Young men and women who have just married, if they have conflicts and quarrels, it is not because of this that they engage in extramarital affairs, but most of them directly quarrel to break up!
On the contrary, men and women who have been married for a long time and have entered the middle-aged stage are prone to betray the other half under the impression that others see a happy marriage and a happy family.
Why are middle-aged men and women prone to indulge in extramarital affairs?
Do people who do this kind of thing really lose their minds because the quality of their marriage is not as good as they imagined?
to listen to the following three people who have come here, maybe it will be clear.
Confidant: Ms. Tian
I am 40 years old and I have indeed cheated. When it comes to the reason why I engage in extramarital affairs, I may directly tell you that my husband's ability is too poor, and after many years of marriage, he can only be poor with him.
In the past, I still had hope, thinking that it was just the time before, but when I entered the middle-aged stage, I saw that he was still the same, and he had not improved at all. Only then did I fully understand that he could not give me the life I wanted.
It has always been too difficult for us to obtain material things. I don't want to live this life without any hope, and can only ask other men for help.
Now I feel that the man outside the marriage is very good to me, and I also found that even if this man can't give me the marriage I want, there is no husband who can make me live better if I leave, I should be able to find it myself A man who is more in line with my mate selection criteria than he is.
However, in the end, I didn't leave because I couldn't give up my child.
But my loyalty, trust and respect for him are all gone, so I can only say that now I can't go back, as for what to do if he finds out in the future, just do it!
Mr. Cai
is not for my own defense. The reason why I cheated is because the cold war between my wife and I has always been a common occurrence. By the end, it had come to a point where there was nothing to say.
I am a normal man, and it was her indifference and constant rejection that gave me the chance to cheat.
Because people are like this, if they can't get love and comfort in normal relationships, they will look for opportunities elsewhere.
When I meet the right opposite sex, I can only act according to my heart. As for marriage, partner, family responsibility, etc., when happiness has been reduced to a bubble, it has already faded out of my heart. .
I'm not that kind of romantic man, if I can have a normal marriage regardless of how high the quality is, I'm afraid I won't cheat easily.
Therefore, although I know that I have done something wrong now, I don't have much guilt for my wife and family.
Mr. Xia
I don't want to find so many excuses to explain why I cheated. I can frankly say: There is no special reason, just because I am tired of marriage.
A couple of men and women have been facing each other all day for more than ten years. They have long been tired of seeing each other. Besides, they always quarrel over trivial matters, which makes it even more boring.
I think that once a woman thinks she has absolute ownership over a man and a relationship, she will have a presumptuous feeling and will never be nervous about the other person.
In order to let her learn a little lesson and get back a little self-knowledge, of course, I also followed my own inner thoughts and needs, so I had an extramarital affair, which was a bit deliberate.
also thought that living in this way would be more enjoyable at first. But later I found out that it wasn't fun at all. In addition to working hard and hurting money, I also had a lot of trouble with my wife!
now a little regret, because there is no good gain.
Concluding remarks:
From the above three middle-aged men and women's descriptions of the reasons for their infidelity, we can find that they are either to get money and material from extramarital affairs; The relationship is almost dead, but for some specific reasons, I have no idea of divorce, so I can only find comfort from extramarital affairs to fill the hole in my heart.
and some more general ones are purely for freshness and excitement.
In fact, their marriage did not have much crisis, but because the parties concerned have weak emotional concepts and could not endure the plain and ordinary marriage life, they would find reasons to cheat. The purpose of
is to find those very superficial, short-lived pleasures brought by fresh opposite sex and fresh feelings from it.
But it often comes and goes quickly, but in the end, I am exhausted by such feelings and regret it.
In fact, adults all know that loyalty is the foundation of marriage maintenance, and this has stepped on the bottom line. No matter what excuses and reasons the parties find to excuse themselves, they must ultimately accept the bad consequences brought about by this.
If you are not mentally prepared to accept this fact? Then it's best not to be self-indulgent!
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