Yesterday, a guy from Xiaoshan posted a post on Xiaonei.com App for help:
When will parents know that they will not interfere with their children's family life with their superstitions?
My wife thinks that my parents are superstitious, why do they even care about our new house? After being talked about by them many times, my wife's affection towards my parents is getting less and less.
I have communicated with them many times, but the older generation is stubborn and the effect is minimal.
I always have a cold war or quarrel with my wife on this matter. I am caught in the middle, and I really have depression...
"Every day of superstition, I have to come to our new home to burn incense and paper"
post sparked heated discussion. Many netizens in the comment area said that they also encountered similar problems with the guy.
Netizen @洋辣毛: When I bought a commercial house and moved in, I was already accommodating the superstitious behavior of my in-laws. I woke up in the middle of the night and came to Xiaoshan from the countryside because there are hours when I enter the house. In the countryside, we have promised not to burn ingots and silver ingots when we enter the house. But when we enter the house and ask the Bodhisattva to fix it, my mother-in-law took out a bunch of ingots. My husband told her not to burn the ingots. My father-in-law took my husband. The mother-in-law said it didn’t matter. Just put the black smoke in the room.
Netizen @ has been changing his name: My husband is from the in-laws' side. I will say to me if I don't participate. I really just walked away without seeing it.
Netizen @總多哒猪猪女孩: Young people don't like superstition. I am unhappy when I watch my mother and grandmother make this kind of silver ingots.
Netizen @双眼皮: The same goes for my mother-in-law. It won’t work at all. It’s not enough to burn it downstairs, saying that the Bodhisattva can’t be found. Now they have gone to live in their own house and have invited all their ancestors over.
Netizen @Anonymous: My mother-in-law told me not to go to the hospital when I was just pregnant and had an injection.
Some netizens believe that parents should not impose these ideas and practices on their children.
Netizen @Anonymous: This is really too much. You can believe it whatever you want, but you can't force others to believe it.
Netizen @默默无语: I am also a mother-in-law,I also do some superstitious things accidentally, but my idea is that in the future, the children will have their own small family and live separately, and I will leave the superstitious things alone. Believe it or not, let them handle it by themselves. I can only support silently from behind.
What can I do if I encounter this kind of problem?
Netizens in the comment area gave a lot of suggestions. In addition to explicitly refusing to express their attitude, they can also find "foreign aid" to let parents know the consequences in case of an accident.
Some netizens said that as an intermediary, the host must coordinate the two sides. "While coaxing my wife and coaxing my mother, Shinobi will pass."
Netizen @Anonymous: Can't you just refuse? Sometimes it should be noisy or noisy, otherwise your parents don't know that you are very opposed to it. If you don't make it clear, your parents think you can do it.
Netizen @Anonymous: This kind of thing is really bad, it's a matter of belief, the old man feels that his son's business is his own business, and accidentally forced his son's family to engage in superstition! As an intermediary, you must coordinate the two sides and not tilt, such as asking your parents not to burn at home, but to burn outside.
Netizen @Anonymous: Before your parents burn it, ask them a question: If you burn ingots at home, if you catch fire, whether there is money to pay for the neighbors, or even lives.
Netizen @西呱3 years old: You just said that the property regulations here cannot burn paper, or you will be fined and detained.
Netizen @樂哥哥: In such days, if you have time, the best way to get them out to play, play from morning to midnight, and after the time has passed, there is no way to make up.
Netizen @你吃香菜吗: Tell your parents that it’s enough to ask for a new house once. It’s still a family. Usually, I invite you in the old house. When we worship, let’s talk about our new house and invite us in. My mother-in-law is I think it's good to do this, and understand each other.
Netizen @ Anonymous: I just said that this thing is poisonous. If it burns too much, it will be bad for the body. It will stay on the furniture at home. Even if it is an adult, there will be children in the future. Inhalation will affect the intelligence. As for what is placed, you can take a step back and don't burn it.
Source: Xiao intranet Xiaoshan Forum
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