Andrew Grove once said: People can communicate well, not by how well we tell things, but by how well we are respected.
Regardless of whether it is between husband and wife, between family members, or between others, mutual respect is the best way to get along. Only by respecting each other from the bottom of my heart can I restrain my words and deeds. When you encounter differences and contradictions, you can deal with them calmly and resolve them through communication.
Although it can be said that marriage is only related to two people, it is not just a matter of two people, but the fusion of two families. A happy marriage requires running-in and tolerance between two family members. If you don’t even have the most basic respect, you will fall into a "crazy circle" of complaining, suspicion, accusation, and quarrel . Most such marriages will end in failure.
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The 27-year-old woman Wang Qin has been married for more than 3 years. The couple have been living in a large suite with their two sisters and father-in-law. Husband Zhou Jun and two sister-in-laws jointly run a clothing store. The husband is mainly responsible for purchasing and delivering goods, and the two sister-in-laws are responsible for sales. Because of the booming business, after the two sister-in-law got married, the three brothers and sisters have never separated. The living expenses of the entire extended family mainly come from this clothing store.
After getting married, Wang Qin did not go to the clothing store at home to help with the business, but chose to work in a power plant. On weekdays, she didn't have much contact with her two sister-in-laws.
What she can’t understand is that the two sister-in-laws didn’t see her very much from the beginning, and every time they had a positive contact with the two sister-in-laws at home, both sides would explode due to some minor problems. Family conflicts.
Not long ago, after Wang Qin went to the hospital for an examination, she found that she had been pregnant for 38 days, and her heart was suddenly filled with the joy of being a mother. When she happily showed the pregnancy test report to her husband and two sisters-in-law, no one believed the fact that she was pregnant, and her mood suddenly fell to the bottom.
A few days later, when Wang Qin was washing the dishes in the kitchen, my sister-in-law suddenly rushed in and angered her, saying that she was washing the dishes too loudly. Wang Qin was in a bad mood, so he couldn't help but replied: I won't quarrel with you uneducated person.
The sister-in-law pushed her out of the kitchen angrily and kicked her in the stomach, saying that even if she was really pregnant, she would have to kick her to miscarry. After aunt made a fuss, she was kicked out of the house by the sister-in-law, and even her luggage was thrown on the first floor by the sister-in-law, and then her husband suddenly filed for a divorce with her.
In Wang Qin's opinion, her husband has a deep affection for her, but he is too honest and honest. When confronted with a conflict between her and the two sisters, he often chooses to be silent. The reason for mentioning the divorce this time was definitely forced by the two sisters-in-law.
Because after she was driven out by the sister-in-law, the husband said it was difficult for him to do it in the middle, so she asked her to avoid it first. Then, without telling her family, she rented a house 5 kilometers away from home and bought some necessities for her. Every few days I would sneak over to see her and give her some delicious things.
Wang Qin lived in a rental house alone. After thinking about it, she felt that the reason why she had been bullied by the two sisters was because of her husband’s repeated concessions, which allowed her to indulge in her intensified behavior. Now that I get to this point, it is really irresistible.
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In order to keep his marriage, Wang Qin took the pregnancy test report to the clothing store where her husband and two sisters-in-law were located, hoping to resolve the contradiction through communication with them. Unexpectedly, the two sides quarreled inconsistently as soon as they met.
Wang Qin said that no matter what, she will not divorce her husband, nor will she destroy the child. I hope my sister-in-law will not force them to divorce again. But my sister-in-law Zhou Yan said that she didn’t believe that Wang Qin was really pregnant, and revealed that she had been married for 3 years.Many times I asked my family for money on the grounds of pregnancy.
Zhou Yan said that when she first started, everyone thought that Wang Qin was really pregnant. For her request, as long as it is not excessive, she will be satisfied. Slowly, everyone discovered that the pregnancy she said was all fake.
So this time, although everyone saw the pregnancy test report in her hand, no one wanted to believe her anymore. When she asked for 100,000 or 50,000 fetuses, everyone believed that she was trying to cheat money by repeating the same trick.
