"Your brother buys a house and asks his son-in-law to give another 300,000 down payment." The mother asked for it again, and her daughter was cleaned out of the house.

Is the daughter obligated to help her parents raise her son? Are you obligated to help your brother buy a house and get married?

The answer is no. Daughters are obliged to support their parents, but they are not obliged to support their younger brothers. The daughter is willing to raise her younger brother, it is her affection, not her duty.

However, in real life, most patriarchal parents often put the burden of raising sons on their daughters. Regardless of whether the daughter can afford it or not, they think that if they have worked so hard to raise their daughter, the daughter should repay. The way the daughter repays her gratitude is to help her parents raise her son and help her younger brother get married and start a family.

A daughter from a patriarchal family is always distressing and helpless. I feel sorry for my daughter's helplessness and neglect, and helplessly feel sorry for her daughter's compromise and softheartedness. After all, the phrase "white-eyed wolf" from the parents is the biggest blow to the daughter.

01. Passively became a younger brother, and her daughter could not save herself

Regardless of whether Zhang Qiaocheng admitted or not, she became passively a younger brother-assistant under the repeated influence of her parents. Even if she is today, she is completely striving for her, but her parents still kidnapped her family affectionately.

Before Zhang Qiao married her husband, she was an ATM in her family's family. No matter when his parents need money, Zhang Qiao has to be responsive. Although she was very disgusted with the kidnapping of her parents, she was filial, but did not resist at all.

originally thought she would improve if she married her husband. However, even though she was married to her in-laws, her parents still never let her go. When parents are sick, they ask her for money; their parents have no money to live, they ask her for money; the younger brother does not have a job, they ask her for money. In short, if you need money, your parents will look for her, as if she is a money printing machine, which can supply parents with unlimited amounts.

occasionally Zhang Qiao would resist,But her parents took hold of her weakness. As long as Zhang Qiao objected, his parents would cry and make a noise, and in the end Zhang Qiao often had to compromise and make concessions. Otherwise, the parents will come to the door and make Zhang Qiao faceless in her husband's house.

Regarding the wife’s upside-down post to her natal family, the husband has also made comments. But under Zhang Qiao's tears, her husband finally compromised. As long as Zhang Qiao wasn't that excessive, he would open his eyes and close his eyes.

02. "Your brother buys a house and asks his son-in-law to give another 300,000 yuan." The mother asked for it again, and the daughter divorced

In the fifth year of marriage, the younger brother still did not find a suitable marriage partner. His parents felt sorry for him and asked Zhang Qiao to buy a car for his younger brother with 100,000 yuan. As long as there is a car to support the facade, there is no need to worry that no girl will come to the door.

Zhang Qiao smiled bitterly at the request of his parents. At this time, she just bought a house with her husband with a loan. Not only emptied the wallets of in-laws, but also owed 100,000 foreign debts. But her parents didn't want to listen to her explanation, they just kept urging her to give money.

Seeing that his wife was driven to a dead end by his parents-in-law, the husband became angry and ashamed, but in the end he managed to collect 50,000 yuan for her. After Zhang Qiao gave 50,000 yuan to his parents, the parents still thought that the money was too little, so they should give 100,000 yuan.

's parents' rhetorical question made Zhang Qiaohan feel relieved. But she couldn't argue with her parents, so she could only swear secretly that this was the last time, and there will be no next time. How can people who are just not greedy know enough to stop?

Only half a year later, the parents called again. This time they no longer ask for money from Zhang Qiao, but directly said, "Your brother buys a house and asks his son-in-law to give another 300,000 yuan, even if it’s your newlyweds to your brother. Gift."

Zhang Qiao was so angry that he almost dropped his phone, but his parents waited for Zhang Qiao to deliver him comfortably.As a result, after a long time, instead of waiting for her daughter to send the money back, Zhang Qiao, who was cleaned out by her husband's family, came instead.

The parents' repeated requests eventually angered her husband and in-laws. This time, no matter how Zhang Qiao defended his parents, both her husband's family and her husband were no longer willing to listen. For them, marrying a demon to help his brother is undoubtedly equivalent to marrying a daughter-in-law's natal family.

Seeing that Zhang Qiao did not bring the money back, but was divorced by her in-laws, her parents scolded her and said she was useless. Seeing that he couldn't go back to her in-laws' house, and couldn't integrate into her natal family, Zhang Qiao didn't lower his head anymore, and decided to rent a house, and by the way blocked all the contact information of his parents.

It wasn't until the divorce that she suddenly realized that whether it was her husband's or her husband, there was a bottom line and principle for her to stick to her natal family. But she kept touching, and in the end she could only eat the fruit for herself, alone.

03、Women should know how to say "no"

For a demon, the most difficult thing is to know how to say "no". If a woman doesn't know how to refuse, she doesn't know how to stop, then how tolerant husband-in-law can't tolerate her.

does not have a mother-in-law, and would be willing to raise a daughter-in-law at the same time as the daughter-in-law's parents and younger brother. It is understandable that the son-in-law helped his wife to raise the parents-in-law. But the son-in-law helped raise the brother-in-law, which is really annoying.

Not all love, there is no bottom line. Not all sorry can be forgiven. A woman who doesn't know how to say "no" will not love herself, let alone others.

Today's topic:

What do you think of women passively supporting their younger brothers?

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