At this moment, my typing hands are trembling, and I firmly believe until this moment that everyone decides to get married with the idea of getting old together before marriage; Or repelling each other, you can only know if you have lived together.
Looking back on the past, the happy moments seem to be greater than the unhappy ones, but the happiness may be just what I think I am happy.
When I was in college, my roommate worried and said to me, I am worried that you will have a heart attack in the future, and find someone who is ill or in poor condition to marry; when I just graduated, my mother proposed to find someone with a house. , I even scoffed and said with a swearing oath: I just graduated and didn't even buy a house, why should I ask the man to have a house and a car?
After graduating from university, I traveled between cities, always focusing on my career, thinking that I could be the pride of my parents and support my family. As soon as my work progressed, my father contracted cancer and was ill for three years before passing away. In the three years after my father's death, I regretted day and night, wept secretly, and truly understood the meaning of "people want to be raised but not there". For six years,
has never been in a relationship, and after three years of my father's avoidance, I suddenly realized that I am 32, and I already belong to an older leftover girl.
I have a blind date, he is older than me, 36 years old, he said that he has been unmarried because of working in different places and picking and choosing. I only had one purpose at the time. I wanted to hurry up to to have a child , and to have a child before 35, because 35 years old is an advanced maternal age.
He owns a small apartment in the suburbs, and has invested in a house in a far-away suburban county that cannot be afforded. He also has a car that he has bought for five years, with an annual income ranging from 100,000 to 200,000. I have a condominium house in the urban area, and the loan, the monthly loan provident fund cannot be used.I think he is better than me. If he has children, his genes should not be too bad, and his quality of life should not be too bad. I didn't think much about other things, and after talking for half a year, he kept urging me to get a marriage license, so I agreed.
When he was in a relationship , he said that he would sell the house for another house, because the sale was restricted, so he could not sell it for the time being. When he was about to get married, he said that he would go out and rent a big house. My house, wait until there is a chance to buy it later. When
fell in love, he said that you don't have to work in the future, I'm keeping you, of course I don't believe it, I said it's not necessary, I can support myself. When he got married, he said that he would be embarrassed to live in my house, but he wanted to pay 10,000 yuan a month for living expenses. I said it doesn't take that much, five years is enough for us to live. As a result, after the marriage, he gave me 3,000 a month and said that the rest would be made up by the end of the year.
life, it's good for two people to be happy together, it's what you want and I want. A thousand living expenses are not enough for some people to live a delicious life. So I started my newlywed life in longing. Every month I was responsible for the mortgage of 3,000 yuan, the water, electricity, property, and parking fees of 1,000 yuan at home. Then we usually used the 3,000 yuan he gave for our food, drink and entertainment expenses, which was not enough. Some of them are from me. One year after marriage, his clothes, household necessities, additions to various small appliances, and mattresses he felt uncomfortable and changed. In short, in addition to the 3,000 food and drink expenses, other I'll pay the fee. I always think that in the future, he will change to a bigger house, save the money, he will do big things in the future, and he will have to support his family and children in the future. I can bear the money. But at the end of the year, he said something arrogantly, saying that seeing your poor performance this year, I can only send you a big red envelope, ha ha
When we were in love, I still remember the gift he gave me, a lipstick, A bouquet of flowers, a box of chocolates.He said, after getting married, I often send you flowers, and I think you like it very much. I also shrugged reservedly and said no. After the wedding, as expected, Valentine's Day did not have any gifts , he said that gifts are only given to each other, except for birthdays, there is no need to give gifts. After marriage, his birthday was ahead of me. Before his birthday, he often asked me what to give him, so that I would not forget it. During that time, I was sick and was hospitalized. On the third day after I was discharged from the hospital, I endured the discomfort and spent 3,000 yuan to buy him a gift. I didn't tell him the price, and he was really happy. On my birthday, he also gave me a present and told me that it cost me a huge amount of money, less than a thousand dollars, but now he is using it. In fact, I don't value these gifts so much. If you have a good day, which day is not Valentine's Day? He is more concerned that when his father, mother and sister are celebrating their birthdays, I have to deliver red envelopes or gifts, otherwise he will be obviously angry or mention it directly, and when my mother is celebrating her birthday, he doesn't say anything.
The conflict didn't happen in a day. Recently, because of his unwillingness to pick me up, we quarreled and had a cold war. I filed for divorce, and he agreed. (To be continued)
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