Stepmother is a character who is easy to be criticized by words and pens. If she is not careful, all her efforts will be abandoned, and she will even be put on various infamous hats, and she will not be able to get rid of it!
Zhang Ling is a stepmother. For the integrity of the family, she spent 20 years caring for her stepdaughter and raised her stepdaughter with omnipotent love. She became a recognized good stepmother in the circle of relatives and friends. . But when the gap between the biological daughter and the stepdaughter grew, everyone said that it was a conspiracy!
When Zhang Ling married Chen Huabin, he had a daughter who was only two years old. Because Chen Huabin's ex-wife died in a car accident, his two-year-old daughter became a motherless child! At that time, Chen Huabin had a company that was in the early stage of growth and was developing well. Family assets are also very rich. In 1996, there were already a deposit of 300,000 yuan, two sets of commercial houses, and a set of three-story private houses facing the street, a hotel rented out and a car also had a Santana .
For Chen Huabin, who is in good condition and good-looking, it is easy to marry again, but he and his parents put their daughters in the first place. Repeatedly demanded that the woman who remarried must treat her daughter as her own, otherwise the whole family would not agree to enter the house, and Chen Huabin would divorce at any time.
Zhang Ling is a partner that Chen Huabin met on the entrepreneurial road. The secondary school students who came out of the mountainous area in southwestern Henan Province are medium-looking and average-capable. To be honest, the conditions are not good, and the family is very poor, but I really admire Chen Huabin! Especially after the death of Chen Huabin’s ex-wife, she often quietly took care of her daughter and helped his career. The long-term contact created affection between the two. Zhang Ling treated Chen Huabin’s daughter better than her biological mother, and she was also recognized by Chen Huabin’s parents, so 98 On the occasion of the New Year, the two entered the palace of marriage.
After marriage, Zhang Ling focused on taking care of the family except for the company's financial work. In the first few years, her parents-in-law were always worried about Zhang Ling, especially after Zhang Ling had her own daughter, she was afraid that she would harm her stepdaughter, so she often made surprise visits, inquired about the children, and the neighbors. And so on, observe Zhang Ling's behavior. Fortunately, every time I raided, I saw Zhang Ling chuckle the child! The neighbors also said that Zhang Ling is good.The stepdaughter Chen Yan is even more intimate with this stepmother. After a long time, everyone has put down their vigilance and feels that she is really a rare good woman.
Chen Huabin saw the harmony of the family and Zhang Ling's dedication, and she was completely relieved to treat Zhang Ling. Zhang Ling cleverly handled the housework and treated her stepdaughter Chen Yan in the way that Chen Huabin and her in-laws liked. As the child grew up, Chen Yan's most recognized family was only her stepmother Zhang Ling, which made Chen Huabin's family very satisfied!
In fact, Zhang Ling's treatment of the education of her biological daughter and stepdaughter will always be clearly divided. Her biological daughter Chen Xi has been strictly required by her since she was a child, and even her hobbies such as piano, chess, calligraphy and painting will force her to practice every day. The way of studying, living, socializing, and handling things is even stricter. If she fails to meet the requirements, she will punish her daughter. In short, thanks to her efforts, her biological daughter Chen Xi is excellent in every way, and she successfully entered 211 prestigious schools during the college entrance examination. This makes Chen Huabin especially proud!
But for her stepdaughter Chen Yan, Zhang Ling is completely indulgent. Because this child has been arrogant and domineering since he was a child. But as a stepmother, apart from meeting the child's life and financial requirements, she didn't dare to take care of everything else. When Chen Yan was 6 years old, she enrolled in piano and art classes for her. Apart from work, she always accompanied Chen Yan in class. But Chen Yan, who is not in love with restraint by nature, always messed up every time in class, and couldn't learn anything. . Zhang Ling patiently reasoned with her, encouraged her, stayed with her, but the child didn't understand this, so she cried to her grandma and father that she was too tired to learn piano and couldn't paint. Teachers and classmates laughed at her! At this time, Zhang Ling always explained to them patiently, hoping that the whole family would work hard together and don't spoil the children. Since the money has been spent, they must study hard. But the mother-in-law was the first to stand up against it, saying that the child is young and he wants to learn, but he doesn't want to learn. Don't be exhausted. What does it mean to spend this little money? The child's mother is no longer there, as long as she is healthy and happy, just don't want to learn! Husband Chen Huabin also said to let the flow go!
This disappointed Zhang Ling, who was passionate and dedicated! In life, Chen Yan does what she wants, and has no rules. For example, eating does not emphasize nutrition, dressing does not emphasize dignity, irregular work and rest, etc., no matter how hard Zhang Ling works,After the child cried to his grandmother and father, he returned to the original state! Zhang Ling shook her head countless times and sighed. This stepmother is really not good enough. If her child would have educate her severely, but this is a stepdaughter who can't be beaten or scolded, but the family feels that they owe the child too much. I had to let the children go crazy!
Over time, Zhang Ling gave up. She bought whatever the child needed, and let her do whatever she wanted. As long as it is within my own ability and not too excessive, I will spoil her nonsense! In this way, the child likes her more, and I also said a lot of good things about the stepmother when I went to my grandmother and dad. The in-laws are also very satisfied, and the husband loves her even more! Zhang Ling smiled bitterly and said that she didn't expect that the pampering and indulgence of children was actually such a result! At the same time, she also saw the future of her child, so she educates her biological daughter more strictly, and pampers her stepdaughter with indulgence.
Zhang Yan was overly pampered by her family and did not get good grades in school. In the end, she didn't even pass the college entrance examination. She relied on her father to spend money to enter a college. As a result, I fell in love with my classmates and gave birth to a child within the last two years. I had no choice but to quit school and get married! After getting married, the two of them were both unlearned and incapable of earning money. They all relied on the funding of both parents, and they often fought. Finally, after the divorce last year, they brought their 3-year-old child back to their natal home and continued to nibble the old!
And Zhang Ling's biological daughter, Chen Xi, was excellent in everything from an early age under the strict requirements of her mother. Cultural courses, interests, specialties, and dealing with people are not outdated. Last year, I graduated from 211 and successfully passed the postgraduate entrance examination.
It wasn't until then that Chen Huabin woke up. It was his own indulgence that ruined his daughter's life! But it's too late!
Zhang Ling’s parents-in-law have passed away. The eldest sister, younger uncle, and Chen Yan’s uncle and aunt all complained that Zhang Ling had been too indulgent in their children’s education after Chen Yan’s divorce, saying that she spent 20 years ruining Chen The hope left by Yeon's mother! Zhang Ling smiled bitterly and said: When I enthusiastically asked you to cooperate with me in educating children, what did you all say? Everyone was speechless in an instant!
Family education is very important,The formation of children's behavior habits and personality has been basically finalized when they were young. The words and deeds of parents and relatives will affect the children's life through ear and eye! The growth of a child is not only the learning of written knowledge, but also the exercise of life ability, the guidance of behavior habits, and the cultivation of moral quality. This is the key to the growth!
People can have no culture, but they can't be without culture. This is a simple summary of the traditional culture of the Chinese people for thousands of years!
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