People’s hearts are “greedy”, no one hopes that their efforts will be fruitless. Those so-called loves that don’t care about the results are actually just a means to win the favor of the other party, not sincere.
People who fall in love all hope to get a response, otherwise there will not be so much sadness and frustration. Even women will take that step bravely under the instigation of desire.
As in "Mother-in-law's Bracelet", when Shi Zhouxin found out that she liked Maitong, she always hesitated, not knowing whether she wanted to take a step forward.
It seems that Liu Yin's encouragement gave her the courage, but in fact, without Liu Yin, Shi Zhouxin would not have kept this love in her heart.
Just before every confession, everyone needs to determine whether the other party is also interested in themselves. If there is really no sign of love, no one will take this step rashly.
Don't be greedy for meaningless people or things. How can you free your hands with trash to receive gifts , so if the other party really doesn't have himself in his heart, there is no need to continue.
And between men and women, to judge whether a person loves you, look at these three places.
1. Eyes
Eyes are the windows of the soul. Just look at what a person's heart thinks.
Often when we judge whether a TV series is good-looking, in addition to the plot and service, the most important thing is the acting skills of the actors, and the performance of the acting is mainly in the eyes.
sad, happy, sad, desperate, etc.,The expression of these emotions is not just words and sentences. If an actor does not have these emotions in his eyes, all the lines will appear pale and weak, without the slightest persuasiveness.
Because in their hearts, they have not substituted themselves into this character, so they cannot express the emotions that the character needs.
Transition into life, whether or not a person loves you can be deeply felt in their eyes.
Whether they look at you with appreciation, goodwill, and a touch of joy, occasionally there may be excitement, overwhelming, expectation and sadness.
Different scenes will have different eyes, for example, after you refuse their invitation, although on the surface it doesn't matter, your eyes will reveal disappointment.
For another example, if you go out to play together, you accidentally have physical contact, and their eyes will be excited and at a loss. The expressions of these emotions are often revealed in their eyes.
2, tolerance
Many people think that as long as two people have established a relationship, it means that the relationship is stable. In fact, this idea is very wrong.
For some people, love is just a spice in life. They accept you, and it means that they really love you, but they hold "I am idle anyway, and do not hate you," Then try it out.
A relationship without true love is prone to problems. People who love you are afraid of not giving you enough. People who do not love you are afraid that you will ask too much.
so they will appropriately make some concessions and tolerance,But this kind of degree is often controlled so as not to affect their own interests. Once they touch this red line, they will immediately jump up and oppose it.
Being with such a person is very tiring. Either you have no bottom line to change yourself, cater to the other person, match his three views and preferences, or you can only watch the "love" in the long cold war. Little bit of withering but helpless.
People who do not love you, but tolerate all your shortcomings. For them, shortcomings are only shortcomings and must be changed. Those who love you will see you behind these shortcomings Lovely place, will try to accept and tolerate such imperfect you.
3. Future
There is a feeling that you think you have truly integrated into each other’s life. His friends and family all know your existence, even you A few words can be chatted occasionally.
Do you think this should be stable? It's pretty reliable. After all, if the other party doesn't love you, they won't bring you into his life circle at all.
But maybe it's just that you have mistaken the boundaries and completely excludes you from people outside of your life circle. Not only does not love you, but also just treats you as a spare tire and is always ready to kick it away.
And the person who allows you to integrate into your own life circle may not really love you, because there are such people whose boundaries are not obvious, and do not mind that frequent changes of lovers will bring How to avoid the influence.
If you really want to determine whether the other person loves you, it depends on whether he plans you into his own future. For those who do not love you, their future must have nothing to do with you, but those who love you , No matter whether you are together or not, he hopes that his future will have your participation.
In the adult world,There is a hidden rule: not taking the initiative is the answer, and not responding is equal to rejection.
So many times, when we are on the verge of love and do not know how to move forward, we might as well start from these aspects.
If the other person really loves you, he will definitely tell you the answer with his own actions. It's not wrong!
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