"If my daughter is not allowed to move in, I won't go back." One month later, I found out that my son and daughter-in-law had moved.

There are many verses and articles in this world that praise parents, in the eyes of most people , the love of parents for their children is great and selfless They give life to their children, raise them up, sacrifice themselves without repaying , success children.

But not all parents are qualified parents, and even a large number of parents are unqualified , some parents are biased, give too much attention to one child, ignore the other child; some parents are authoritarian, stifling The child's thoughts, do not let the child choose, forcing her to obey her own ideas; some parents are indifferent, they never participate in the child's growth, and giving money is the only way for them to express their affection.

Parents' eccentricity is the greatest harm to their children, don't blame your children for being unfilial when they grow up, your eccentricity is the biggest pusher that keeps your children away from you.

Chen Na and her husband Wang An met at a class reunion. They were high school alumni, but they didn't know each other at that time. Until many years later, at this class reunion, the fate of the two nearly 30-year-olds was renewed.

After Chen Na and Wang An got married, the two paid out a loan to buy a house together. The decoration and of the house were all handled by Chen Na. After the house was renovated, Wang An discussed with Chen Na that he wanted to make the Mother took over to live together, and Chen Na agreed.

A few days after the mother-in-law moved in, Chen Na felt that she was not a good person. Her mother-in-law always made things difficult for Chen Na in her life, looking for trouble for her, and she said bad things about Chen Na to Wang An behind her back, alienating the relationship between husband and wife , If it wasn't for Wang An's trust in Chen Na, the relationship between the couple would have broken up long ago, and because of this, the relationship between Chen Na and her mother-in-law was very bad, even if they lived under the same roof, they never looked good.

Not only that, but my mother-in-law also prioritizes women over men. Everyone else likes son but dislikes daughter , but my mother-in-law is just the opposite, , she and sister-in-law have one heart. Without and starting a family , my mother-in-law would ask Wang An for money for her sister-in-law every month. Chen Na asked Wang An why she didn't resist? Wang An said: "She is my mother after all, she is my sister after all, I can't bear it."

One day, the mother-in-law found Chen Na and said to her: "Daughter-in-law, I want to take your sister-in-law to live with you, 's hometown That house is too old to live in, I'm here to enjoy happiness alone, it's not good for her to suffer in her hometown."

Chen Na didn't let go: "My sister-in-law is almost 30 years old. You don’t need to live in that dilapidated house in your hometown, our family is small and can’t accommodate so many people.”

The mother-in-law was angry: “Why are you so selfish? Let your sister-in-law live in a dilapidated house, and you live in such a good big house, but It's just to clean up an empty room."

This house was bought jointly by their husband and wife. Chen Na put so much effort in order to have a warm little home, where she and her husband lived together in a two-person world, and let her mother-in-law live with her. Her bottom line was reached. She never thought that her mother-in-law wanted to bring her sister-in-law to live with her. Chen Na would never agree. Willing to come out, now that the house is renovated, you can come and live in the house. If you are in trouble, you don't come to help, but if you are lucky, you want to come and share it. How can there be such a good thing in this world. "

When my mother-in-law saw that Chen Na would not let go, she was also angry, and packed her bags and went back to her hometown in a fit of anger. Chen Na and Wang An came to pick her up, but she refused to leave. Tell you, don't try to pick me up, if you don't let my daughter move in, I won't go back! "

Chen Na was furious at her mother-in-law's unreasonable appearance, she said to her mother-in-law: "Okay, then you can stay here, don't go back!" "

My mother-in-law felt that she was so angry, and she ran away from home. In a few days, her son and daughter-in-law would agree to her request again and pick her up. She waited at home for a long time, for a week or two. I didn't see my son and daughter-in-law appearing at the door.

My mother-in-law waited at home for more than a month, but she refused to contact her son and daughter-in-law. My sister-in-law couldn't stand it any longer. She said to her mother-in-law, "Mom, you are not waiting here. One thing, if sister-in-law cared about your thoughts, she would not have opposed you in the first place. I think brother sister-in-law has no intention of coming to pick you up, you might as well go back and have a look."

The mother-in-law felt that her daughter was right. She went back to her son's house and knocked on the door, but it was a stranger who opened the door. When she saw this strange man coming out of her son's daughter-in-law's house, the mother-in-law was stunned and asked, "Who are you?" This is my son and daughter-in-law's house, how did you get in? "What's your son's and daughter-in-law's home? This is my home now, and they moved out long ago." "

Only then did my mother-in-law know that not long after she left, her son and daughter-in-law sold the house and moved to another place. After she left, her mother-in-law called her son and daughter-in-law in despair, but no one answered. Now I finally regret it. She personally pushed her son and daughter-in-law away, and now her son and daughter-in-law don't want her anymore.

Many families with eccentric parents will have this problem. Whichever child the parents like, will give that child any good things, and the other child can only use what others have left.

The experience of Mingyu in the TV series "Everything is Good" makes people feel Very distressed, her mother was partial to her two brothers. When she was young, the brothers had ham and eggs for breakfast and drank juice and milk, while Mingyu could only eat boiled rice and boiled water; her brother asked her mother for money when she was traveling, but her mother said nothing. He gave him 3,000. Mingyu wanted tuition fees, but his mother refused.

Eccentric parents are like this. Children who are favored by are treasures, and children who are not favored are grass . Even a small request cannot be satisfied. In the TV series, Mingyu has no feelings for her parents when she grows up, relying on her own However, in reality, many children who are not favored are not so lucky. Because of lack of love since childhood, they have become inferior and weak, often self-denial, and have psychological problems.

are all their own children, so they should not favor one over the other. One should have one, and the other should not be less. Since they choose to be born, they must be treated fairly.

. Every child deserves to be taken care of by .

variety show " my little tail " has a scene that impressed me deeply. There is a pair of brothers and sisters. The elder brother wanted the younger sister to release the water, saying that she was the eldest child and should let the other younger sisters, the siblings quarreled because of this, and the younger sister felt very incomprehensible: " I just want to take the first place too much, why am I the eldest I can’t win?”

We often hear such words in our life, two children quarreled about something, and their parents always said: “You are big, you should make it a little smaller. "", so the older child will never have the right to fight for what he wants, even if it belongs to her originally, she must give it to her younger siblings.

is the first time to be a child. The older one has no obligation to let the younger one. Parents should understand that every child needs to be cared for and pampered, and don’t let the child feel that he is the one who was sacrificed.

3.Mother's kindness and son's filial piety, first mother's kindness and then son's filial piety

There is a question on Zhihu: why Chinese many children do not consider their parents' feelings ? There are nearly 20,000 answers, but almost every answer is: Chinese parents never care about their children's feelings, but children are too careful to consider their parents' feelings .

It is not easy to raise a child, It is easy for a child to grow up, but it is difficult for a child to grow up healthy and optimistic., many parents always think that I am for you to eat, for you to wear, just for you Well, in fact, it is not. What really affects children is education and the shaping of children's minds.

We all say that a mother is kind and a child is filial, A mother is kind before a child is filial. If parents regard their children as their own emotional trash cans, they will give their children some money when they are happy. If they are unhappy, they will scold their children. How can such a child grow up to be grateful to his parents? Will you be filial to your parents?

Love is mutual, I feel love from you, and I will repay you with love. There are not so many people in this world who repay their grievances with virtue.

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