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Zhang Ailing once said: "Meet the person you want to meet among tens of thousands of people, in tens of thousands of years, no time In the wilderness of Yai, there is no one step earlier or one late. It just happened to catch up."
Life and love are wonderful, people will use their own heart to pay for love, and they will also over time. Grinding and growing up in love, when a person accepts the baptism of life more deeply, the attitude towards love will be more transparent.
Some people say that people have seen the world in their middle age, and as their thoughts and minds mature, it is impossible to treat love as if they were impulsive in their youth.
People will experience and possess too many things in their lifetime. The romantic and sweetness of love may be precious compared to the reality of firewood, rice, oil and salt, but it is by no means the only one.
In the relationship between the sexes, the longer people get along with each other, the more the feelings of each other tend to be flat.
People will inevitably get used to their partner's kindness to themselves. If the other party has no bottom line to pay, it is easy to develop the other half into a natural enjoyment.
Therefore, if a woman wants to keep a middle-aged man's heart, she does not need to be too good to him. The key is to understand the essential needs of men.
Someone asked: "If you love someone, don’t you do your best to treat him well?"
People will involuntarily treat their loved ones well. However, people must also learn to give their own love correctly, and remember to love someone blindly, ruining their own happy life.
Love is like a small boat. Men and women are people who cross the river by boat. Only two people can paddle together and move in the same direction, so that people will not deviate from the track and will not be due to lack of strength. And give up halfway.
If you want to hold the middle-aged man's heart, it is not enough to be good to him. He does not need this. A woman in love knows the following three points, so that she will not let her true heart and soul be ruined in vain.
01: A woman’s moderate love can make a man learn to cherish it
Xu Ning has a crush on and Xu Kai for many years. The two have been childhood sweethearts since childhood. The feelings for Xu Ning should be deeper than those of others, but this is not the case.
Xu Ning looks outstanding in appearance and family, but she has always followed Xu Kai as a suitor, whether on campus or in society.
Even if the two finally achieved a positive result, Xu Kai was always very plain to the wife of the family, as if he married a daughter-in-law to his parents, but did not give his wife love and happiness.
As the two grow older, they have a more transparent attitude towards love, and they run their lives in a tacit understanding of each other. When they are busy at work, they are strangers under the same roof.
Substantive marriage is like a fake, it is the greatest sadness of love.
It was mentioned in psychology that love requires passion, and the two collided with the spark of love in order to walk through the storms of life together as a matter of course.
In love, instead of paying silently behind the man, it is better for a woman to stay away from him, so that the other person has a sense of urgency and desire to conquer.
Perhaps, some people think that this is a scheming in love, but clever and careful thinking can warm up mutual feelings.
If two people communicate with each other with sincerity, it's okay to use a little bit of careful thinking occasionally.
has seen Jin Yong's " Flying Fox Gaiden", the heroine Cheng Suling in the book is as stunning as she has no appearance, nor is she an ordinary person. Pleasant personality, but also closer to us ordinary people.
Cheng Suling, an ordinary girl, fell in love with the chivalrous and tender Hu Fei .
For this, she tried her best to give all her love.
she willingly followed him on the rivers and lakes, exhausted her efforts to treat him the poison of iron palm , and even died for him to transfer the poison of the world.
However, the man Cheng Suling loves with his life still doesn't love her. Obviously it was Hu Fei who asked her to treat the patient, but he suspected that she was secretly injuring the patient and threw her sincerity to the ground.
Cheng Suling could have gone away,No one would accuse her of being ruthless, but she still tried her best to save Hu Fei's friend, and she couldn't even bear to say a sentence or question.
Her love is too forbearing, so Hu Fei does not know how to cherish.
Love is too late. Only when a woman knows a moderate lover will someone put you in her heart.
Mo Yan warned the world in " Sandalwood Punishment": "This world is the most taboo to complete, just like the moon, once it is complete, you will lose money." _p6p140p 02: Love needs space, women should let go, but men will love you more Remember the in the TV series " thirty only " Gu Jia? She and her husband envied others in the early stage of their marriage. They were loving, successful in their careers, and smart in their sons. Gu Jia can be said to have embarked on the pinnacle of happiness in life. Gu Jia did a lot for this. She exhausted her youth to accompany her husband to work hard together. Later, she gave up work for the family. Not only did she keep the family in order, but your children were very sensible. However, the husband's change of heart still broke the happiness of the family. After Gu Jia discovered her husband’s betrayal, the other party actually tried to blame her on her. In the eyes of her husband, if it weren’t because she was too strong,If he can't breathe, he can't stand the temptation of the outside world.
Men’s excuses are certainly spurned, but they also remind everyone: love and marriage need space, and men’s nature desires freedom. If you feel suffocated and stressed for a long time in your relationship Easy to change the original intention.
Just as Lawrence wrote in his book " Sons and Lovers": "Love should give people a sense of freedom, not a sense of imprisonment."
women are willing to give men appropriate women. Freedom will allow the two people's love to grow space.
In other words, if a man needs a woman's constant supervision, it also shows that there is a huge problem with each other's relationship.
True love is not about tying the other person firmly to your side, but even if you let the other person leave, he will accompany you willingly.
03: A man who knows how to make himself a good woman will love you more
Knowing There is a high-viewing question: "How to make a boy love you more?"
has one answer that has received many praises: "If a woman wants a man to love you more, she must first learn to love herself."
We empathize in love. If your husband is getting better and better, you Will you be proud of your heart and like him more?
Women can’t always hold a man’s heart,But women who can control their actions and earnestly make themselves excellent are not only more attractive, but also have a clearer understanding of themselves.
The process of women making themselves outstanding is to accumulate a little bit of their own charm, so that men are always full of surprises, and at the same time they are full of confidence.
The essence of love is to make oneself happy. I hope that women will not give up on the last but also love themselves while loving others.
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