Faced with my sister-in-law's statement, Wang Qin denied it all at once. She said that every time she became pregnant, she had a medical certificate from the hospital. The first few times were due to poor health, which caused threatened abortion. The sister-in-law sneered at her explanation, which made her emotionally more and more excited.
When Wang Qin kept talking about her grievances and complaining about my sister-in-law's various faults, my sister-in-law pointed at her and shouted: Are you going to make a noise here? Get out of here, don't stand in front of my shop, you are too moldy.
At this moment, Zhou Jun, who came after hearing the news, did not say much to the wife who came to the door, but tried to pull his wife away from the scene. But when Wang Qin was angry, seeing her husband, he seemed to have found a vent. He beat and kicked him and tore his clothes to pieces.
After everyone finally pulled them away, Zhou Jun said that although the wife went for the pregnancy check-up alone, he didn't have much doubts about the pregnancy check-up sheet held by his wife at the beginning. But now his wife kicks and beats him, it doesn't look like a pregnant woman who is pregnant with a child and needs to take care of her baby, so he doesn't want to believe it anymore.
After hearing her husband's suspicion, Wang Qin's emotions agitated again. Someone suggested that Zhou Jun take his wife to the hospital for another checkup, but Wang Qin strongly opposed it.She said that the reason why her husband didn't admit that she was pregnant was completely persecuted by her family, so no matter how many times she went for checkups, they would deny it.
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Seeing a wife who is very emotional and can't listen to other people's persuasion, Zhou Jun said frankly that it is no longer meaningful to continue discussing whether the wife is pregnant or not, because he has already decided, even the wife He is really pregnant, and he has to divorce. During this time, he rented a house to his wife and took care of her, all because of the children in her stomach.
The sister-in-law next to
added that because Wang Qin not only slandered her deceased mother-in-law many times, but also cursed their Zhou family at every turn. In addition, she lied about her pregnancy several times and asked them for money to raise a baby. Their family members have a bad opinion of her. Now that brother filed for divorce, it was not the sisters who instigated him, but Wang Qin’s deception time and time again, which broke his brother’s heart and made him lose confidence in this marriage.
Wang Qin still argued vigorously, claiming that she had never lied, and that her in-laws had cooperated to bully her. At this time, Zhou Xiaohong, Wang Qin's sister-in-law, also came to the scene, and as soon as she spoke, she tried to prove that what Wang Qin said were all lies.
Because during what Wang Qin said about her pregnancy, she discovered that Wang Qin was still using her aunt’s towel. When she asked to take Wang Qin to the hospital for an examination, Wang Qin was sitting on the floor crying and she refused to agree to the examination. . Therefore, she also believes that 's marriage to this point is caused by Wang Qin's repeated deceptions.
Zhou Jun said, this time he is actually willing to trust his wife from the bottom of his heart, and he also hopes that the couple can have a child as they wish. But because his wife had lied about pregnancy before, he couldn't fully believe it. Coupled with the various contradictions between his aunts and sisters in life, he was caught in the middle and broke his heart.I feel that this marriage is no longer necessary to maintain it.
In the quarrel of four people, Wang Qin accused her mother-in-law and her family of bullying her, and the two sister-in-laws bluntly said that she had schizophrenia, and Zhou Jun stood helplessly among the three women, not knowing what to do. Is good. When he accuses his wife of not being in a good mood, his outnumbered wife sprinkles all his anger on him. Soon, a few people entangled in the street.
When the people around him finally pulled them away, Wang Qin completely broke down and cried and said: I was wronged by my in-law’s false pregnancy, and I didn’t give a chance to explain why I was treated like this, he The whole family bullied me...
Faced with Wang Qin, who vented all grievances and anger with tears and shouts, the husband and the two sister-in-laws were unmoved. Especially the two sisters-in-law, still constantly reprimanding her for all kinds of wrongs. The scene makes people feel both heartache and helpless. It is difficult for others to distinguish who is right and who is wrong.
