Today, until the time of writing this text, I still haven't completely torn off my anger. Yes, it is anger, and emotional management is still not in place. Since I feel uncomfortable, it is better to take it as an example.
Today’s little insights are given to myself and to every friend who can meet these words.
One: Learning is my own business, but not only my own business
recently joined a reading sharing group. I always do things like this, and occasionally meet some good groups. Occasionally, it's not clear.
In this group I joined recently, I check everyone's chats from time to time, and also send out some mind maps that I have drawn in the group.
Then, I was discovered. Some people started to ask me how long it would take to draw this picture. Some people asked me for the original picture and said that they wanted to study hard. When I dropped the link to the group, many people Started to say thank you.
At that moment, to be honest, my little excitement kept going out, suddenly felt that, in fact, I was also good, and this kind of good, I found it at the moment of attention_ strong10strong, I used to be alone in a closed environment, reading, studying, and rarely outputting. One day, I saw a teacher I like very much and he gave some suggestions on input and output. I listened, and started to try again, to output, to communicate, to discuss, and I also began to taste a little bit of sweetness.
After communicating, you will find that learning is your own business, but it is not only your own business. When you start to spread, when you start to communicate with others with your own thoughts, you should not talk nonsense It’s gibberish, you have to be responsible .
2: Don’t argue with people casually, everyone has their own different encounters and cognitions
When I was young,There will always be some black and white cognitions in our hearts. Tang Seng must be good and monsters must be bad. This cognition has a profound impact in our lives, so that we are watching a TV series or In a movie, I often hate a particularly bad character, because they do everything they can to extreme harm to the angel in front of us, and some people often even go to the personal account of a role player to insult and attack. Everywhere.
The learning process makes us understand that one thing should never be black and white . We have learned objectivity, dialectics, and multiple dimensions. This knowledge seems to make a thing become It's complicated, but in fact, the simplicity behind 's complexity is the greatest simplicity.
So when facing certain things, I am learning not to argue with others, you may not be right, and he may not be wrong. What you should do is think, think more deeply, and then turn the argument into a discussion.
3: Don’t try to correct others, stay away from them
This is what I thought of from the anger at the beginning of today. I am used to the time between the morning and the official start of work. Listen to lectures and grow knowledge.
This morning, I went to the office very early, and there was no one around me. I particularly liked this scene. I listened to the lecture to my heart. Suddenly, a colleague came and his first words were: Brainwashing!"
How would you feel when you suddenly heard such a sentence when you were studying hard?
I always feel that "brainwashing" is not a good word. He is definitely not complimenting me anyway. I smiled helplessly, but I didn't hear much in the second half of the course.
In the process of recovering my emotions, I kept telling myself that staying away from him is the best self-protection. I don’t need to reason with him.I just need to stay away from him, don't let his little things affect me.
Actually, there are not a few people like this around us. This is a huge group. If you watch a lecture, he says you have been brainwashed. If you read a book for a while, he says you pretend, and you say he didn’t listen. After passing the knowledge points, he said that you are talking nonsense, and you tell him in plain language. Isn’t it the same as he said? Groups like
are like saboteurs. Not only are they not motivated, but they also dispel the enthusiasm of others. Such people live in the self-confident world built by themselves and occasionally come out with disgusting people. Remember to stay away.
If you can’t talk anymore, just quit!
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