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Speaking of men who have married a third party, will they regret it? Will you be happy in the future?
If a cheating man marries a third party, will he be happy? This problem cannot be generalized. Some men cheat because of huge problems in their marriage. Even if they don’t cheat, they will get divorced sooner or later. If the third party in this situation is of higher value or more suitable than the original wife, then the cheating man will have a great chance of choosing the third party.
But those cheating men who have a good marriage will almost regret it after marrying a third party. Weiqing compiled the experiences of the two visitors, and the following content was privately processed and published with the consent of the visitors themselves:
Fang Li (pseudonym, male, married to a third party for 2 years)
I was with me at the beginning The ex-wife’s relationship is actually very good, but I am a very restless man in my bones. I don't like others to control me, nor do I like others to restrict my actions.
My ex-wife has a strong desire to control me. I am not allowed to have too much contact with the opposite sex, and I am not allowed to go out to play at night. She also asked me to hand in my monthly salary. But the more she cares about me, the more rebellious I become, and I don't want to be restrained.
That's it, I cheated.
The lover has a gentle personality and is very indulgent to me. When I am with her, I am very relaxed and feel that I should live with such a woman.
Therefore, I chose to divorce desperately. My ex-wife saw that my divorce was decided and did not keep me too much.After the divorce, I felt very relaxed and happy.
When I was with my lover for a year, I married her at the urging of my family. After getting married, she quit her job to become a full-time housewife. I found out that she is indeed a woman who has no opinion.
When I was with my ex-wife, she almost made up her mind. I just need to cooperate or pay, and I don’t need to worry about other things.
After marrying my lover, she asked me for advice on everything, and everything required me to put in time and energy. The work has been hard enough, and my family has also given me a lot of pressure. Hey, I am really suffering.
But I thought, since I was together because of her character, then I should pay for my choice. But I didn't expect her to be so confused.
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Maybe her head is empty, or the full-time housewife’s life is too easy, she actually gambling outside behind me, owing more than 300,000 loans, I can’t wait to get a divorce right away. , But my family persuaded me that I had divorced once, and divorce would affect my reputation.
I was so miserable that I had to be forced to help her pay off the debt and watch her to prevent her from gambling again. Hey, this kind of life is too bitter.
Zhou Hua (pseudonym, male, married to lover for 1 year)
My ex-wife is a classmate of my university, and two of them entered into marriage from campus together.
In fact, our marriage is very happy. My ex-wife is gentle and courteous, has means and emotional intelligence, has developed better at work than me, and has made greater contributions to running the family than me.
But I am always very sensitive, perhaps because of a man's self-esteem, or perhaps because of inferiority, I can't compare to her. I cheated on one of my female subordinates, and I got an unprecedented sense of superiority in her.
Her posture was so low that I couldn't bear to blame her. During the period of extramarital affairs, I often sigh,If my ex-wife treats me like her, I will definitely not cheat.
The good times did not last long. My cheating was quickly revealed. After a big quarrel with me, my ex-wife took the child and left me. I am honestly together and married with my lover.
After getting married, I found that the marriage with her was completely different from what I had imagined. She has a very low posture and poor ability. She is totally dependent on me. I am raising this family by myself, and the pressure is really great.
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Not only that, she always compares me with other people, saying that I am inferior to her friend’s husband or boyfriend, saying that she has paid a lot with me. Hey, I really make my own mind.
Message from the Weiqing Marriage Counselor:
The third party only participates in men's fun, but never participates in men's firewood.
During extramarital affairs, men feel that the third party is very good because the third party makes up for the lack of the original wife on the one hand. Once the extramarital affairs fall into reality, they will only be beaten by the ruthless life, and every day will be torment.
I hope everyone can cherish their marriage, cherish the present, and cherish their significant other.
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