The son said: "Do not do to others what you do not want to do to others." If you don't like one thing or one way, don't impose it on others.
It is important for people to have self-knowledge. When getting along with friends, relatives, and lovers, smart people will empathize and consider from the perspective of the other person.
People with high emotional intelligence and city government will not impose their own ideas, nor will they morally kidnap others with values that they believe are correct.
Many contradictions in marriage actually stem from selfishness. If you always look forward to your lover's concessions, most of what is waiting for you is contradiction and estrangement.
Someone once asked me this question: "What kind of man does a woman find to be happy?"
I said: "A woman's greatest honor is to meet and protect you A partner who understands your heart and always considers you."
Life is long, and many problems in relationships stem from inner stubbornness. Men must be generous in time, and in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, men must maintain courage and assertiveness.
Many women have a feeling that their lives are messed up after marriage, and when economic problems and family conflicts are intertwined, relationships face challenges.
reader Xiaoqian (pseudonym) confided: "I am a woman who puts all her hopes in love, but can regret it after getting married. The sister-in-law insists on coming to the house for confinement.But my husband was silent, and I finally understood: There is a kind of man who cannot marry! ”
Regardless of opposition, stick to true love
Like many girls, Xiaoqian (a pseudonym) not only yearns for love, but also waits for her true love, and her character is true love in college.
Although her family is pretty good, she doesn't care about things at all. To the class monitor Zhou Qiang (pseudonym), she has long been secretive. After graduation, the two developed in the same city.
Effortless, not to mention Xiaoqian is very outstanding, not long after the two established a relationship. After three years of falling in love, she confessed to her parents. The elders did not agree with this marriage. But she was very persistent and even threatened with "severing the relationship".
In the end, the parents had no choice but to compromise. The man only gave 8,000 gifts, but Xiaoqian married a suite. , A car, and a deposit of 380,000.
Contradictions appeared, and problems continued
After marriage, life was completely different from what she imagined. The mother-in-law moved to the two’s new house immediately and began to " In charge of family matters.
Xiaoqian was a spoiled girl, but faced with endless housework and mother-in-law's nagging, she was a little upset. In order to alleviate the atmosphere, she provides alimony of two thousand per month.
Because her mother-in-law has always depended on her children, Zhou Qiang has a very close relationship with her.In Xiaoqian's opinion, the relationship between her husband and her mother-in-law far exceeds the relationship between husband and wife.
The mother-in-law has a strong desire to control, ranging from pots and pans to large appliances and cabinets. She has to deal with everything. Such a life makes Xiaoqian really troubled.
Lack of opinion and aggravation of conflicts
Every month, Zhou Qiang will pay his salary, and Zhou Qiang will hand it over to his mother. His explanation is: "I have relied on my mother since I was a child, and I have been used to giving money to her. "
But whenever there is some expenses at home, everyone counts on Xiaoqian. In their opinion, Xiaoqian bought the house, so she is responsible for the family expenses, not to mention her good family background.
When my sister-in-law got married, Xiaoqian was asked to sponsor 50,000 yuan. In fact, she was already regretful, but because of face, she had to work hard to maintain the marriage.
When there are conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Zhou Qiang always chooses to protect his mother, because in his cognition, mother is the most important and most dependable person in life.
After more than a year of marriage, Xiaoqian regretted her ignorance at the time, but she had no choice but to bear it. But there were more and more contradictions, and she felt like an outsider.
Recognize reality and choose to let go
Xiaoqian not only bears family expenses, but also supplements her mother-in-law from time to time. After the sister-in-law's child was born, she presented a gold object, but the other party thought she was stingy.
Xiaoqian is a more particular girl. When she learned that my sister-in-law was coming to confinement, she tactfully refused and promised to provide each other with a monthly nutrition allowance.
but the other party insisted on staying here on the grounds of "good conditions in the big city",This problem has caused family conflicts. The mother-in-law said: "It's all a family, don't see outsiders!"
How much Xiaoqian hoped that Zhou Qiang would speak for herself, but the last thing she waited for was silence. 's husband's silence made her understand: "Ma Baonan" who is unclear about the priority and lacks responsibilities must not marry!
In the end, she chose to stop the loss in time, which may leave a shadow and "scar" in her life, but in the long run, this should be a wise move.
Every bit in marriage is a consideration of human nature and mentality. In the end, everyone will remove the "mask" and reveal the truest side.
Feelings are not a trifle. Your choice for your lover is about every day for the rest of your life. Only by choosing the right partner, finding someone who understands you, warms you, and considers you, will you be happy in the future.
Marriage should not be blind, and the opinions of parents should also be carefully referenced. Xiaoqian’s experience makes it clear that the background, growth environment and personality of the lover determine the quality of marriage.
Today’s topic: Do you think Xiaoqian did something wrong? Do you think there is any room or way to redeem this marriage?
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