Professor Pan Suiming said:
"Chinese women cheating and having extramarital affairs are often because they do not get emotional satisfaction in their marriage, including sexual satisfaction; Chinese men cheating is not the same The more harmonious they are, the more comfortable the relationship between husband and wife. They also like to have extramarital affairs, which can be understood as a kind of conquest, that is, an extension of sexual ability." The extramarital affair is to give her affection and her body, and it is more likely to be true love and love. Because I can't get it in marriage, I hope to find it outside of marriage.
For women, lovelessness is the biggest trigger for unfaithful marriage.
As far as marriage is concerned, the existence of extramarital affairs is not inevitable, but it is the temptation and challenge that every marriage may face. There may be many reasons for the existence of extramarital affairs, because there are problems in the relationship between the husband and wife in the marriage, or one party cannot withstand the temptation.
Anyway, extramarital affairs are symptoms and manifestations of marital problems. If there is a problem in a marriage, it is by no means the responsibility of one person, and the other person has more or less shortcomings.
In marriage, extramarital affairs appear because of the need for extramarital affairs, because the sweetness of extramarital affairs is often absent in marriage, and the more you lack, the easier it is to be attracted by something. This is also one of the inevitable reasons for extramarital affairs. However, if you really taste the taste of extramarital affairs, you will find that although it tastes beautiful, it will not stay in your taste buds for too long.
Maybe for extramarital affairs, everyone knows its fleeting beauty, but they still have to make progress when they know it. Finally, because of this taste, they gave up their own food, you will find that everything in the extramarital affairs is unreliable, that kind of taste is just an illusion.
This article tells the lesson of a divorced woman who regards extramarital affairs as true love, and the result will inevitably be bleak: a man with a family tells you true love, don't believe it, don't be stupid.
Xiao Yu realized this later. Xiao Yu admitted that it was wrong for her to have an extramarital affair in the first place.Because the life after becoming a full-time housewife was so boring, the connection between her and her husband diminished a little.
Moreover, because of work, her husband often travels for less than half a month, and Xiao Yu is idle at home, which makes her feel very lonely. She feels that there is no love in her marriage.
Being a housewife is not her idea. Because of her poor health, she has been very weak after giving birth, so she simply takes care of the children and becomes a full-time mother at home. Because conditions at home allowed, Xiao Yu always came up with some novel ideas to pass the time. During that time, she became obsessed with cooking, because she wanted to study systematically, she simply enrolled in class.
My husband has no objection, and always loves her: "Why do I make money, just spend it for you? If you want something, you can buy it yourself. If you want to learn something, you can learn it. I don't have time to accompany you , Can only make up for it."
Xiao Yu admitted that her husband treated her very well, but she lacked company. She and Fang Zhen met in cooking class. Although they all learned to cook, Fang Zhen's cooking skills are already very good. He is often portrayed as a student, and Xiao Yu admires his cooking skills. Later, Xiao Yu realized that he was a full-time father. Although many people have great prejudice against this, Xiao Yu does not fully understand the title of full-time father.
Because Xiao Yu is really not a good cook, he hasn't mastered the essentials of many dishes and couldn't learn it. Xiao Yu struggled for several days and asked him if he wanted to add Fang Zhen's WeChat. When the teacher called her for the third time, she decisively decided to ask Fang Zhen how he cooked. Fang Zhen was very enthusiastic and told her all the usual preventive measures. She also personally demonstrated to her in class, and practiced with her after class.
Because this encounter broke the original embarrassment between the two of them, apart from chatting together in the cooking class, she and Fang Zhen often send messages on WeChat. Her husband does not have time to spend time with herself, so Xiao Yu spends most of the time with Fang. Shake together. Every time the cooking class is over, they will eat and go shopping together and get along well.
Occasionally, when she goes to the supermarket, Fang Zhen is afraid that she will be bored, so she will tell her some parenting experience. Looking at Fang Zhen's personal shopping and cooking, and her parenting experience, Xiao Yu was really moved.
As they spend more and more time together, they also have a good impression of Xiao, because the "career" of a full-time dad will be prejudiced by many people.
It seems that a man is not busy with his career,If you don't take care of your family, you are just a "soft persimmon." He has always been worried about the rumors around him, and his wife is under too much pressure, and he can't express his grievances. However, Xiao Yu knew all these things. Whenever Xiao Yu looks like a little girl eager for knowledge and trips over his words, the joy of being satisfied with masculinity makes him excited.
So, they are not completely together because of ambiguity, but because they can feel the same.
Xiao Yu knew it was unfair to her husband, but she couldn't help going to Fang Zhen. Two people choose fresh fruits and vegetables as a dish together and discuss what to do next. She was completely fascinated by Fang Zhen, and Fang Zhen also said: "Only you can understand the hardship in my heart. I can't live without you."
Xiao Yu decided to divorce. She believed Fang Zhen's words and hoped to have a home full of warmth.
When she divorced, her husband was confused. He didn't know what he had done wrong, or what Xiao Yu wanted. After Xiao Yuzhen's divorce, Fang Zhen's attitude towards her was as good as ever, but he did not divorce. Because Xiao Yu was used to spending a lot of money and she had no income after the divorce, she soon needed Fang Zhen's support.
Fang Zhen wanted to divorce for a while, but when he saw how difficult it was for him to support his family because he couldn't make much money from his current job, he became a coward and lost contact with Xiao Yu.
When I knew the reason why Fang Zhen didn't want to get a divorce, I realized that she is a person who has been dissatisfied, how realistic Fang Zhen is, and how unreliable is the words of a full-time father who has a family and needs a woman to support him at home.
A woman should know that a mature, truly family-care man will never easily satisfy his own desires and choose extramarital affairs. He will not betray the family, and when you violate the bottom line of marriage , Your results will be doomed, don’t covet the freshness of extramarital affairs, and don’t let dissatisfaction lead to your betrayal of your family.
Whether you are a man or a woman, don't betray your family easily, otherwise the consequences will be disastrous.
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