As the old saying goes, family love is a kind of depth, friendship is a kind of breadth, love is a kind of purity, no matter what kind of love or anything, there must be a moderation.
The out-married sister crusades the elder brother into 6 suites for being disobedient to his father, and the elder brother kicks the TV angrily to complain about his grievance
Shen Hong has two siblings, elder brother Shen Wei and younger sister Shen Tao. Shen Hong said that the family's house has been demolished for seven or eight years, and a total of 6 suites have been allocated. Currently, there are three sets in hand, two of which have been renovated by my brother, and the one upstairs has not been renovated.
On April 20th, my brother moved to a new house, and my 80-year-old father said that he wanted to live in a sunny house with plenty of sunshine. My brother and sister-in-law agreed in front of us, saying that there were three bedrooms, and my father could live in whichever one he wanted. I still didn't live in a sun room, but in a room with less sunlight.
Shen Hong also said that every time my old father mentioned this matter, he would cry in front of my sister and I. He didn't think too much about it. In fact, this was my father's house. My father told me and my sister that he I just wanted to live in that sunny house, but he couldn't take it with him after he left. Isn't it still your brother's, so why not let him live?
Because of her father's cry, Shen Hong and her sister Shen Tao couldn't sit still. What they really couldn't figure out was that the father only asked for such a little, why did the brother not realize what he promised at the beginning? For this reason, they found a mediator, and they wanted to fulfill their father's dream of living in a sun room. At the same time, they also wanted to talk to their brother about why they were divided into 6 suites and were not filial to their father.
Afterwards, Shen Hong brought her sister Shen Tao and the mediator to her brother Shen Wei's house. As soon as she entered the door and expressed her intention to come, Shen Wei's emotions suddenly became excited, and she kicked the TV in the living room without saying a word. Turning it over, I lost my temper and snarled at my two younger sisters: Usually you two don't care, and now I take care of my father every day, you still want me to be ashamed? Just because my father lives in this small house, you insisted on letting him live in the big house, and he was always looking for trouble for me these days.
After the mood eased a little, Shen Wei poured out bitter water to the mediator. He said that the conflict in the family was caused by the ideas of the two younger sisters. Now that the father is old and confused, he initially wanted to live with him. The sunny house, and later lived in the second bedroom, I discussed with my father not to change the room first, because my son is going to take the college entrance examination, so I thought that it would not affect my son, and he will leave after the college entrance examination. Then I freed up the room for my father to move in, because my father didn't live in a sunny house, and I cried several times. If it wasn't for the two sisters playing around in it, this wouldn't have happened. The phenomenon.
When it comes to the depth of love, Shen Wei choked up a little. He also said that my grandparents have long since passed away, and my father told me that he only ate one meal a day. Now that the conditions are better, I feel sorry for my father for not being able to eat and clothe himself all his life, so I do my filial piety in front of him, saying that after the death of the old man, crying is just a show, it is better for the old man to eat well and clothe him better when he is alive.
As he was talking, Shen Wei's mood suddenly became excited again. He pointed to his father's room and roared at his two younger sisters. I bought a bunk bed , and slept with my old father for two years. The old father slept in the lower bunk, I slept in the upper bunk, I had a salary of more than 4,000 a month, and I quit my job. I stayed at home with my old father, thinking that he would have a comfortable old age. Am I not doing enough?
Regarding her brother's remarks, Shen Hong said that the old father said that his legs and feet were inconvenient, and he wanted to live in the room with the sun, but the room he lives in is too small to turn around, and the elder brother didn't tell us to wait. After the nephew has finished the college entrance examination, he will be replaced by his father.
elder brother: daughter who married outside, don't always mix with
Shen Wei who stood aside immediately accused her sister, I don't need to explain so much to you, this is my home, you are married daughters, Don't keep mixing in it.
But the elder brother's remarks made the third sister Shen Tao think that this is all he is perfunctory of our sisters . Isn't it so troublesome to change the room? Everyone's mutual distrust leads to the inability to resolve this contradiction. In order to find out the truth of the matter, I can only ask my 80-year-old father.
