writer Thomas Hardy wrote in "Tess of the Durber House":
"The meaning of life is not about the changes in the outside world, but about the inner experience."
As the author said, Everyone has a life of extraordinary significance, a life intertwined with suffering and happiness, and years of love, family affection, and friendship.
Thomas Hardy described the two loves of and Tess in the book. There are two men who let Tess experience the joy of love, and both brought her a lot of hurt.
She is a simple and kind-hearted girl, but unfortunately because of being unfair to others, she was tainted at the age of blooming, causing her to fall into the abyss;
After the scars were finally wiped out by the years, her marriage life destroyed her again. Spiritual world.
The instinct to yearn for love contributed to Tess's brief happiness; the evil of human nature made her lose her life.
Throughout Tess's life, this is a girl whose life was ruined by love.
It can be seen that love is not all beautiful, because human nature is unfathomable, so before starting a relationship, you must first see the character of the other person. This kind of man cannot touch:
1. A Man Who Covets Women's Beauty and Body
In the book "Tess of the Durber House", Tess is a beautiful and innocent girl. When Yarek met her for the first time, he was attracted by her beauty.
So pretended to be kind enough to take her in to work in the chicken farm, and took the opportunity to approach Tess.
All the good things Yarek has to Tess are disguised. He has praised Tess' beauty more than once, always wanting to make her his own.
Tess, who is inexperienced in the world, simply thinks that this man just has a good impression of her, and doesn't have much guard.
Finally, one night, Tess was defiled by Yarek, and that night became the girl's nightmare in this life.
However, the pain did not stop. Later, Tess became pregnant and gave birth to Alek’s child, but unfortunately the child died.
A series of blows made Tess desperate, and at this time, the hateful Alek offered to support her again.
Pure Tess believed the man's lie again, and her life fell into a deeper quagmire again.
Looking at the origin of Tess's tragedy, it is because she believes in men too much.
A man who only covets women's beauty is not sincere. This kind of man is very distracted and disrespects women. In their eyes, women are just a tool to vent their desires.
Love should be based on two equal people, with mutual respect as the prerequisite, sincere and dedicated love.
Obviously, men who only covet the beauty of women do not possess these love qualities. Therefore, with such men, they will definitely be wounded in the end.
The feelings that are combined by appearance usually only stay on the superficial surface. Such feelings have no soul and will not last forever.
Therefore, girls should treat their feelings rationally and stay away from men who fancy women.
2. A cowardly man without responsibility and responsibility
After being abandoned by Yarek, Tess met the second man in her life: Angel.
Angel is an identity, status, knowledgeable and understanding man.
In terms of conditions, Angel is excellent.
But a person's conditions cannot determine his sense of responsibility.
When she was with Tess, Angel was polite, but when Tess confessed that she had been humiliated, Angel went uncharacteristically and left her new wife and went away.
Avoiding the problem became Angel's way of dealing with it.
Tess's happiness was destroyed once again.
Angel cowardly,Without responsibility and responsibility, Tess's spiritual world was completely destroyed. Under the torture, Tess ended her life.
A girl who was supposed to have a splendid and beautiful life was deprived of the right to happiness by two men.
Angel is good in everything, but he has no sense of responsibility and is weak and incompetent.
Marriage requires a sense of mission and responsibility. How can a man who can only escape when encountering problems let a girl entrust him for life?
Whether it is love or marriage, a woman must choose a man who has a sense of responsibility. Only a man who is responsible will share the joys and sorrows of the beloved wife in the ups and downs of life.
3. Emotional men
Looking back at the two men Tess met, they are both emotional men.
The so-called "love" of the first man, Yarek, is based on coveting Tess's beauty. He was just to satisfy her desire;
And Tess, believing him again and again, causing her own Life is ruined.
If Tess could see Yarek's ulterior motives at first, or be on guard, it would not let Yarek succeed.
Unfortunately, Tess trusts men too easily.
Yarek’s short-term love came from his emotions, not thoughtfulness;
The second man Angel’s love was built in his own fantasy. When he learned that Tess was not the perfect one in his imagination, he cruelly left his wife. Left home with emotions.
The love of these two men is a whim. A little dissatisfaction will change their temperament and bring harm to their partners.
Writer Lu Yao once said:
"True love is not selfish, but altruistic."
It is the emotional man who is really paying attention to the emotions of two people. Once stimulated, he stops thinking rationally, and only treats his partner with a bad side.
Emotions are instinct, and venting is normal, but self-consciously venting, regardless of the feelings of those around you, will bring harm to others, and the performance of truly loving someone is to take into account the other's feelings and restrain emotions .
written at the end:
What kind of man is a good man? There is no standard answer to this question.
But in love, the talents who give sincerely in the name of love, be tolerant and considerate, and consider both sides are worth entrusting for life.
Gorky once said:
"Without the sun, flowers will not bloom; without love, there is no happiness."
All the prerequisites of happiness are inseparable from the word "love". A suitable partner must be a responsible and responsible person who can respect women.
Superficial men who covet the beauty of women, cowardly men who do not act as irresponsible, and emotionally irrational men are not good objects to be entrusted to.
Love is solemn and solemn. It is the exchange of two hearts, the fusion of two souls, and the strong backing of each other for the rest of their lives.
Therefore, you need to be rational about your feelings about whims and think deeply about sudden heartbeats.
Marriage is a lifelong matter. It is not easy to find the only person who fits the soul. There is a huge crowd, and you must stay away from the people who play with feelings and cherish the right people.
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