When a person lives, I have to admit that there are some things that can only be solved by oneself; some journeys can only be experienced by oneself.
Really smart people know how to calm their inner fatigue, guard their inner pride, do not rely on, do not expect, be quiet and calm, and enjoy being alone.
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There is a cow on the edge of the yard, I think the cow can watch for more than three hours, just watch it regurgitate and chew. Stay alone.
Let me stay by myself for a month or two months, trivial.
A person can focus on finding his own pleasure, and being quiet with himself requires a rich heart and calm courage. And this courage means knowing how to discuss or reconcile with oneself. It’s not going to be unhappy.
Sometimes, we hope we can blend in with the people around us, so we learn to compromise and erase the edges and corners with the pain. After a long time, we gradually understand that we are not gregarious, but lonely on the surface. When we are in a group, we are truly lonely.
We love freedom, but we are often engulfed by reality; we aspire to be ourselves, but dare not face the difference. Just like this day after day, drifting with the crowd and being embraced Go forward. Sometimes, I even forget what I want to be.
Blindly thinks that a group of people is the best decision, but I don’t know that it is this kind of bravery that makes me feel physically and mentally. Tired, obviously tired, but didn’t get out to pursue a peaceful life for one person. In the end, I realized that choosing a person requires bravery. Being alone is a kind of freedom and enjoyment.
Choosing a person to be alone is a kind of wisdom; dare to please yourself is a kind of courage.
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img span0 A person has a person's happinessThis conversation between Xu Zhiyuan and Chen Chong made many people find the secret of happiness again.
From the overnight explosion of " Xiaohua" to the later controversy, thirty or forty years have passed, Chen Chong has experienced the complexity of different eras, but her words and eyes never point to it. sad.
When they talked about weight loss from food to happiness, she asked Xu Zhiyuan: "What about your happiness?"
Chen Chong smiled and nodded in agreement: "Must, the best things happen when you are alone. I know that I am a person who needs to be alone. If I am not alone, my other feelings will definitely be gone. Because it’s too hard to be ourselves, especially in front of people."
We are all in the rivers and lakes at the moment. Everyone has the last resort, but we must be aware of this state when we cater to it. Lose yourself.
" One Hundred Years of Solitude" There is a passage in ": One Hundred Years of Solitude": "Compared to the days when people control emotions, I prefer time when no one cares. The best state of a person is to be quiet when alone. Be at ease, you don’t need to deal with other people’s emotions, and you don’t have to deliberately judge other people’s thoughts. You accompany yourself and return to a true self.
Group life will always make people safe, but the most free and practical life is when you get along with yourself. You don’t need the support and perfection of others, to give yourself rich and quiet, and one person has his own joy.
Professor Dai Jianye once said: "In a study room with bright windows and clean windows, a pot of good tea and a good book are spread out. It is the bliss of the world for a person to read an oolong quietly. "
Leave a space for fatigue and a place for panic. This freedom is the happiness of being alone.
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Some time ago, my friend's marriage failed, and it happened that her promotion was blocked.
I thought she would meet her friends for a few drinks. At that time, she chose to stay away from the crowds and excitement.
One person faces pain directly, one person looks for an emotional outlet, and one person returns to normal. From the beginning to the end, she is one person, but she is not alone because of that power.
In the process of being alone,Don't be afraid of your scars or fall into the struggle of self-doubt, see your own good and bad, then slowly open and release, and eventually you will find the beauty and meaning of life again.
People often say: "The collapse of adults is just a moment, and we often understand others easily and it is difficult to let ourselves go."
Even if someone hugs and comforts, they can't really pull out the pain from the bottom of my heart. Only by being alone can I get enough space to rest my anxiety and cry bitterly.
Then say to yourself: "My dear, when you are tired, just stay alone for a while."
I believe that time will bring us surprises.
About the author: Liu Xiaochang, a post-80s working mother, loves life and words. Willing to accompany the growth of children with love, and warm people's hearts with affection.
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