The old father said, I am usually served by my son, which is also good to me. I want to live in a sunny house because I can bask in the sun in winter. But when I asked about changing rooms for my grandson's college entrance examination, did I discuss it with you?The old father cautiously asked his son Shen Wei: Did you tell me this at the beginning?
Shen Wei explained that at that time, he had discussed with the old father to change the house, because my son was the 27th in the whole grade and the first in the class. At the beginning, he really wanted the old father to live in that room with sunlight, and then it was renovated. When I moved in, my son didn't like the paint in his room, but liked this sun room. I told my old father to change the house first. After my son finishes the college entrance examination, I will vacate the room and change it. My father is now It is normal for him to be old, sober for a while, and confused for a while.
Afterwards, Shen Wei explained to the old father the reason for changing rooms at that time. After the old father understood it, he also expressed that he understood his son's intention at that time, but even if the old father understood, the two Shen Hong sisters kept holding on to each other. Not letting go of this question, Shen Hong accused her brother, the old father just wanted to live in a bigger second bedroom, isn't the house opposite you also renovated?
Seeing that his sister was still chattering, Shen Wei got excited again, he growled at the two sisters again, I have a house over there, I have a house over here, and I have a house in the north, my house There are too many, don't ask so much, you are girls away from home, do I have to tell you everything I do? After saying that, Shen Wei took out the loudspeaker from the room, and he said that I would go to the gate and shout to see if I was not being filial.
In the face of his sister's accusations, Shen Wei expressed that he was extremely aggrieved. His mood was erratic and he kept pouring bitter water to the mediator. He said, "My father is old now. Ever since the younger sisters heard their father say they were not satisfied with the room they were living in, the two of them came to the door frequently, accusing me of being unfilial, completely forgetting what I had done to my old father for so many years.
Watching collapse brother, not only did the two sisters Shen Hong not comfort them, but they took out a video and played it. She said that her brother invited San Bo some time ago, and she thought she wanted to be in front of San Bo. When I changed my father's room, I never thought that he would ask my third uncle to persuade my father to stay in a small room. My third uncle did not understand the situation. When my father complained to him, the third uncle still quarreled with my father, which made him cry even more sadly.
Now my father has something in his heart, and he will find our sisters to complain. He said that his son will not let him live in the bigger second bedroom, so we must find a way to arrest your brother and your sister-in-law and go to jail.
Shen Wei refuted his sister's rhetoric with disdain. I meant to let Sanbo come over. The two old people can sit here and talk. It was raining that day and I had to move, so the two of them could talk. , can't I move with peace of mind? This is another thing when it comes to you.
Up to now, the two younger sisters have still turned a blind eye to the contribution of their elder brother Shen Wei. Even though Shen Wei has a lot of grievances in his heart, he still keeps promising to his younger sister that he will give his father the room after his son's college entrance examination. He thought that the matter in the room could come to an end, but Shen Wei lost control of his emotions again. The more he thought about his sister's actions and accusations, the more angry he became. In order to reduce unnecessary troubles in the future, he shouted to his two sisters: "Come on here." It's a few times. It's not that you are here every day. I'm guarding my father day and night. Who knows about my father? You are married daughters. Don't enter my house again. Then take him to your house to live.
My older brother, who has been in frequent emotional breakdowns
Since the matter in the room has been resolved, why is Shen Wei still so angry that he does not let his sister enter his house again?
Then Shen Wei said, I am a second marriage, my first divorce was because my daughter-in-law was not filial. I married this wife for 20 years, and the relationship has always been very good. It is because my two younger sisters always come to my house to fight their father. In the name of crusade against me for being unfilial, my wife no longer lives at home and rents a house outside. Is my home still a home? The reason why my wife didn't come back was because I didn't want to see these two sisters. They not only affected the brother-sister relationship, but also the family life of my wife and I, and it was not the first time that they came to my house to make trouble.
talking, Shen Wei cried again, he said, after my mother passed away, when I was going to the grave, my two younger sisters pointed at my head in front of my sixth aunt and said I had a bad conscience, so my wife I don't want to, I quarreled with the two of them on the grave. I have to clean up the two of them. They are my sisters. I was so angry that I could only beat myself with a stick.
