Zhu Deyong said, "talking when you shouldn't be talking, that's love; not talking when you should be talking, that's marriage." , in the mother or wife's heart can not leave a good impression.
As the saying goes, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and this scripture for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is believed to be the most difficult scripture for men in the world to read. How does
handle the relationship between mother and wife? This is not the answer a man wants to know, but the wisdom that all men want.
From a personal point of view, we must have our own set of ideas about marriage. We can’t look at other people’s marriage attitudes and think that this is okay, that is not bad, other people’s view of marriage and love does not determine your happiness or not The key is your own concept of marriage and love is the most critical.
01 is used by mother-in-law as a free nanny
Lin Yuan and Zhong Jianhua are college classmates and have been in love for four years. Although Lin Yuan's family lives in rural , they are not poor. They just built a three-story building two years ago. Small building.
and Zhong Jianhua are different, the father is the owner of a small business, the mother is the housewife . After graduation, Lin Yuan originally wanted to go back to her hometown to work, but in order to be with Zhong Jianhua, she chose to stay in the same city with Zhong Jianhua. When their jobs were stable, they had plans to get married.
However, Zhong Jianhua's mother was not satisfied with Lin Yuan. The reason was that Lin Yuan was from a rural area. Her family was not very wealthy, and she didn't have any great connections, so her attitude towards Lin Yuan was always indifferent.
Lin Yuan was a little worried that Zhong Jianhua's mother didn't like her at first, but Zhong Jianhua thought that her mother was deliberately nitpicking, so Lin Yuan didn't need to worry.
Although Zhong Jianhua's mother disagreed, she couldn't stand her son's liking, so she could only agree to this marriage.After the two got married, they lived with Zhong Jianhua's parents . Zhong Jianhua's family gave 80,000 yuan as a betrothal gift . Originally, her mother-in-law only wanted to give 60,000 yuan, but she was stopped by her father-in-law and gave 80,000 yuan.
And Lin Yuan's parents are not greedy for money. They paid 20,000 yuan to buy a dowry for their daughter, and the dowry did not change, so her daughter took the emergency.
After marriage, Lin Yuan and her parents-in-law lived together in a 3-story mansion. In such a big house, it is reasonable to say that there was a nanny, but after Lin Yuan married, her mother-in-law resigned from the nanny, so every day The cleaning hygiene, cooking and so on all fell to Linyuan.
But after a month of cleaning, Lin Yuan couldn't take it anymore. She had to work every day, and she had to clean and cook when she got home. She was too busy every day, while her mother-in-law was sitting on the sofa drinking tea and giving instructions.
Lin Yuan proposed to her mother-in-law to be a nanny, but her mother-in-law glanced at Lin Yuan and said arrogantly: What are you doing with that money, can't you do it?
02I was stabbed by my mother-in-law and framed
My mother-in-law is a very strong woman, in her opinion, women should be virtuous, at home husband and child, going out to work is a man's business, as long as women take good care of their children at home and serve them well Husband, do your housework well and take care of the house.
So, my mother-in-law asked Lin Yuan to quit her job again, saying that Lin Yuan’s monthly salary was only a few thousand yuan, and her salary was not as much as Zhong Jianhua’s, so she would not let her quit her job and go home to prepare for pregnancy with peace of mind. , the money is just for their men to earn.
But the words are nice, only Lin Yuan knows that her mother-in-law wanted her to resign and be a good nanny at home, but Lin Yuan naturally refused, but her mother-in-law talked to Zhong Jianhua, and Zhong Jianhua persuaded Lin Yuan to work After resigning, Lin Yuan had to quit his job and stay at home.
After resigning from work, Linyuan has endless cleaning, clothes that cannot be washed, and her mother-in-law is endlessly picky.
Not only that, in front of her father-in-law and Zhong Jianhua, her mother-in-law pretended to be very kind, treating Lin Yuan as her own daughter, but when there were only two of them, she kept mocking Lin Yuan: really thought she was a phoenix flying on the branch Now, if my son hadn't insisted on marrying you, you would have been my daughter-in-law. After
, my mother-in-law has been targeting Lin Yuan. Once, when her mother-in-law scolded Lin Yuan, she brought Lin Yuan's parents along to scold Lin Yuan. Lin Yuan didn't want to care about her, but when she heard her mother-in-law started talking about her parents, she contradicted her angrily. After a few words from her, her mother-in-law always thought she was a soft persimmon, but she didn't expect how she would contradict her, so she was very angry, staring at Lin Yuan, Lin Yuan didn't bother to care about her, and went to do her own work.
Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law was sitting on the sofa waiting for her father-in-law and Zhong Jianhua to come home, and she began to cry, shouting what the hell she did, successfully winning the attention of her father-in-law and Zhong Jianhua. After
, my mother-in-law added fuel to the dinner table, saying that she said a few words to Lin Yuan, and she was scolded by Lin Yuan, and she cried at the dinner table again, just like Lin Yuan had done too much.
Seeing her mother-in-law cry like this, her father-in-law also said a few words to Lin Yuan angrily, and Zhong Jianhua continued to smooth things out.
But after returning to the room at night, Zhong Jianhua was still a little angry, but Lin Yuan, who had been told for a day, was already very wronged. When her mother-in-law cried, everyone only believed her mother-in-law's words. No one believed Lin Yuan, and Lin Yuan just Angrily quarreled with him.
03 My mother-in-law's influence almost led to the divorce of
Not only that, but my mother-in-law even intensified her scolding in front of Zhong Jianhua: I have to use an washing machine to wash my clothes. Knowing how much was wasted by her, she will not live at all. Sooner or later, this family will be ruined by her.
On the day of Lin Yuan's father's birthday , Lin Yuan packed a few clothes and went home for his father's birthday. Lin Yuan brought a bag and a can of tea that he bought for his father. This tea is also She bought it with her own money, and she clearly explained it to her mother-in-law, but as soon as she went out, her mother-in-law went to Zhong Jianhua and said: Look at your daughter-in-law, you will know to run to her mother's house all day long, and when she goes For those who still have large and small bags, she can't wait to empty the whole family's money to supplement her rural family. After
, on Zhong Jianhua's birthday, Zhong Jianhua said that Lin Yuan's parents would come over to celebrate together. Seeing that his parents finally came over, Lin Yuan bought some new clothes for his parents.
Unexpectedly aroused the dissatisfaction of her mother-in-law. In her opinion, Lin Yuan's parents chose this day to come here to make money. That's what she thought in her heart, so she said it. After hearing it, Lin Yuan couldn't stand it. Usually she could endure anything her mother-in-law treated her, but she couldn't let her parents endure it because of her, but today is Zhong Jianhua's birthday. Lin Yuan endured it for a long time before barely saying anything.
Until my mother-in-law rushed to her and questioned : My son's birthday, what are your parents doing here? Do you want to take the opportunity to make a fortune?
Lin Yuan couldn't bear it any longer under her mother-in-law's questioning. She angrily said to her mother-in-law: I respect you and call you Mom, but you ask yourself, do you think of me as a daughter-in-law one day, and how do you usually frame me? You can insult me, but you can't insult people like this. My parents came only because Zhong Jianhua said they would come together for their birthday. Don't worry, our family looks down on your money, so you are not qualified to talk to any of our family members. People say this.
The movements of Lin Yuan and her mother-in-law attracted everyone's attention. After Lin Yuan finished speaking, she pulled her parents away angrily. No matter how her parents persuaded her, she didn't even care about Zhong Jianhua's birthday and insisted on taking her parents home. . After
, after the father-in-law and Zhong Jianhua learned the truth of the matter, Zhong Jianhua went to apologize to Lin Yuan , but Lin Yuan wanted to divorce, but Zhong Jianhua refused to agree, after that, the father-in-law also brought his mother-in-law to the door to apologize in person , Lin Yuan's parents also advised Lin Yuan to think carefully.
In the end, Lin Yuan agreed not to divorce, but she didn't want to live with her mother-in-law anymore. Zhong Jianhua also agreed, and the two moved out together.
END
Marriage is no longer a combination of family, but a combination of love. But marriage is so realistic that material factors have to be considered.
That's why marriage is not so pure now. Basically, young people only value relationships, while older generations value material things more. Therefore, conflicts can easily arise between the two generations.
Women should have backbone and live for themselves, not for profit. The backbone is earned by yourself, and the money is also earned by yourself. Only in this way will you live with peace of mind.
Don't compromise and endure humiliation, you will be looked down upon, and you will get nothing in the end.
The happiness of a marriage depends not only on whether they love each other, but also on the family style of each family and the way they get along with each other.
Only when you share the same values and can accept each other's concept of family, can you be sure of entering a happy marriage that you can control.
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