"Marriage is a bridge. When you walk on the bridge with each other, you are young; when you walk on the bridge holding hands, you are middle-aged. When you walk down the bridge, you are old."
People can truly walk this way hand in hand with that person. Some people get separated without knowing it, and some people become strangers as they walk. The bridge head is holding his hand, but when they are on the bridge Raised someone else's hand.
Marriage is not easy. This requires two people to work together and go down firmly, otherwise problems are prone to occur.
When people reach middle age, emotional relationships will experience a period of fatigue. In a divorce relationship survey report, it was found that the high divorce rate of couples will occur in the first three years of marriage between newlyweds and middle-aged couples.
The former is because there were a lot of contradictions during the running-in period, and the two were not resolved in time. The latter is because they touched the emotional foundation. The two acted as perfect couples outside, but they returned home like strangers, typical
once met such a female reader. She and her husband have been married for 25 years, and the husband insisted on making peace. She was divorced. At that time, both children were in college. She was afraid of disturbing the children. No one said anything.
She saw that he was so determined to get a divorce, and her heart died. The house belonged to her and the children were raised together. She did not understand why the good home was so scattered. She also asked him why, and he was indifferent. She told her: "No feelings anymore."
In the days of divorce, she was particularly distressed, and she often came to me for psychological counseling. She was always thinking about what went wrong, until this spring, she saw it Her ex-husband and a lady went shopping hand in hand, and she knew it all in her heart.
After several inquiries, she learned that her ex-husband’s girlfriend and him are colleagues. The two have known each other a long time ago. The woman is 43 years old this year and lives with a young daughter.
Later, she often met her ex-husband and her, she said: “I can see that her ex-husband likes her very much.They held hands wherever they walked, and she would bend down to help him wipe his dirty leather shoes, which I had never done for him.
This lady is a person who is not good at expressing. Over the years, she has worked very hard to take care of a large family. She is busy every day. She gives her whole youth and all her energy to this family. I didn’t expect the final result to be like this.
After entering middle age, the responsibilities and pressure on both spouses gradually increased. While living together, they neglected intimacy. Many couples did not embrace for a long time. There will be no close contact.
Some middle-aged female readers often ask me: Why is my husband so cold to her and why the relationship between two people is always cold?
What I want to say is, maybe if you know If you hug more men, the temperature between you may become warmer.
Alternatives to intimacy
In the world of middle-aged people, we may become more nervous. And loneliness, and the lover has become the existence where we are looking for love.
If one party gets indifference in the other party and cannot be satisfied with the need for love, then the individual will fall into a kind of predicament and lose the right The basic belief in physical contact.
Every man has a small child in his heart. After entering middle age, a man’s desire for love will not decrease, and the more lonely he is, the more he desires to be loved and embraced.
If a woman doesn’t know how to give a man a warm hug, or if she doesn’t know how to give a man love, then he will feel more lonely in this relationship, so he will look for other substitutes in the intimate relationship. It will also empathize and fall in love.
The act of hugging is actually very simple, but for many middle-aged couples, either they feel shy and difficult to make such an intimate behavior, or Just refuse to hug each other.
A smart woman knows how to give her husband a big hug when he is at work. In this hug, it is love or concern.There is hope.
When a man encounters Waterloo in life, what a woman has to do is not to chatter, nor to judge him, but to give him a warm hug, because when he is fragile, what he needs is yours. Companionship and love.
Shakespeare said: "Once love is satisfied, his charm will disappear."
There is a distance between people, and the distance between lovers can be infinitely widened. Being close is because two people are very close in physical distance. Once the physical distance is no longer close, the psychological distance will naturally become apart.
Smart women like to hug men more often, and it is difficult for them to hug each other again.
We will find that sometimes very simple problems, as long as both parties can simply hug, all negative emotions will be solved.
Sardan once said: "The starting point of love is not necessarily the body, but when it comes to love, the body reaches its apex."
Hug is a way of expressing love, and it is the simplest romantic way of confession in a relationship between the sexes. When you hug, you feel each other's temperature, and you can really make the two hearts intertwined.
Reference materials: "Love Psychology", "Marriage Psychology"
Marriage Psychology"
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