Lead:
A person’s heart seems to be filled forever, he wants both material enjoyment and intangible romance. Xu Zhijie’s ex-wife, Huang Xiaoyan, is such a person. One day she accused Xu Zhijie of not being romantic and not considerate. She resolutely divorced for this reason, not even having two children. After five years of divorce, there was no news at all. After returning, she wanted to remarry, but Xu Zhijie saw everything through and he indifferently refused.
01
My name is Xu Zhijie. I am 41 years old and I am the owner of a restaurant chain. Five years ago, my wife asked me for divorce in pursuit of the so-called romance, ignoring the two young children. Now, when she came back to ask for her remarriage, I indifferently refused.
I was in a difficult family situation when I was young. As the eldest of the family, in order to take care of my younger siblings, I dropped out of school after finishing junior high school.
When I was 16 years old, I went to work in the kitchen of a small restaurant in the county seat. Wash vegetables, chop vegetables, give the master a hand, and do all kinds of chores anyway.
Because I am young and inexperienced, it is common to be yelled at by those chefs.
At the beginning, I would be dissatisfied, angry, and even want to leave. However, I can only insist, just to earn a bite of food.
I worked in that small restaurant for a year and saw many people of all kinds. There are qualified, unqualified, good and bad. This allows me to experience more of the truth in life.
The world is very realistic. When you are not yet capable, some grievances must be swallowed.
02
Later, I followed my fellow villager to work in a five-star hotel in a big city.
The kitchen there is very large, there are more than 50 employees, and every meeting is overwhelming.
The interpersonal relationship here is more complicated, but the chef’s cooking skills are also top-notch, as long as you are diligent and hardworking,You can learn a lot.
Besides, this is a big hotel with good benefits and benefits, much better than the outside ones. Not to mention, three meals a day, rich cuisine, good food and drink. Personally, being full is a very happy thing.
When I was 25 years old, I became one of the chefs in the Chinese food department. Someone introduced me to Huang Xiaoyan, the foreman who works in the Chinese restaurant.
Huang Xiaoyan is 2 years younger than me. She has an apple-like face and smiles all day long, which is particularly pleasing.
The relationship between our two went very smoothly. She was from a similar family to mine, so there was no such thing as anyone disliked anyone.
After six months of dating, Huang Xiaoyan took me back to her hometown for a trip, and then I took her back to her hometown to collect the certificate for the banquet. After staying for about half a month, we both went back to work.
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After we went back to work, Huang Xiaoyan and I rented a house outside and didn’t want to stay. There is a sense of belonging when you have a small family of your own.
go to work together, eat together, leave work together, and go home together every day. On the fifteenth of each month, it is the happiest day for me and Huang Xiaoyan. I laughed at the paycheck.
Huang Xiaoyan is a clean person, no matter how tired she is when she comes back from get off work, she will clean up the house well. Although we didn't have much money, we had a very sweet life.
During the holidays, I will go to nearby parks with Huang Xiaoyan and visit some scenic spots.
Looking at the perfect scene, the two of them went to eat something and hand in hand to the supermarket to see what discounts were offered. What to buy at a discount is a big bag. There are food, clothing, and many daily necessities.
Huang Xiaoyan is very satisfied with this kind of life, she is not like other girls with all kinds of requirements. This may have something to do with her growing up environment, and I am the same, more mature than my peers.
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In the second year after marriage, Huang Xiaoyan became pregnant,In the 5th month of work, she raised a baby at home.
I have to go to work, often in two shifts. I leave early and return late. I rarely have time to accompany her. Huang Xiaoyanjin went to the inspection alone and went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables. Despite this, she rarely complains.
Fortunately, the child in the stomach is sensible and rarely makes trouble. Huang Xiaoyan spent the entire pregnancy safely and easily. I was pregnant in October, and the child croaked to the ground. He was a little boy, 8.3 pounds, chubby and very cute.
With a child, Huang Xiaoyan can't go out to work anymore. The money-making thing at home is all on me. As for me, I even smoke a lot less cigarettes, and I also reduce the number of times I go out to drink with my colleagues.
Although Huang Xiaoyan became a mother for the first time, she still has the same appearance. She is like a superman, taking care of her children very well and taking care of her family well.
When her son was 3 years old, Huang Xiaoyan was pregnant with her second child, and her family's financial pressure was even greater.
Hotel competition is also under great pressure, and I don’t think it’s not a way to work for a lifetime like this. So they left with two colleagues, and the three of them opened a barbecue booth of more than 200 square meters.
In this way, I also have some time during the day to take care of the family and help Huang Xiaoyan share the responsibilities.
05
The barbecue stall business is very prosperous, and there are many people eating barbecue and drinking at night. Although it was hard work, I made a lot and made a lot of profits.
By the time my daughter was born, I had allocated more than 100,000 yuan at the barbecue stall, an average of more than 10,000 a month, which is much better than working in a hotel before.
In the second year, our three partners chose a good place and opened a second barbecue restaurant.
The busier I am, the more money I make, and the conditions at home have improved. When my son was 7 years old, I bought a three-bedroom house with a down payment.
On the day of moving to a new house, Huang Xiaoyan and the children were very happy. Seeing the smiles on their faces, I think all the hard work is worth it.
People from our background can only work hard, diligently, and work hard at the right time. Rely on yourself at all times,Not qualified to cry tired.
Huang Xiaoyan and I have formed a tacit understanding. She is responsible for family affairs and I am responsible for making money. Of course, Huang Xiaoyan is the one who accompanies the most children.
