.
In the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Guan Yu , he was killed by Soochow . After learning the news, Liu Bei felt extremely angry and hurt.
He secretly vowed to avenge Guan Yu. At that time, his heart could no longer calm down. Regardless of Zhuge Liang's persuasion, he led soldiers to fight, but he lost miserably.
The situation in Shu is getting worse and worse, and Liu Bei can't afford it.
The personalities of Zhuge Liang and Liu Bei are completely opposite. Everyone is familiar with his empty city strategy.
When facing a crisis, Zhuge Liang did not panic, but kept a calm attitude and came up with the best solution.
He ascended the tower and ordered the people to open the gate. Zhuge Liang sat on the tower peacefully, confusing the other person with a comfortable look.
at that time Sima Yi after seeing it,I began to suspect that the other party might have done an ambush, because he was overly afraid, so he retreated without a fight.
The quieter people are, the more free their hearts will be. They will not be affected by the surrounding environment, but can calm their hearts, see the true state of things, and make wise judgments.
People who can understand this as early as possible, no matter how big things are, they can deal with it calmly, and their life will be smoother and smoother.
III: People with low desire to talk, the spiritual world is more abundant
, You will complain to the people around you.
However, the more you experience it, the more you will understand that there is no such thing as empathy in this world. Even if you have similar problems with the other person, your inner feelings may not be the same.
Really smart people have given up their desire to talk a long time ago. They don't expect to be understood by others, so the less disappointed they are.
I have read this sentence before: "Some people live in tall buildings,Some are in the deep ditch, some are shining, and some are covered in rust.
Some people live in a deep ditch since they are born, and only you know the warmth and coldness of it.
When you and your friends complain, maybe they can give you some comfort. The strength they can give is limited, and the pain and suffering in their hearts must be borne by themselves.
Qiu Shan (pseudonym)’s native family is very poor, her parents are particularly patriarchal, and her mother only has eyes on her. If her family was willing to let her go to university, Qiu Shan could find a better job, and now she doesn’t have to live so hard.
she started After working in another place, all the salary must be sent home. Later, she talked to a boyfriend who treated him very well, but the financial conditions were average, and her parents opposed all kinds of objections, and forced her to marry a boy who was 14 years older than herself. The man.
What parents do is to covet the other party to give 200,000 gifts, so that they can help their brother buy a house.
can only find her own incompetent family friend, Qiu Shan We complain, but what can we do after complaining?
Some people just treat her experience as a joke,Some friends will blame her for not being strong enough in her heart, and she can't bear this little thing.
Later, Qiu Shan stopped talking to anyone. She began to learn to adjust her mentality and find a way to get rid of her native family.
She is no longer confrontational. The reason why Qiu Shan always talks to her friends about her inner feelings is nothing more than expecting to hear others say: Your parents love you, just in the wrong way.
But the truth of the matter is that parents just don't love themselves, no matter how she avoids them, they can't change it.
After accepting the reality, Qiu Shan's heart suddenly opened up.
The smarter people are, the more they know how to reduce their desire to talk when they get along with others. Their spiritual world is more abundant, and they do not need to be comforted by others to get out of the mud.
I like a passage: "People have to swallow some grievances, and then dry their tears without mentioning them and move on."
There are too many grievances in life There is nowhere to tell,In the end, you can only solve it by yourself. When you realize this, the days to come will surely pass the better.
The heavy rain will always stop and the cold wind will dissipate. We will eventually learn to grow in time, grow hard wings, and become the true opponents of life.
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