feminist scholars have visited some primitive tribes in South Pacific island country , and found that in those tribes, unlike civilized society, women always worry about men’s affair. On the contrary, women often hold power and can replace men. But men always need to be nervous about women's empathy.
Why are women always worried about men having an affair in a civilized society?
There is an argument that this is because in primitive society, when men’s physical strength and bravery were required to hunt in the wild and obtain food for survival, women who were sitting at home weaving and nursing children , The psychology began to be out of balance. We can imagine: a man has not returned for a day, without legal constraints, when an anxious woman sits together weaving, they must be vaguely worried, in case that man empathizes and does not come back to share the food he brought back. So, is she in danger of starving to death?
Therefore, she invented love and needed to hold this man tightly and provide her with a steady stream of food, so she could survive.
It can be said that the need to rely on men to survive is the most essential reason why women always worry about men having an affair.
Because she is too weak and her body can’t fight the harsh winds and rains in the jungle, she still needs to feed her children without the protection of a man,She couldn't move an inch.
Another reason for "always worrying" is that the patriarchal society teaches women this way: men are popular and righteous, and women are popular with Pan Jinlian, and they will be beaten by Wu Song . Therefore, the Jialian in "Dream of Red Mansions" is proud of the spring breeze. Even when Jia's mother criticizes the jealous Feng girl, they always say: What is it for a man to steal a mouth? However, Siqi stole the mouth, but he was ashamed and short-sighted when he was discovered by Mandarin Duck.
Therefore, the culture tells a woman this way: she must keep the festival, but the man can not keep it. This makes a woman full of anxiety from the beginning: what can restrain him? The whole secular culture is a looming culture that encourages men to have an affair. She can only fight against this culture with moths fighting the fire.
Moreover, she is in another standard: a woman, from the first day of birth, must be family-centered. On the first day of the girl’s birth, her mother gave her a rag doll, while the boys gave her a submachine gun. Adults teach girls: when you grow up, marrying a good man is the number one. Therefore, the strong woman, no matter how successful her career is, her failure to marry is a failure in her life. So in the face of reporters, those female stars will always say: family is her last focus.
When a woman, only family and relationships are her most important spiritual support,Can she not be highly nervous, always be prepared, and take precautions against men having an affair?
There is a famous Indian saying: The more eager to grasp, the more you like to hold your palms; the tighter you hold the sand, the faster you lose.
Some time ago, there was a popular book called "Women Are Nesting Animals, Men Are Wild Animals". Nesting may be a woman's nature, and once she has a home, she needs to be firmly defended. Nesting is not necessarily a man's nature, his vision always stays in the farther sky. In order to build a nest and grasp a man's heart, a woman can only worry about a man having an affair all the time.
Most of those housewives magazines have such a column: N tricks to hold the man’s heart. Whether it's true or not, anxious women rush to it. In some emotional training classes in Beijing, 100% of the class is women, as if they are born to be emotionally unequal, men are born to be high, and women are born to find ways to grab him.
When will such an ideal picture appear, women will not always worry about men having an affair; she is financially self-reliant and does not need to rely on men to support her; she is emotionally independent, even if the man leaves, she still can Smile like a flower; she shows her true colors, not always in the shadow of the anxiety of losing him...
Emotion is not an anti-espionage war, it is a kind of relaxed peace, indifferent and peaceful, this time , Men will not get overwhelmed. Because men’s psychology is sometimes true: the more you don’t care about me,The more I care about you; the more you care about me, the more I want to show you an affair like a rebellious adolescent boy.
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