"Love yourself, and marry everyone is the same" I am very interested when I see the title of the book. It is right to love myself. But marrying is the same with anyone, so how can it be the same? You marry a person with different perspectives, and marry a person with the same hobbies and cognitions, it must be different!
When I didn't open this book to read, I thought it was telling us how to do it better. After reading it, I discovered that it is a book about analyzing marriage from a psychological perspective. I read two chapters of this book and talk about my thoughts!
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The author takes his own marriage as an example, tells us that 70% of marriages do not need to be divorced, adjust your own state, accept yourself, and show your truest self with your partner, and the two are open Heart, you can also control your own happiness!
When I was about to enter the palace of marriage, I believed that the moment was very sweet, even full of expectations, looking forward to the life after marriage. But with the passage of time, quarrels, cold violence, and mutual disgust gradually grew. The life’s riches and oils made both parties impatient, even unwilling to go home, and didn’t want to see each other!
This is the common imagination of marriage nowadays. What I remember most is a sentence in the book:
When marriage is stranded and the atmosphere is indifferent, when the heart is full of anger, when each other hates and hates each other, it happens to be a turning point in marriage. .
is really a turnaround? For those who, despite constant quarrels and many contradictions, still love each other deeply, it is a pity to let go, and regret to leave, perhaps it is a turning point.
But for those who have completely lost their expectations of the other party, or even cheated or betrayed, will it be a turning point? The book tells us that it will have a turning point.
Maybe what you didn't expect can be transformed into expectation, and those who give up can rekindle, let alone a small expectation! But betrayal and derailment, maybe there is a turning point!
After all, there is such an example by my side. I have a friend whose husband cheated, and she immediately filed for divorce. There was also a friend whose husband cheated, who was very serious, and brought home in front of her. Just like acting in an idol drama,The two of them knelt down and begged my friend to make them both, and I was angry at listening.
Although the two were separated for a while, but something happened in the middle, the man came back again, and he did not leave, my friend forgave him. The two have a good relationship now, and they are together wherever they go. It seems that what happened has been forgotten.
You see, this is also possible for the better. The key is what we think in our hearts and how we choose. Anyway, if it were me, I couldn't be together again without distracting thoughts.
This thing is also divided into people. Perhaps we have also thought about living a good life, for the sake of our children, but the reality is really frustrating. How sweet it is at the beginning, and how bitter it is later. I understand that everyone knows how to live. At the age of 20, I want to get married, and at the age of 30 I want to get a divorce.
We could have left, far away from everything, alone, but for various reasons, we have to stop and take care of all of this. We look forward to getting rid of all the shackles, but reality often cannot. We only have Play the existing role and continue to work hard to live.
Have you ever thought about changing one? Didn’t you say everything, the next one will be better? The book tells us: If you don't change yourself, it will still be the same if you change your partner.
You think he is not what I hope, but when the prince or princess in our dream appears the prototype of the frog, we should feel lucky. After all, the real princess or prince will not be interested in our ordinary frogs.
The real prince is not interested in us ordinary people, there are exceptions, no real prince can not be found, just find an ordinary prince!
Have a happy smile, but still have to improve yourself!
There is a sentence in the book that touches me!
We must have the courage to face our own nature, treat our own shortcomings honestly, never wrong ourselves, do not practice ourselves, and we must never do anything that can endanger our beliefs, personality and personal happiness.
This sentence touches me very much. It’s the first time to be a human being. Don’t feel wronged.But in life, many people feel wronged. Learn to love yourself more, and learn to let go when something needs to be given up.
These are just some thoughts after reading two chapters, this is a good book. The author uses his own marriage as an example to tell us how to resolve the small crisis in marriage. Friends who are in a confused period of marriage can read it, and there will be different gains!
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