In " my first half of my life ", Luo Zijun 's ex-husband Chen Junsheng cheated on Ling Ling because of his office romance, leading to divorce.
Office romance, because of the long-term love; because there is a common language at work; and because when working together successfully, excitement makes people's adrenaline soar, etc., people can't tell whether they are in love or not.
This is not clear at first, but people still have to be clear about the boundaries.
Office people should be clear about the boundaries
1. Office romance, whether or not Ta has a family is very important
Attracting each other, gradually discovering that there are more and more shining points on each other's body, and falling in love is also a matter of course; the relationship between two people gradually deepens, and it is natural to talk about marriage. Such a happy event will be blessed by everyone.
If one or both of you have a family, you need to balance the relationship at work and clear the boundaries between the two.
All romances that destroy marriages are affair, and the ending is often unfortunate, even tragic.
Xiao Yin is a civil servant who does financial work. Her ex-husband likes playing poker machines. She refused to listen and the two divorced.
Self-confident Xiao Yin, who thinks that there are many outstanding men in government agencies, she can effortlessly seduce a husband, whether he is married or not, she has this confidence.
She pays attention to the men who come to pay for reimbursement or deal with official duties,After careful selection for a period of time, three men were targeted. One is a single Xiao Wang, and the other two have families.
She starts with and . Every time Xiao Wang came to fill out the reimbursement form, she would chat with him in a gentle manner for a while. It's a pity that Xiao Wang is a straight man, puzzled by style, and answered her words blankly, always leaving in a hurry.
She turned her target to Xiao Huo again. Not only is he handsome, he is well-measured, and he has no children after marriage. Every time Xiao Huo was reimbursed, Xiao Yin would greet him, take his bill, help him paste it, and move closer to him intentionally or unintentionally.
Since then, Xiao Huo no longer comes to the finance office by himself, and sometimes asks others to handle the financial procedures in person. He will take the person in the office to handle the financial procedures together, which makes Xiao Yin very annoyed.
Xiao Yin again targets Xiao Pan. Xiao Pan and his wife have a good relationship and have a daughter. He has a good relationship with others, is very kind to everyone, and is almost responsive to requests.
Xiao Yin tried his best, but Xiao Pan always refused to come, and soon the two hooked up. Dating with Xiao Yin after get off work, Xiao Pan used his work unit to meet or work overtime as an excuse to perfuse his wife.
At that time, such things were rare in government agencies, and it didn't take long before there were gossips. Xiao Yin threatened Xiao Pan and asked him to divorce and marry himself.
Xiao Pan weighed the pros and cons. Only if he divorces and marries Xiao Yin, his job can be kept, so it is not a matter of style. So he and his wife had a showdown, and his wife left with his daughter, and he married Xiao Yin home.
Things seem to have been resolved, but in fact, the bigger trouble lies behind. After Xiao Yin and Xiao Pan got married, they became pregnant within half a year and later gave birth to a son. The child was not full moon yet, and she accidentally discovered that Xiao Pan had a 6-month illegitimate child outside. She was about to collapse, she cried and made a lot of noise at home, on the day of the child's full moon,She cleaned up and found the unit leader, and sternly lodged a complaint with Xiao Pan.
Since then, Xiao Yin has guarded against Xiao Pan strictly. Except for the eight hours at work, all of Xiao Pan's meetings and overtime will make Xiao Yin suspect that he is going on a date with someone else.
She even cut and stabbed Xiao Pan with sharp tools such as knives and scissors. Xiao Pan was in fear when he was at home, but he was not at home when he went to work.
Fortunately, such days did not last long. Because Xiao Pan was seriously overborn (1 daughter, 2 sons), he was expelled from public office. After that, Xiao Pan disappeared, and Xiao Yin didn't know where he went.
Xiao Yin was also transferred to the bank after her maternity leave expired because of her own work. She can only take the children by herself and live the life of a single mother.
The path of life is to walk step by step, and every step counts.
2. Different levels of office romance
Not all romances are sincere. The superior fell in love with the subordinate, either because he was young and innocent, or because he worked hard. The subordinate fell in love with the superior, and the situation was relatively complicated.
In "The First Half of My Life", Ling Ling is Chen Junsheng's subordinate. She has a bad relationship with her husband, and she has a son, Jiaqing. Chen Junsheng and his wife Luo Zijun also have a son, and their relationship is very good. Chen Junsheng is a model husband with a high salary, and he can completely let his wife and children live a life of worry-free food and clothing.