Regarding her elder brother Shen Wei's cry, Shen Hong said that the reason why she said so on the grave was because her mother had gallbladder cancer. With so many hearts, who knew that when my mother saw a doctor, she didn't have a penny in her hand, shouldn't my brother give a little to his parents? It was because he didn't give it to his parents that he saw his mother's illness too late and delayed the treatment. I'm angry because of this. If he could give the money to his parents earlier and accompany his mother to the treatment earlier, the mother would not have died. so early.
's sister's tone was full of accusations and complaints. Shen Wei said: My mother loves to work as a pyramid scheme. Later, I heard someone say that my mother went to another place to see a doctor, but she was bad. I only found out about it afterwards. My mother was more frugal when she was old. She went to find remedies for the money she gave her. I also gave all the money I should have given to my mother. But behind my wife, the money I should have given to my mother will still be given to her. We are in control of our family’s money. Now you think that I have not given my mother any money, and I have delayed my mother’s medical treatment. Then your family has so much money, why do you Why don't you treat your mother? Isn't that your mother?
After listening to my brother's explanation, the two sisters didn't believe a word, and they said that what my brother said was completely irrelevant.
However, this sentence annoyed Shen Wei again. He said, after this matter is resolved today, don't come here again. It's the same sentence. You are the daughter of an out-married girl. Don't get involved in family affairs. Our family does not want to Come here.
In fact, it is not difficult to see that every time Shen Wei explained and calmed down a matter, the two younger sisters questioned their elder brother again with an attitude of distrust. As a result, no matter how to mediate, Shen Wei could never calm down. It's just fanning the flames, so how can my brother's anger be quelled?
Finally, under the persuasion of the mediator, the two sisters also realized their mistakes. They said that they must have had an opinion on their brother because of the mother's incident, but now they understand my brother, but Shen Wei said, you understand Now, I'm completely giving up. Anyway, from now on, don't come again in the future. If you want to come, take your father away and put him in your house for a few days. You can also taste it. If you don't pick it up, I'll take care of myself.
Speaking of this, Shen Wei's mood collapsed again, and he scolded the two sisters in tears: I have never seen a girl like you who is married away, and she is in my house like this every day. Arbitrary. In the end, under layers of mediation, Shen Wei agreed that the two younger sisters could come and visit their father in the future, and everyone understood each other.
Family love should be full of trust, and cross-border family love is the least desirable.
Family love needs to be full of trust. Mutual suspicion will only make this family love go further and further, and thus evolve into hatred. The most undesirable thing is that the married daughter should be less involved in the affairs of her parents' family. After all, there is a sister-in-law in it. Even if the brother is willing, the sister-in-law's feelings must be considered.
If you are a daughter, you must do your duty as a daughter. If you are a son, you must do your duty as a son. If you have something to do, protect the face of your brother and sister-in-law, so that you won't lose your heart. Smart daughters will coax their brothers and sisters. Only In this way, parents can live the most comfortable years in their later years, and in the name of filial piety, the family is torn apart.
The two sisters Shen Hong made such a mistake. They believed whoever said it, but they just didn't believe what the elder brother said, whether it was the matter of the old man changing rooms, the matter of the mother's treatment, or the matter of the third uncle. , They are all hearsay, and they questioned their brother just after knowing the superficial information, and they were full of distrust of the brother, which led to the accumulation of contradictions.
The most basic way for a family to get along is to trust. Only on the premise of trust can we communicate and communicate effectively. If there is no trust, then no amount of communication will be in vain. The suite feels unbalanced, but since the matter has become a fact, it really belongs to your brother, not yours, then you must bless your brother, don't be jealous of his good life, only if he has a good life, your father can live it it is good.
What do you think about the conflict between the two sisters Shen Hong and their parents and brother? Welcome to leave a message for discussion and give different voices, thank you.
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