Before getting married, let yourself understand the truth

Reality is always crueler than vows. Before marriage, I didn't work hard to make a big difference. After marriage, I really have the ability and energy to water a bread tree with the sudden extra favors and old-age care after marriage?

Many unmarried unmarried men and women who are a little more realistic have positioned themselves to live in a state of no less than their pre-marital status. Maybe someone else thinks this is very material, without the pure appearance of love.

But I want to say that marriage is a thing that allows two people to cross the better. If one party is not as good as before because of marriage, what is the meaning of marriage?

The female protagonist Lin Pinru in "The Temptation of Going Home from ", her mother is a housekeeping cleaner, and her father is a resident singer, such an ordinary working-class daughter, but yin Married into a wealthy family by mistake.

This is probably what many girls dream of, but the reality does not want to show us the fairy tale that Cinderella married a prince and lived happily together. After 5 years of marrying into Hong's family, Lin Pinru became a full-time wife, or more precisely, a free nanny. After the marriage, her mother-in-law bullied her, and her husband ignored her, and finally ended the marriage with her girlfriend and husband both cheating.

So those who put all their minds on "getting out of the singles", please work hard to get yourself out of poverty first. Marriage is very fair. It does not need to balance revenue and expenditure to fulfill your greed. . Only when you are good enough and can match those who want to marry, then marriage will choose to nourish you and take care of you.

02: A long-lasting marriage is flawed;

Many people will ask: Can love last forever? The answer is yes, but it is not entirely correct. The golden married couple in "33 Days of Broken Love" tells us a reality: love can last forever with flaws.

Aunt Zhang, who is lying on the hospital bed in the play, said: Buying a refrigerator still has a three-year warranty. If you marry someone, you can still ask him to survive forever.

After knowing that her husband cheated,She bravely confronted another woman, and told the woman in a tactful but unrelenting manner: In her life experience, she will always be a disgraceful third party. In the end, the woman disappeared completely, and Aunt Liu stayed with her wife for many years.

People in today's society are more willing to believe that there are only zero and countless derailments. I don't want to argue for those who have cheated in marriage. I just want to tell everyone that there is no perfect marriage, and there is no flawless love.

Maybe your partner loves you very much, but he has a mean and mean parent; your family members are living in harmony, but your income can only maintain a well-off life and you cannot buy a car bungalow; your partner is considerate, you My boss has a small belly...

Marriage is like life, it's not like this, it's like that, in short it won't be what you think. All your selves, all your emotional cleanliness, all your arguments, and in the end, for the long-term marriage, you may have to learn to compromise.

03: Don’t use children to save the marriage

When you find that your child has a problem, I advise you: Don’t try to save the marriage.

Marriage has already had problems. The most important thing at the moment is to find out where the problems are, and try our best to save the marriage, instead of trying to cover up these problems with children. The more you try to cover up the problem, the more you can magnify the problem, as the old saying goes: After all, paper can’t contain fire.

And how innocent the child is, why should he become the victim of an unstable marriage. In the end, the partner who compromises because of the child will definitely be able to fulfill his responsibilities in the marriage?

I remember that in the divorce variety show "Goodbye Lover", there is an episode of Wang Qiuyu and Zhu Yaqiong,They couldn't remember the contradictions of quarrels and complaints, only the baby who had just learned to walk.

At the beginning, Zhu Yaqiong and Wang Qiuyu had divorced due to various reasons such as disagreements, but they opened the door to marriage again because of Zhu Yaqiong's unexpected pregnancy.

They all thought that their children would be a godsend opportunity to save this failed marriage. Finally, it was discovered that children are children and marriage is marriage. There are already problems in marriage that cannot be solved by having a child, and you are still "not the person I want."

Every child is a gift from God, and they are the crystallization of love. However, children do not have the right to choose their parents and family. Children born under the nourishment of love, they come into this world, and the malice they face is beyond our control.

You can not love, but please don't hurt, don't use your child as a means to achieve a certain purpose.

04: Marriage is a road that needs to travel together;

There is an old saying that "husbands and wives are of the same heart, and it will cut money." A happy family cannot rely solely on the contribution of one person. In the past, the "husband is responsible for making money and supporting the family, and the wife is responsible for the beautiful and beautiful" family survival model is no longer feasible in today's society.

In today's society, prices are soaring, and various pensions, medical and education expenses are also rising, but wages have been like a day for decades. It is too much pressure for one person to bear the burden of family finances. It takes both husband and wife to work together and work together to make life better.

Since I have chosen the other party to walk the road of life with myself,Then be better to each other, be more grateful, and be less as you should be, so that you can hold your hand and grow old with your son.

Marriage is not easy, and it should be done and cherished.