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If a person wants to have a strong heart, in fact, the best way is to learn to perceive. The deeper we perceive ourselves, the more we can jump out of the original The world sees an increasingly powerful self.
Zhang Defen once said, my dear, there is no one outside, only myself. From a psychological point of view, the world is a projection of our hearts.
The world we see is closely related to our inner reflection. What people fear most is to join the world completely and not to see the phantom of the world, so that the self will become simple and blurred.
Only awareness can help us jump out of the current situation, and our hearts can become stronger and stronger. So how do we perceive? The most important thing to perceive is to achieve these three aspects:
01 Perceive the first aspect: not criticize, but feel attentively In this world, if we want to let go of our prejudices, the most important thing is to be aware of our own feelings. Awareness is an important way for us to see ourselves, and it is also an important way for us to see others.
Seeing yourself is a very important process. If you don’t see it, there will be no understanding, let alone the process of communication and healing.
A good life is to see your inner desires and needs, and to dare to pursue what you want. This is the process of the unity of knowledge and action.
Only if you don’t criticize, you will see the direction of energy flow, and you will also see the self-direction of emotions. If we want to be strong inside, we must first learn to respect our inner feelings instead of criticizing ourselves. This is the prerequisite for our awareness.
For example, many people think that losing your temper may be wrong. In fact, losing your temper is also the natural flow of our emotions. When we lose our temper, our inner emotions will be relieved, and our body and mind will be relieved. healthy.
Non-judgment is to see what is the reason for doing this now. Only by seeing the needs behind our emotions can we get a deeper understanding of ourselves.
When you know yourself more deeply, you will be better able to guide your emotions instead of being controlled by emotions.
02 Perceive the second aspect: clear boundaries
has a clear sense of the 2span span. The sense of boundary is the basis of mutual respect and the freedom to respect each other.
only has a clear definition and boundary of oneself,You can better help others understand themselves and complete self-independence and self-shaping.
psychologist Adler once mentioned a professional term, subject separation. The separation of topics emphasizes that everyone is only responsible for his own life, not for the lives of others. This is a very important boundary.
So this means that we must not interfere too much in other people's lives, and we must not interfere too much in other people's lives. We have the right to make suggestions about other people's lives, but we don't have the right to lead.
When you clarify this principle and boundary, you may be troubled by many interpersonal relationships instead of being completely influenced by others.
For example, in the face of children's learning difficulties, we can guide them, but we must respect them. Let's not force our children, this is what we can do.
When a child grows up in an environment full of trust and respect, the clearer the child's rights to himself in the future, the more he can maintain his boundaries without being violated.
If a person is accustomed to being violated from his own boundary since childhood, he will think that he has no self-space, and become conscientious, become a psychological giant, and never grow up.
A person’s awakening is to realize that everyone has their own subject. We need to complete our own life shaping, not the lives of others, and we will know how to respect and trust fully.
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