Have you talked about death with your parents? Psychologist: know death, then know life

Son: "Mom, someday I will die..."

Mother: "Silly boy, why are you talking about this? It's unlucky, stop talking"

span 'S parents, have you ever talked about death? Theirs, or yours.

The above dialogue is my real experience. I just started with this sentence. What I want to say is actually something else. I did not expect that my mother's reaction was so big.

I am a psychologist and I have witnessed many human abysses. I want to say to you:

It seems that many people will never live unhappy because of him. Looks like!

This article, I want to chat with you, death!

The easter egg is at the end. After reading there, a small number of people will have a sense of epiphany.

come and do an action:

, put your left handPut your palm up, put it in front of your eyes, take a closer look at it, look at the lines of each finger, look at the traces left by the palms of the years, use your thumb to touch the other four fingers. Right at this moment, your hand is so flexible, it accepts your instructions and does everything you want.

But sooner or later, this hand will become dry bone and lose all the characteristics of life. Not only this hand, your body, every part will lose its vitality, and then turn into a handful of ash , Disappeared in this world. A person lives for a lifetime, but a short stay in the death waiting room , very long life, only a hundred years.

Your body, it is not actually yours, you are just its user. When you understand this deeply, you will do three things:

• enjoy it
• lispan lispan lispan _span _span _span 109 _span _span 109 You will find that those who live happily or achieve success usually have a surpassing understanding of death. Know death, and then know life!

  

  Know your death, and then you will enjoy your body

  This part of the content is a bit mysterious, so be mentally prepared. Let’s start with an example. Taking a bath is something you do almost every day. Will it give you a strong sense of tranquility and happiness? For most people, bathing is just a must-do, nothing special, so bathing is just bathing, a common thing that is often repeated.

  A person who knows death enjoys bathing. He can perceive the feeling of water kissing every inch of skin, quiet and peaceful. In this process, every cell of his body is completely open, he All of his mind is settled in this moment, body and mind are one, fully enters the moment, interacts with the water, and perceives the body's perception.

  He is a late-stage cancer patient. He told me that since knowing that he has only three months to live, taking a bath has become a pleasure, as well as eating. He said that in the past, eating was a task when eating, and it was common to swipe the phone while eating. Now, eating itself has become enjoyment, and every bite is happiness.

  People are always numb to things that are accustomed to them, unless you know that the so-called constant is just impermanence.

  your body,It is dying continuously, aging day by day, and after a few decades, it will become gray. Now, this moment, it still belongs to you, feel its existence with your heart, how can happiness be so complicated? The highest level of happiness is existence itself. Because I exist, I have enough reasons to be happy.

  Touch your face and say to yourself: This body will die sooner or later. I want to enjoy every experience of it, including the pain of being bitten by a mosquito and the torment of being anxious... …

  

  Know your death, and then you will use your body well

  Not me, most people waste this body. If you are over 30 years old now, you probably have discovered that your memory is not as good as when you were a student, and your physical strength is much worse. The most typical symptom is that your ability to stay up late becomes worse and you don’t sleep all night. The spirit will be very bad the next day, unlike before, if I didn't sleep for one night, I was fine the next day.

  Your body is like a mobile phone. Its performance is constantly deteriorating. One day it will be completely scrapped. Death occurs in an instant, but it is a process of death. , It's happening all the time! This process happens a bit slow, so slow that many people can't even feel it. People who know death will make effective use of their time in life, and they will not allow themselves to waste their time in the muddle.

  a buddy,When I was in my early 30s, I had two Ph.Ds. With an annual income of one million, I still keep working for more than 12 hours a day. He said:

  Cognition is infinite, so I want to create value as much as possible before I die, at least, do everything I want to do as much as possible.

  What do you want to do most? If you make a list of dreams, there must be many, for example, traveling around the world. Then someone said, what is the use of listing dreams? Those who ask for money, without money, everything is in vain. Where does the money come from? The value comes from you, where does the value come from? It comes from your use of time. This buddy is from a very ordinary background. He has been repeating high school for three years, but he is hard enough to make the most of his time every minute and every second.

  The question is, have you used it well during your lifetime? What is your precious time every day? Don’t wait, the life you want to live, if you can’t wait, you can only fight! Remember, you will die, your time is running out, you have to use every minute and every second.

  Ask yourself a question before going to bed every day: Do I use my body effectively today? Have I cherished every inch of time? If the answer is yes, your sleep will be very stable. On the contrary, anxiety will go with you...

  

  Knowing death, then you will be kind to the people around you

  , you see By the age of 40, there will be a kind of decay before old age, why? Don't know how to treat the body well. Not paying attention to diet, irregular work and rest, and often indulging in certain desires.

  Once, when I was working out in a gym, I saw a 50-year-old elder brother imitating animals, moving fast on all fours, and I asked him, what is this for? He said that this is a special exercise, which is good for the body. Then, I heard a story about life.

  It turns out that when he was young, he would drink everything, drink alcohol and stay up late, never taboo, his parents asked to pay attention to the body, his answer is, anyway, he will die sooner or later, enjoying the moment is the most important thing, he is right I said, it’s enough to live to 50 years old, why do you want to live so long. Later, he was really 50 years old and his body was very poor. He started to panic and tried various ways.

  he is a typical,Why indulge your desires? Why indulge your laziness? A very important reason is that he lives as if he will not die! In fact, he will die, and if he does not pay attention to his body, this day will come sooner.

  Why do many people start to keep in good health after reaching the age of no doubt? Because he understands that death is so close!

  Come, take a look at yourself, do you exercise? How is your figure maintained? Compared with your peers, how is your health? According to your current emotions, how likely is it that you will live to be 80 years old?

  

  Deep thinking

  The next words are a bit brain-burning, but very nutritious, but since you have seen here, I know you have the patience to go.

  There is a saying: "If you don't die in a disaster, there must be a blessing afterwards." Is it a matter of life after a disaster? of course not! It was this near-death process that made him recognize life again! When he re-recognizes life, his internal belief system is fully upgraded, his heart has changed, his life has changed!

  I am an apprentice, born introverted and very low self-esteem,When I was in my sophomore year, I didn't have any friends yet, so I was autistic. That summer, he was hit by a car and was in a coma for seven days and seven nights. After waking up, his personality changed drastically. He started to set up a street stall after school, shouting and selling things. The whole thing was like changing one. He became confident and cheerful. Just a few years after graduating from university, he became the core backbone of his unit.

  It turns out that the so-called coma is that he cannot speak and cannot move while lying down, but he can hear the conversation between the doctor and his family clearly. The doctor said to his parents, this child can't wake up, so prepare for funerals. In addition, while you are young, you have another one.

  The heart-piercing man from his parents was crying. He heard them all, but he couldn't wake up. He kept playing movies in his heart. Thinking of the past, he was too timid and wanted to do it. I didn't do anything about it, it would be a shame if I just left.

  If God gives me another chance to wake me up, I must do it again!

  God gave him a chance, and he really woke up. At that moment, his state of mind completely changed and his destiny also changed!

  I know that in your heart, like the client, there must be some dissatisfaction with yourself, and you must have tried many changes, but without success. You can't also feel the catastrophe, this thing cannot be copied, if you are not careful, you will really go. What you can do is to realize one thing deeply: You will die! every day,You are one step closer to death.

  Know death, and then know life!

  So, practicing death is something you should do while you are alive. How to do it? I will continue to share with you in subsequent articles.

  

  Author: Xi Tian

  A psychologist who is also good and evil, good at: emotional relations, spiritual healing and self-growth

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