The relationship between people is very delicate. Sometimes when two people meet, there will be an inexplicable attraction, and they are very close to each other. After just a few words, you know that this person can indeed be friends with themselves.
Sometimes, when two people meet for the first time and say a few words, it's not that the words are not speculative, or the conversation is unpleasant, but it is so short that the two people no longer have the desire to communicate with each other, and this ends this passage. Thin edge.
More often, the relationship between two people is actually more subtle.
is not a sentence that is wrong, nor is it a bad expression of opinions, but an expression or a look will cause a change in the aura between the two parties, and the feeling when getting along will also change.
Chinese famous writer Jia Pingwa , once wrote an article called "Friends", included in his prose collection " Free and Alone" .
In his article, he started with this passage: "Friends are iron pieces, nails, screw caps, and small pins sucked by magnets, and they can be sucked from any dust in the world as long as they want. ”
Yes, friends who come naturally can go the farthest and get the most comfortable with each other. A friend who is forced cannot be a true friend, and a feeling that is forced cannot be a true feeling.
The same principle. The most comfortable relationship between people,It's actually very simple, just do the following three points.
1: If there is fate, there is no need to please
It is not difficult to understand between people. When fate is reached, things will be done, and so will friendship.
What kind of feeling is fate? Presumably, just like magnets can absorb any item with high iron content, magnets and iron must be together by nature.
If you are a humorous person, witty and knowing the size, you can tell many cold jokes. At all kinds of gatherings, you are always the one who breaks the ice, and as long as the jokes you tell are Can accurately heat up the venue.
As long as you display your talents, it seems that you can become the most shining star among the crowd.
Such you will naturally attract people who can understand your laughter, and your friends will definitely understand every joke you tell, and two people will be very comfortable together. The two people laughed together and looked at each other, and their sense of humor matched each other just right.
Such friends are the friends you attract naturally, and they are the friends who are truly destined.
If you are a person full of wisdom and like silent thinking, you like to be alone, like to eat, work, commute, go to work, and work alone.
You need a great space for yourself to be alone, and you are also good at thinking about any issues you are interested in. You like silence, talk less, are more introverted, and are not very conspicuous in the crowd.
It seems that it’s hard for a non-extroverted person like you to make friends.In fact, otherwise, you will attract friends like you like a magnet.
Just as the proverb says: Things are gathered together, and people are divided into groups. People who are as good at thinking quietly as you are bound to be attracted to you and make friends with you. When you are with a friend who really understands you, you don't need to think about how to behave yourself or what you should use to respond to other people's problems.
Since friends like this are attracted to you, they will definitely give you enough private space. The good friend relationship between you will surely be able to maintain well.
This is a friend who comes naturally by fate. Such a friend does not need to please, do not need to be afraid, and does not need to be afraid. Some people are destined to come to you, and they won't leave when they come.
2: If you have no fate, you don’t need to demand
. But those who speak clearly may not really understand what fate is in their hearts.
Fate is like, you like a beautiful person. Although you just saw this person in a hurry on the subway, you are deeply moved by the temperament of his whole body. Since then, love at first sight, cannot be extricated.
But there is no fate. From then on, you only saw him in that glance, and there will be no other communication between you in the future. This is no fate.
People who are destined are the right time and the right people, even if the weather is thunderous and the sky is gloomy,You will also feel that God is beautiful, and you will be able to meet the people you want to meet. Or, you can take this to take a romantic stroll in the rain with the person you want to meet.
This is fate, this is the help of other natural factors besides you.
put it more clearly, fate is the help of heaven and earth, and heaven is helping you. How can other factors contend with it? So, people who have no fate with you don't need to force it.
Because the forced relationship will never get along well, and the forced relationship cannot last long.
3: Let everything go, look down on it
Let everything go, it means you have seen the decisive role of fate in interpersonal communication.
Two very fateful people, even if they are separated by tens of thousands of miles, one in the northern hemisphere and the other in the southern hemisphere, they will still meet when they should meet. People who should be friends will surely be able to become friends.
However, if there is no fate, even if the family lives next door, one will go left and the other will go right. The intersection between two people is almost equal to zero.
So what should we do at this time? Just look away and bearish. Because fate is a factor that humans cannot control, the easiest and most comfortable way for you to control things that you cannot control is to go with the flow, let it develop, and watch its changes.
Many times,Waiting quietly, or doing nothing, is also an effort and a kind of respect for fate and fate.
Still the same sentence, the twisted melon is not sweet, so the reverse is the same: the melon that expires and matures naturally must be the sweetest, the most mature, and the most perfect.
Therefore, the most comfortable interpersonal relationship in the world is to understand each other, respect fate, and become familiar with each other naturally and become friends. Such friends are the most comfortable.
The above is the most comfortable relationship between people. Everyone will be surrounded by many friends, but some friends will leave after a short time by your side, and some friends will be able to accompany you to the end of life.
Which kind of friend is the most precious, time will tell you the answer.
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