The ancients said: Ask what love in the world is, and teach life and death.
In the face of a good relationship, people are always prone to impulse.
Especially for young girls, it’s easy to take the sweet words that a man makes without care, and even ignore it for the sake of this feeling.
In the first episode of "Defense of Love", a 23-year-old girl had such a "princess dream".
One year of love, a quick flash marriage, or a naked marriage.
Only after getting married did I realize that everything has changed. It was not the life I wanted, and I even felt that my husband cheated on myself.
Husband boasted about his life of "you can win while lying down", but he didn't realize it.
Childbirth, child-bearing, and some trivial quarrels in life,
made the two people fall into a serious emotional crisis, even the girl quarreled about to divorce, and felt unable to live.
Faced with such a situation, I have to say that flash marriages and naked marriages are emotionally dangerous.
First: The emotional foundation is not strong
In the relationship between men and women, women choose flash marriage and nude marriage, which can be said to be very brave and courageous.
But without full assurance, this is also taking risks with one's own future!
When two people are not familiar enough, not understanding enough, and not understanding enough.
The emotional foundation will appear very weak and weak.
Once there is a problem after marriage, it is easy to break the original beauty, or even wear it out.
When two people get along, only quarrels, complaints, anger, anger, and sullenness are left.
You can imagine how bad such a day would be.
and form a huge gap with the imaginary happy marriage, which is totally unacceptable from the heart.
In short, if the emotional foundation is not strong, it is difficult for dreams to last.
Second: There is grievance in the heart
In real life, many people like to express their sincere feelings by sacrifice.
This is the case when women choose naked marriages and flash marriages.
Moreover, it is easy to be moved by one's own great behavior, and feel that they don't want to do anything about the other party, but only because they love him.
But many times, the more you sacrifice, the deeper your grievances will be in the future.
And this kind of grievance is not given by the other party, but the "thunder" I planted for myself
Once the other party treats you well, it does not reach what you imagined Those standards and requirements will explode selectively.
As everyone knows, the cause you plant will bear the fruit of the future.
Unless, your mentality can really be very peaceful, instead of rewarding with high standards in the future.
It’s just that there are very few women who can achieve a balanced mindset and a lofty state.
After all, being young has determined that the relationship will not be too mature.
Third: Differences in Marriage Perceptions
In male and female relationships, women’s flash marriages and naked marriages are prone to differences in marital cognition.
And this difference is caused by the lack of women's own cognition.
For example, the 23-year-old girl in the flash marriage naked marriage in the show thought that through marriage, she could make herself happier and live comfortably.
Just like the emotion expert said, dreaming of a young grandmother’s dream,Yilai stretches out his hand to open his mouth and lay down to win.
But reality will tell you that this perception is wrong.
makes you understand how naive and ridiculous the idea of trying to use marriage to change your life state.
Everything depends on oneself, not relying on others to obtain the so-called happiness, that is unreliable.
If you cannot correctly realize that marriage is a matter of two people, it requires the joint efforts and support of both parties.
Then, such a lack of cognition will cause more and more complaints and dislikes.
Even, all the problems are blamed on men, and there is no love and tolerance for men at all.
Fourth: Pursuit of life
In "The Defense of Love", many emotional experts often say such a sentence, asking yourself what you want and pursue What is your life. Actually, this is very important.
If you don't know what you really want in your heart, then the two people's life will become very bad, or even divergent and eccentric.
If two people are not the same, but come together, then the twisted melon will not be sweet.
Decent separation is not a sensible choice.
And women who are in flash marriages and naked marriages often have such problems. Women want to live, and the life that men want is not the same.
One is thinking about playing, coveting pleasure. One is thinking about working hard to make money and start a career. One was thinking about studying actively, while the other was eating and waiting to die.
As you can imagine, how can there be no contradictions and conflicts.
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