How cool is it to fall in love with someone you "do not love"?

Recently, there is a very popular paragraph on Douyin:

with people you like, except for

, nothing goes well

with people you don’t like except for no heartbeat

Everything is easy

Dazai Osa - " Disqualification" There is a sentence in " disqualification ) There will be no grief to strike

If you choose to love violently and heartily

of course you will get an excessive amount of "love pleasure"

but

According to Marx's materialist dialectics

everything has two sides

while reaping "happiness"

will take a huge risk of "heartbreak"

if you are younger

I might be like span24 said:

Believe in love

Even if it brings you sorrow, still believe in love

But after experiencing

hangover after another

Mian

After the painful heartbreak_p 1p

I found

this kind of sorrow of "betrayed by the one I love deeply"

is far more painful than I thought

painful enough to fear and bear it I'm sorry

so now I

For love

I would rather not violently rejoice

I don't want grief to strike again

so I just want to follow "People you don’t love" fall in love

Fall in love with someone you don’t love

Don’t be careful about gains and losses

A recent college roommate finds me

says he has talked with his girlfriend for 5 years broke up,I am very surprised

because his pair used to be our full bedroom

recognized as the most beloved pair

The girl is a young school girl, looks very beautiful

My roommate does not look bad

is called a talented girl

and the roommate has a very good temper

is the kind of gentle type that hardly gets angry

is more for girlfriends Nothing to say

Get up and run two kilometers early in the winter to buy her breakfast

Holiday blessings, birthday surprises, beautiful clothes, cosmetics

I have never broken

And the rare thing is

His girlfriend is also good to him

There should be a lot too

At the graduation dinner

He still held her hand

In front of us, he said that he would get engaged when he graduated

Such a couple would break up

I did not expect it

I asked the reason for the breakup

He said: We both love too much

I laughed: too Can love also be a reason to break up?

only later learned that

his girlfriend was injured before

so in this relationship

always suffers from gains and losses

To get a sense of security by repeatedly pushing away the temptation

,So as long as

"she would break up when she quarreled"

But what she didn't consider was that

was injured before

plus he loved her very very much

is the same as her, He also suffers from gains and losses

breaks up again and again

stings his heart

Although he has been very cautious

, he still cannot change the status quo

"too tired" He said

German philosopher Oscar — Wilde once said

blockquote22 p1p There are only two tragedies that the world cannot want

The other is to get what you want

because you get what you want too much

and I always worry about how painful it will be after losing it

plus the already injured

"Taste this kind of pain"

so I am more afraid

emotional pendulum all day long

between the joy of getting love

and the pain of fear of losing love

Back and forth

is trapped in a vicious circle, unable to extricate itself

so if there is a little turmoil

, you will lose control of your emotions _ p1p

remember "under one person"

has a very interesting setting

said that people's emotions are like a steel wire

the ups and downs of emotions are like folding it back and forth

folds more times It will be broken if it is broken

and it will be broken if it is broken

Because I love it too much,So I am concerned about gains and losses

Because I am concerned about gains and losses, so all day emo

Because all days of emo, it is destined not to last long

Note: emo≈depression

Love

Don’t feel wronged to overpay yourself

The term “lick the dog” has become very popular recently

refers to the fact that you know that the other person doesn’t like yourself

but you still make persistent efforts

everyone is laughing" "Lick the dog"

But who has never been a "lick the dog"

In 1984, the writer Li Bihua described in

"Such a story like rouge

p0strong" 's top brand of leaning on the red mansion fell in love with the rich second generation

Of course, this forbidden love

was not allowed by the secular

so the two met to die Mingzhi

Unexpectedly In the wrong place

There is only one person who is like a flower, fragrant and disappears

50 years later, the flowery soul returns to the world

The rich second generation of Huaxin,But I failed her again

and finally disappeared in a light sigh

The flowery affection in the novel was disappointed again and again

even paid the price of his life

The price is not high

But the gain is betrayal

The pain in it may be the same as death

Because I love too much, I pay

because it has no effect, I feel that The other party still doesn’t love

, so I pay twice...

The originally fragile balance of love

just slowly tilted like this little by little

finally lost balance

and the balance fell and hurt_ p1p

is always just the person who pays

The cost of life has been paid in "Rouge Button"

, none of them can make anyone who does not love her change their minds

let alone us ordinary people

We love the sea

But we can't jump into the sea either

Be a little bit selfish

leave a way for yourself

When the sea disappears

follow this path back A safe place

start over

Lovers love seven points

The "no love" here is not not love

but moderate love

blockquote Shakespeare 22_24sp blockquote span span25span said that

only the love that is not too passionate can last.Too fast and too slow, the ending will not be satisfactory

Too hot love will make people lose their senses

trapped in the vortex of emotions and unable to extricate themselves

eventually destroys a book The beautiful love

Make a very vulgar analogy

Love is like sand in your hand

The tighter you hold it, the faster the sand will lose

you Try to loosen some, maybe you won’t lose so fast

So, find someone who loves seven points and leave some room

Use it to love yourself, love your family, and love those in life The wonderful

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