Foreign studies have shown that: in marriage, married women are generally less happy than married men, and economically independent women with jobs are more likely to file for divorce than housewives.
——"Divorce Investigation Report"
Chinese divorce
People say that marriage is like a siege. People outside want to come in and people inside want to go out. But everyone before entering the city has never thought that one day he will leave the city.
In the face of marriage, women always habitually attach all the good things to it. Sometimes even before the man utters the three words he dreams of, the woman has outlined the good life of her life.
So, in love, women are used to waiting, waiting in anticipation, waiting for promise, waiting for the good to happen, waiting for happy ending.
Contrary to the good expectations of women, China has a high divorce rate.
According to data from the National Bureau of Statistics and the Bureau of Civil Affairs, in the data released in the third quarter of 2019, the national divorce rate was as high as 43.53%, and the highest province was 70.56%.
So, when the women walked out of the besieged city, perhaps they only discovered that the happy bag is empty and everything is just their own imagination.
Women are destined to be animals dominated by sensibility.
The pain of giving up
For many Chinese women, divorce is more like giving up. Give up a person, give up emotional support, and often give up half of the world.
So a woman surrounded by multiple emptiness and emptiness, either can't face the pain of divorce, or fights to death, and is no longer willing to face love.
But in fact, many people may not even understand what the divorce cuts off.
It is true that marriage is a matter of two people, which means that the world of two people is intertwined. From then on, life will have me in you and you in me.
When the relationship broke down and a decision had to be made, on the surface, it was that person who left our world. But in essence, it was not that person who had been cut off, and that part of himself in embarrassment.
The foundation of two people being together is love. That person exists in our lives because we love him. Love makes his image shine in our eyes.
Therefore, his existence originates from ourselves. When we want to allow him to withdraw from our lives, we actually approve that we no longer love him from now on. If you are reluctant, you might as well examine yourself. Such a hysterical person is destined to be unable to keep another person.
If love is embarrassed, it is no longer love. The love under embarrassment, the object of love is no longer the person, the love at that time just makes us fall into the so-called "specific and affectionate" cycle that we define for ourselves. Remember, what others love is always that shining us.
fills itself completely
All reluctances should start with filling themselves. Facing the desertion, standing at the intersection of the past and the present, calmly accepting who you are at this moment.
Some people are afraid of love and no longer believe in marriage; some are determined to support them alone for the sake of their children; others are eager to find a more ideal partner to fill in the vacancies.
These are everyone's right to choose, and no one else can interfere. But standing at the intersection of choice, think about it, is you the one worthy of love at this moment?
Don't forget the part that was cut off.
If you are currently incomplete in spirit, material, and life,Then don't make a decision. The most important thing right now is to fill yourself.
Only under the premise of a complete personal world can you make the most correct choice. This is like, you have to work hard to climb to the top of the mountain in order to see where the way forward is.
Marriage is a process of making each other better. If your previous marriage didn't make you better, but prompted you to give up a lot, then go get them back.
Seriously think about what kind of person you want to be. You can work hard to make money, you can cultivate hobbies, and you can communicate widely. Everything is what you want.
When you have everything you want, only a good love, trust me, you don't need to look for it then.
The shining you will have your own attraction, and the love you desire will knock on the door yourself.
At that time, the options you have will be more advantageous, that is, whether to accept this excellent man in front of you.
Don't let the negative emotions drag down your feelings
The best love is evenly matched
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