Luo Zijun Ling Ling
Ling Ling at work, besides doing her job carefully, she also thoughtfully helped her boss Chen Junsheng. She used to classify all the messy and chaotic files into categories; she carefully distinguished the folders with different colors and colored sticky notes.
She will stay in the company very late, and take the initiative to care about Chen Junsheng to attract his attention. She is very concerned about Chen Junsheng.
She used diligence and thoughtfulness to make Chen Junsheng look at her differently, and then she moved him with tenderness and virtuousness.
Gradually, Chen Junsheng felt the difference of this female subordinate-when he was unable to do anything about work, only Ling Ling could understand him; when he felt the pressure of work, only Ling Ling understood him. These were things he couldn't get from his carefree wife.
The scheming Ling Ling did not rush to implement her plan. When Chen Junsheng and her relationship developed further, she and her husband divorced. But she never complained about Chen Junsheng, which in particular made him feel guilty and felt that he should be held accountable to her.
Later, Chen Junsheng and Luo Zijun divorced, and his son Ping'er was sentenced to Zijun. Chen Junsheng and Ling Ling got married. After that, Ling Ling's thoughts and practices made Chen Junsheng finally understand that she was wearing a gentle mask and under the banner of love, just to find a golden backer for herself and her son.
Once, Ping'er had a fever, and Chen Junsheng wanted to take his son home for one night so that his grandparents could take care of him. However, Ling Ling said that this would be very troublesome and the cold is contagious.
Also enrolled two children for the summer camp. Ling Ling reported 50,000 yuan to her son Jiaqing for the US summer camp, and 8,000 yuan to Ping'er for the local summer camp.
When Chen Junsheng hugged Ping'er, Ling Ling retorted that going to the U.S. summer camp had to go through visa procedures and other work. These things need to be prepared from the beginning of the year. Ping'er had not come to live with Chen Junsheng. .
If you want to blame, you can't blame others, you can only blame Chen Junsheng for these things. They are all grown-ups, and I don't think about it well, I just want the happiness in front of me, regretting that I can't buy the medicine.
Ling Ling with scheming
There is another saying that says well: "The little three I found,I have to live on my knees.
3. Office romances have an impact on the entire office environment
You must be cautious when you develop your colleagues into lovers-this is not right or wrong, but you have to bear the consequences.
This is an example that happened in a foreign country. Because of the analysis of the psychologist, everyone can understand everyone’s thoughts. Office romances, be cautious
In an accounting firm, the relationship between Zoe and her husband was at odds, and his colleague Kaleb often cared about her. Zoe slowly shifted his emotional focus to work and became less and less concerned about family matters.
She even more Frequent overtime work, and when there is no need to work overtime, she is not in a hurry to go home. She will regularly "drink a drink" party with all her colleagues, which has basically formed a routine. Don’t ask. She and Caleb are getting closer and closer, and colleagues can see that they all hope they can be a couple.
Later, Zoe and her husband went through the divorce procedures, and she thought she It is possible to marry Caleb, after all, he hasn't gotten married yet.
What makes Zoe strange is that Caleb pulls away quickly, and it flashes so fast that Zoe can hardly see his people.
Zoe is very depressed, she does not know why this is the case. The colleagues are also very weak, they talked about it, blackened the matter, and rumors spread.
Zoe had to go for psychological consultation, She was at a loss, but the counselor gave the answer.
Caleb is a man with flowers and grass. He has targeted a married woman, because as long as she has a husband, he doesn't have to promise, and of course he doesn't need to be responsible.
Colleagues feel excited when they discover that there is a budding relationship; when the relationship fails, they feel disappointed; then they have a sense of shame, which spreads this sense of shame everywhere.
After Zoe experienced this, the weekly "drink" gathering among colleagues also lost popularity. She was confused and embarrassed, and finally she had to leave.
When Zoe’s husband and wife have relationship problems, she should be actively sorting out and resolving family conflicts, but she uses more work to escape. This is not the way, but the family will be disintegrated. When Zoe was emotionally fragile, Caleb took advantage of it; because Zoe had no clear boundaries, he had the opportunity to take advantage of it.
So, don't want to let the workplace meet all our needs.
is written at the end:
Colleagues in the office can have a harmonious atmosphere, a tacit cooperation, a joke in the circle, and a clear boundary; There can be no ambiguity, let alone an extramarital affair, otherwise the consequences will be serious.
The same sentence: "To develop a colleague into a lover, be careful!"
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