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After some comfort from everyone, the two parties are finally willing to find a quiet place to sit down and negotiate to solve the current problem.
Wang Qin first expressed that he did not want to divorce. As long as the two sisters-in-law can speak well, they will be able to get along with each other in peace. She then insisted that the pregnancy test report from the regular hospital was sufficient to prove the fact that she was pregnant.
But the two sister-in-laws said that Wang Qin had always spoken too much, not only slandered the mother-in-law who died of cancer, but also often cursed that their family members would get cancer, which made their whole family feel chilling.
Regarding the conflicts between his aunts at home, Zhou Jun admitted that his two younger sisters are indeed very hot, but he believes that the main fault lies in his wife. She is not only because of her impulsive personality, she can’t handle the relationship between her family, but also because she doesn’t Listening to his words, often emotionally let the conflict escalate to the point of being out of control.
The three women often quarreled over trivial matters. Zhou Jun was caught in the middle and had a headache. Because he does not want his two sisters to be involved in his marriage again, and his wife's actions have already broken his heart, so he feels that divorce is a kind of divorce for him and his wife. relief.
Regarding Wang Qin's pregnancy, Zhou Jun said that he no longer doubted. If Wang Qin insists on giving birth, the custody of the child will be handed over to the court to pronounce. If he was raised, Wang Qin would be given a little compensation; if Wang Qin was raised, he would pay a few hundred yuan in support every month.
Between family affection and love, Zhou Jun finally chose to leave his wife and stay with his family. Watching the back of his former lover turning and leaving, Wang Qin sat quietly in the room alone. Although she tried to keep the surface calm, she couldn't conceal the loneliness and pain in her heart after all.
A marriage that has just begun, because of the lack of due respect and tolerance between each other, the relationship between family members, which is already relatively complicated, has become messy. On the surface, it seems that the contradiction between tit-for-tat aunts makes the man caught in the middle choose to give up marriage to ensure family peace.
In fact, the real reason why 's marriage finally failed, apart from the mystery of Wang Qin's pregnancy, was mainly because Zhou Jun had no personal assets and no other outstanding conditions. , Coupled with his constant dependence, made him not courageous to leave his family. It can even be said that he has no ability to leave the big family and take his wife out to stand on his own, so he has to sacrifice his marriage.
Wang Qin, who also has no financial strength, could not talk to the two sisters in the first place, but now it is like this. If she chooses to continue living with the two sisters, it will only let everyone live their lives. If you have to work harder, this big family will never have peace.
Therefore, for marriages like this that need to survive in a big family, if they fail to respect and understand each other, tolerate and accept each other, it is also a wise move to disintegrate as soon as possible.
Conclusion
United States Rutgers University A study found that: in marriage,If the woman feels happy, the marriage is generally happy; on the contrary, even if the man feels good, as long as the woman feels unhappy, the marriage will have problems. The conclusion drawn from this research is: A man who takes good care of his wife is the law of happiness in marriage.
After a woman married into the husband’s family life, what she has to face is an unfamiliar big family. What she has to deal with is the relationship with everyone in the husband’s family. It is inevitable that there will be conflicts of this kind, and the husband is the only thing she can People who rely on. Therefore, a family's happiness index often depends on the husband's attitude towards his wife and the degree of petting.
A man who can take care of his wife must not only love his wife, but also have his own career, at least the ability to support his family. Only by loving your wife can you create a good relationship between husband and wife and make your wife feel more belonging. Career is an indispensable factor in supporting a family. It not only guarantees economic income, but also makes men more confident, makes women more secure, and makes marriage and family more stable.
As the saying goes, "Family and everything are happy" . To achieve family happiness, it not only requires men to work hard outside, but also requires women to work hard at home to maintain good family relations. A smart woman will skillfully handle the relationship with her in-laws and family, try to maintain family harmony, and ensure that her marriage can be happy and long-lasting.
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