Foreword:
In life, we often like soft-hearted people because they are very kind. Pay blindly without expecting a return.
Since childhood, our parents have taught us to behave steadily, so that we can be successful.
In fact, this is not right.
Especially nowadays society is constantly developing. If a person does not have the plan, then he will often miss success.
We must not be too honest in doing things, at least we must have our own attitude.
So we have to have a snack machine whenever we know how to do it, so we won’t suffer.
We will find that honest people are always bullied and excluded in the workplace,
will always be occupied by other people's resources, so they always suffer a lot of dumb losses.
However, there are not many ways to deal with it, and this kind of person lives very badly.
If you want to reverse this situation, you must take the following 4 ways to change yourself from passive to active,
so that we can completely reverse our lives.
So in life, we have to see for real and hear for nothing. Only in this way can we ensure that we are not deceived.
What you see with your own eyes is not necessarily the truth. It is more often a routine.
Many honest people like to look at problems intuitively. On the contrary, successful people judge the trend of things according to the law of development.
distinguishes the changes in interpersonal relationships according to the human condition and sophistication. This is also the difference between the two.
1. You should save face when you speak
Honest and kind people speak very straightforwardly.They say one thing, one thing two say two, and they never go around.
This kind of person actually doesn't have any bad feelings in their hearts, just because they speak too straight.
Therefore, people around me often feel unpleasant, or unintentionally talk about other people's pain points.
When we speak, we must pay attention to skills. We should keep in mind what we should say and what should not be said.
This makes others feel comfortable and saves our own face.
So many times we have to pay attention to our words and learn to save face for the people around us.
This way we will gain more and more friend.
2. Leave a way for yourself
Kind and honest people tend to be more serious in doing things, they always want to complete one thing,
so they will be more ideological I simply don't care about the feelings of people around me, I just go my own way.
So slowly, a lot of problems appeared, and I became the ultimate victim.
So no matter in life or in the workplace, you must think before doing anything.
Many things need to be considered for yourself, leaving yourself a way out.
Only in this way will we not be harmed and we will also feel that life is very good.
3. Observe more and talk less
No matter what we do in life, we must first observe more and talk less during the period of time.
When we encounter things that we cannot judge, we must learn Keep talking less and watch more,
so as not to fall into more traps and fail to climb up,
has a good saying, shoot the head shot, so we must act in a low-key manner no matter what.
More observation is not a bad thing for us, but it is still a good thing,
so that we can know the thoughts and opinions of people around us,You can also think more in your heart.
A person who can accomplish great things is often hidden.
4. Learn to go around in circles
Being too kind, honest people tend to speak quickly,
This seems to be frank, but often doing so will hurt yourself,
We can appropriately learn to go against the original intention of interpersonal communication and learn to go in circles appropriately.
so that we will not be caught by the people around us. This is also to give ourselves a mind,
in case we are in the workplace in the future Hurt in life.
Conclusion:
It is often difficult for an overly honest person to establish his own prestige among the crowd, and
is also difficult to become a person respected and liked by others.
Because they are always timid, staying in a small situation for a long time will only make themselves very tired.
Nowadays society needs competition, and we learn the above 4 points to protect ourselves.
If you are an honest person and don't know how to protect yourself, you will definitely be bullied in society.
If we dare not fight with others for anything, then we will lose a lot of precious opportunities.
will finally make us regret it all our lives.
The workplace is like a river and lake. People who are too honest have no way to survive in the workplace.
People who are really good tend to keep a "mind eye" for themselves.
Only in this way can they not be bullied, and they are also their best. Guard against.
END.
Today’s topic:
Will you be harmed if you are too honest?
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reference material| Journal of consulting and clinical psychology
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