I admit that I owe them my company. Therefore, I also let Huang Xiaoyan spend the money at home. She likes to buy new clothes, jewelry, and cosmetics. I never interfere. Working hard to make money is to give his wife and children a better life.
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BBQ restaurants make a lot of money, but they also have limitations. After discussion, we transformed into Hunan cuisine and planned to become a chain store to make our business stronger and bigger.
I have been working hard to make money and thought that the rear was stable. I did not expect Huang Xiaoyan to ask me for a divorce one day.
On that day, I was busy until more than ten o'clock in the evening to go home. There was no way to prepare for the new store. Many things needed to be done by myself.
I went home as usual and poured a glass of water to drink. Huang Xiaoyan suddenly appeared in the living room, and I felt so strange. At this time, she was already asleep.
Huang Xiaoyan sat on the sofa and said expressionlessly, "Xu Zhijie, let’s get divorced, I don’t want to live like this anymore."
I froze for a moment, unprepared to face such a stranger Huang Xiaoyan. After a while, I asked her why she was divorced.
Huang Xiaoyan said, "You have been married for so many years, and you have been busy with your career. Have you ever thought about how I feel? Go outside every day, have you sent me a bouquet of roses? Have you taken me to a movie? You Have you prepared a candlelight dinner for me? No, you don't have any romantic cells. I want to live for myself once."
I apologize to Huang Xiaoyan, it is indeed hard for her these years. What she said, I haven't done it for her. If I said something was wrong, I will definitely change it in the future.
However, Huang Xiaoyan is arguing that she must divorce. She says she wants to live her own life. The children cried and told their mother not to leave, but she was determined not to look back.
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Finally,I still divorced Huang Xiaoyan. Based on the feelings of these years, I gave her a lot of money. This year, I am 36 years old.
Later, I learned from others that Huang Xiaoyan had cohabited with a 26-year-old security guard less than half a month after her divorce.
I don't need to think about it, in fact, the answer is ready to come out. It turns out that this is what Huang Xiaoyan calls romance and thoughtfulness. Forget it, I'm all divorced, what's the point of saying this?
In order to better take care of the two children, I took my parents from my hometown. With them busy at home, I can take care of my career.
At the beginning, the two children couldn't accept Huang Xiaoyan's departure and refused to get close to their grandparents. To this end, I spent a lot of time improving the relationship between each other.
I face my children's psychological changes squarely, care about their daily life, take them to and from school, take them to play, and meet some of their small requirements. No matter how busy you are, you should make time every day to be with your children.
Slowly, the children's dependence on me is getting stronger and stronger, and Huang Xiaoyan is no longer mentioned.
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After a few years, I am very satisfied with the life in front of me. The children are well-behaved and sensible, their parents are by their side, and the family is reunited.
And my business is very stable. In the past few years, we have opened 5 Hunan cuisine restaurants and become a brand chain store.
But I didn't expect to see Huang Xiaoyan at home when I came home from get off work one day. Her changes are great, she is no longer a full apple face, there are many traces of years on her face.
Huang Xiaoyan saw me coming back and greeted me very naturally. Seeing her, my heart is mixed, and I can't tell what kind of feeling I feel in my heart.
Over the years, Huang Xiaoyan has not made a call to her child, as if she was missing. I didn't expect that I would still see her.
Parents, and the two children have a light attitude towards Huang Xiaoyan. Huang Xiaoyan changed from the past and was very enthusiastic. She was not like this before.
The child ran away after dinner,Parents also avoided. Huang Xiaoyan asked me how I had been in these years, and I said it was pretty good.
She said 10 sentences, and I said back, the atmosphere is extremely embarrassing.
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Later Huang Xiaoyan said that she had been away for several years and missed her child and me very much, and she wanted to remarry me when she came back this time.
I am very calm. If I don’t know about the security, I might forgive Huang Xiaoyan for the sake of my child. But knowing the reason for her divorce before, how could I agree to remarry?
I refused Huang Xiaoyan's request. She kept saying other things and kept talking about the child's growth. It doesn't seem to stop until the goal is reached.
was really intolerable. I asked her what it was like to live with a security guard shortly after the divorce. Huang Xiaoyan was taken aback and shut up.
She is doing well, I no longer want to care, I think everyone is responsible for their actions. Huang Xiaoyan later slipped away.
I admit that when I was busy all day for my career, there was really not much two-person world with her. However, she contributed to the family, and I also contributed to the family.
Whose life is not like this? Especially after having a child, the life is plain and plain. How can there be so much love and love? These things are unrealistic.
Later I asked the two children do they miss their mother? They all said they didn't want to. But I have already planned and will not interfere with them meeting Huang Xiaoyan. And Huang Xiaoyan and I get along like ordinary friends at most, which is good for everyone.
Closing remarks:
The marriage of Xu Zhijie and Huang Xiaoyan is regrettable. The two of them also cherished each other, shared joys and sorrows, and had two lovely children. It is a pity that she has a good life, Huang Xiaoyan did not cherish the life in front of her, she insisted on divorcing and pursuing herself. Although later, Huang Xiaoyan knew that she was wrong and wanted to remarry, but Xu Zhijie could not forgive her. After 5 years,Already things are right and wrong. Huang Xiaoyan can only swallow the evil results she planted at the beginning. She wants to remarry, and it is impossible for her family to reunite.
As an adult, as a wife and a mother, you should understand your identity and responsibilities. You can't have both fish and bear paws. Life is mostly boring, but if you love this family and children, you can overcome all difficulties and understand and tolerate your partner. As long as you don’t make a principled mistake, you should live your life well.
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