Raise a child to guard against the youngest?

How did you write such a topic today?

Because I got together with relatives in Shenzhen in the past two days. They are a pair of elderly people.

When I first arrived in Shenzhen, I lived relatively close, and I would often go there for a meal or something. Ten years ago, I went to their house for dinner. A family of four, 2 elderly people and 2 sons enjoyed it.

Later, I came to Bao'an, and I only saw one or two times a year.

They came to Shenzhen about 30 years ago, but they didn't make a fortune because they were in public offices.

Although he didn't make a fortune, he still has 3 houses. As of today, it is conservatively estimated to be around 25 million.

There are a bunch of elderly people who are now 70+. It should be reasonable to enjoy their old age and enjoy the sunset red of life. For example, traveling, dancing in the square, playing chess all right, a peaceful atmosphere.

However, I learned from the chat that they are about to move to Huizhou, and bought a suite there for two people to live in.

It sounds like buying a house is a good thing, but how big is the gap?

The house they live in now is about 100,000 square meters, while the one they bought in Huizhou is less than 10,000.

Others do not need to be explained. Just imagine how remote a house is less than 10,000, how remote and how poorly equipped it is.

Why?

Because the small family of the two sons is not willing to live with them anymore.

Of course, it mainly means daughter-in-law.

I heard that I was actually very angry, but I couldn't express myself.

Because of the three houses of the old man, one son is divided into one and he lives with his wife and children.

The last set was sold to two sons a few years ago.

is the hands of two elderly people,There is neither a house in Shenzhen nor the money to afford a house in Shenzhen now.

A pair of Shenzhen pioneers who have been in the city for 30 years. The 70-year-old can only retreat to Huizhou, which is more than 2 hours away from Shenzhen City, to spend their old age. The key is that there are no friends or relatives there. It is entirely because of the rest. Money is only enough to buy a house over there.

gave birth to 2 sons, both of whom are very ordinary wage earners. A few years ago, I heard that the monthly salary was less than 10,000 yuan. Now I don’t know how much, but it is obvious that I will never be able to buy a house in Nanshan, Shenzhen. For the money, now my parents have prepared houses for both of them, and finally they are instigated by their daughter-in-law to drive them away. It's not a damn thing.

I was suffocated at the time, and I had nowhere to vent.

The so-called raising children to guard against the elderly, I also raised 2 of them. As a result, the elderly have not started to guard against them, and the daughter-in-law can no longer prevent them.

Therefore, I still believe that there must be no harm to others, and a defensive heart.

Even his own son is unreliable, let alone others.

So why can a daughter-in-law do so wonderfully? It's entirely because the family-in-law and mother-in-law are just a burden to her. If this burden is of use value, it can still be kept. Unfortunately, none of the three most valuable houses are in the hands of the elderly.

Even if you leave one set for yourself, whoever treats me nicely in the future, I will transfer it to someone else, and the house cannot be taken away anyway. If this is the case, it is at least several million in assets. If you don’t look at the Buddha’s face, you also look at the money. Pretending to be good to the elderly, the last ten or eight years is equivalent to the exchange of hundreds of thousands of assets a year. It is also happy. .

Unfortunately, the old man thinks that he is good to his son and daughter-in-law, and the other party will treat them well. Unfortunately, this is not the case.

This thing makes me feel more deeply, there is no use value, others will not look at you righteously.Even the relationship between the son and the father. If you want the world to be good to you, you have to be valuable to the world, and if you want someone to be good to you, then you have to be valuable to that person.

This world is not necessarily 100% equivalent exchange, but when value exchange can be done, don't easily expect feelings to become value maximization.

Fortunately, the elderly have a pension, which is enough for daily life.

If you rely on these two sons to support you, it is estimated that there will only be enough pickles and white porridge.

Even if a man doesn’t have the ability to make a lot of money, he doesn’t even have basic filial piety. Such a person will not have a good life, live in a house saved by his parents for a lifetime, and then drive his parents out. People, I don’t want to be a relative, let alone a friend.

Finally, I deeply realized that raising a child cannot prevent old age. Only the money in your pocket can prevent old age.

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