Be good to men, be appropriate

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Text: Ten Miles

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If, as a woman , you fell in love with a man, what would you do? I believe that most women will love the man they like very much, and even willingly give everything for him, but in the process of giving , can we think about whether we are in the middle of loving and being loved? what did you get?

Since ancient times, there have been many infatuated women who have done a lot of things for their former lovers, and sometimes even sacrificed their own lives, because they feel that since they have found the person they like and the right person, It should be good to them, and even sometimes, the good ones don't talk about the principle .

But there are many women who are too good to men, what do they get in the end? There are many people who get nothing, what's more, what they get is deep hurt from the man they like and love. So, if a woman meets the person she likes and meets the right person, even if she likes it in her heart, don’t be too nice to him, because that will make herself unprincipled, and men don’t like unprincipled Women, and eventually men, will also choose to leave, hurting women who love them time and time again.

Zhuang Li is a very independent woman. From childhood to adulthood, her personality is very independent. When she encounters something she likes, she always has to pursue it bravely. At the age of hazy youth, many people are hazy about the word of love, but Zhuang Li has met a man in her life that she both loves and hates.

In that year, Zhuang Li was only 18 years old and had just been admitted to a university. After entering the university, he had a deep feeling of disgust for some men around him, because she felt that these male classmates were too immature . Not long after, Zhuang Li was deeply attracted by a teacher in her yard. This teacher is a tutor, and she just joined this school this year. The age difference between the two is not very big, so Zhuang Li was attracted by this teacher. The male teacher was deeply attracted.

Maybe due to other public opinion issues, the two of them did not blatantly, but Zhuang Li was willing to wait for this man. After waiting for 4 years to graduate from college, Zhuang Li married this man right away.

After getting married, Zhuang Li was very kind to this man, to what extent? As long as her husband goes home together, he doesn't need him to do anything, Zhuang Li does everything well. Because she knew that her husband was too busy at school, and although she was very tired at work during the day, he was willing to pay for the man he liked.

Later, Zhuang Li's husband was gradually promoted due to his excellent work in the school. After being promoted to be a leader, work has become more busy, but Zhuang Li still takes care of the man's daily life every day, although there are many times, he doesn't even see each other once a day.

The two divorced in the 5th year after their marriage. During the divorce, Zhuang Li cried so hard that she was so kind to her husband, why did her husband choose to leave her in the end? It turned out that her husband didn't dislike Zhuang Li in his heart, but that he couldn't stand Zhuang Li's nanny-like care for him.The husband felt that the wife he had found was not the kind of wife who had to take care of him meticulously, because no matter what he did in family life, the husband always listened to what Zhuang Li said. Do it right away.

After a long time, Zhuang Li's actions made her husband feel very unhappy, because he felt that husband and wife in a family, they should be on an equal position, they should not do anything, they should discuss with each other, and It is not my own to blindly do and various things.

There may be many people who are very envious of a woman like Zhuang Li. They think that if they can find a woman who thinks about everything for themselves, it will definitely be a very happy thing. But I believe that people who say this are basically unmarried people, because in a happy marriage , both husband and wife should support each other, remind each other, and work together to improve each other, rather than and completely obeying each other. the other side.

To give an inappropriate example, it is like in a sports game, the very strong side and the very weak side go to the game, even if the final big score wins, the winning side will not experience the fun of the game at all . The same principle , in marriage, if one party is too obedient to the other party and thinks too much for the other party, over time, the other person will feel that such a marriage is meaningless, like drinking every day It's cool and white, without any smell.

The so-called marriage requires both husband and wife to work together. Although sometimes a woman is willing to do various things for the man she likes, this does not mean that the woman can give up her own principles in marriage.In fact, most men don’t like women who have no principles. They believe that in marriage, both husband and wife belong to two independent individuals. This kind of independent individuals can make both parties feel in the process of marriage management. When it comes to the charm of running a marriage, what you enjoy in a marriage is the process rather than the result.

As a woman, you should be independent in marriage, you can have someone you like, but don't give up some principles of doing things for the person you like, and you must have some independent character, whether it is financial independence or Independence in character, or independence in behavior, only proper independence can win the favor of men.

In fact, the same is true. For example, why are many girls unwilling to accept boys who pursue themselves all day long, because they feel that boys who pursue themselves in this way, even sometimes, will do all kinds of things to pursue themselves There is no lower limit, such a boy is not worth entrusting for life. In the same way, men don't like to blindly obey their own women in , because such blind obedience to their own women will make them feel that their relationship is not so simple at all, and they will even make them feel a little insecure.

People are such a very strange animal, especially when they are in a relationship, it will make people even more strange. Some emotional experts describe men and women who are in love like this. They think that men and women who are in love sometimes have a little nervousness. Confused, no matter what they do, they tend to be emotional or emotional, which explains why there are many girls, once they meet a boy they like very much, they will do a lot of incredible things.

In a relationship, whether it is a man or a woman, we must learn to have proper principles and do some things with some proper principles, so that people can become more free and easy in the process of marriage management, instead of bowing to the knees You have to win the favor of the other party, and a marriage or love like that won't last long.

In the process of looking for a marriage partner, what we most hope to see is to find a person who truly understands and loves himself. Marriage is not about one party obeying the other, but two people can encourage each other, move forward together, and make progress together In the process of progress, we can better experience the charm that marriage brings to us.

We can do some things for our beloved ones appropriately, but don’t overdo it, and don’t let the other party feel that we can do a lot of unlimited things for the other party. This will only make the other party look down on us more and more, and it will take a long time. Over time, when the other party becomes bored, more and more marital problems may appear.

Especially for a woman, she may always think in her heart that if she is very good to men, men will love themselves more, but it is a big mistake to think so. Because sometimes, men often don’t cherish people who are too good to themselves, so smart women must learn to be good to their beloved men and make themselves more principled. Only in this way can two people be able to Get along better and better, in order for the final relationship to blossom and bear fruit.

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