You are about to turn 30 years old, or you are still single after 30 years old, are you very anxious, facing the family's urging marriage, there is an inexplicable fear deep in your heart, which makes you feel very annoyed?
I think you must have heard these words a lot: you are 30 years old and don’t hurry up to get married and have children; if you don’t find a partner, all good men (good women) will be picked away; Children will be very hard...
is by my side, there are many female friends who are still single in their 30s, and they are really very anxious. Compared with 20 years old, they are not only changed in appearance, but more in mentality.
The age of 32 is a curse, it seems that a woman will become an old woman once she turns 32, so many people want to complete the task of getting married and having children before the age of 32.
A survey shows that among the many leftover men and women, the maximum age of women that men can generally accept is no more than 32 years old, even men over 35 years old are the same. Therefore, this puts a lot of pressure on women over 30 years old .
It may be difficult for a 30-year-old man to find a woman of the same age, because a 30-year-old woman has enough experience in life. Just imagine, if you are a man, you think that a 30-year-old woman has seen too much rhetoric, and a A 20-year-old woman who has just entered society and is ignorant, which one is better to deal with?
Secondly, a large part of men's happiness in falling in love comes from women's admiration for them. It is undeniable that men like a woman who regards him as a hero and worships him everywhere.
The last very cruel reason is that men like young and beautiful women. In fact, this is also a stereotype at play, because everyone thinks that it is very normal for a -year-old man to find a younger woman, but an older woman looking for a younger man will definitely be surrounded by seven aunts and eight aunts. drowned in saliva.
is like the unremarkable love genius Xiao Yaxuan, who found a boyfriend who is 16 years younger than him. Even though they have been in love for many years, there are still many people on the Internet who scold them.
So, this gives women over 30 a bad feeling, that is, women lose their competitiveness once they pass 30, and there is no market.
However, I still want to say to unmarried men and women in their 30s that the above are only the opinions of some people, and public opinion and social pressure cannot represent everyone. So what if you are 30 years old, whether two people can get along with for a long time is the first direction of investigation for us as a marriage. Don't leave the blame for finding a difficult partner to your age. For some people, the difficulty in finding a partner has nothing to do with age at all. . If
can't find the object, it is still necessary to summarize the reasons from itself and find the problem in order to solve the problem. I have summed up a few reasons for being single, and everyone can join with .
First, do not like social
Many people believe in one word - fate , always feel that love does not need to search deliberately, when fate arrives, love will come naturally. This kind of Buddhist psychology seems very reasonable, but it is actually self-comfort. In fact, love will not knock on the door in person.
If you want to fall in love, you must go out and expand your circle to meet new people. Every day at three o’clock and one line, apart from going to work, you will stay at home behind closed doors. Where does love come from?
Second, self positioning is not clear
People who do not know which type of type they like, or just want to find a certain type of person, this belongs to the unclear positioning. For example, if you ask what type you like, you can say whatever, there is no special requirement. When asked what conditions you are looking for, you said you wanted to find the same style as Wang Yibo or Liu Yifei, so it's no wonder you couldn't find a target.
Women generally have a kind of heart when looking for a partner, that is, the other party wants to be "better than me", otherwise why would he conquer me? If you have high eyes and low skills, do not know your own advantages, do not know how to analyze your own conditions, and always want to find someone at the top of the pyramid, you are destined to be single.
The ancients often said that they are the right match. In fact, it makes sense. If you find someone with similar conditions to yourself, you will be more pleasant to get along with. Just like the balance, both ends of the only have the same weight, so they will not tilt to one side.
Third, the conditions are too good.
As the saying goes, the heights are too high. When you set your own position very high, if you want to find someone who is the same as you or even better than you, it will be even more difficult, even if you find it, The other party also has a family.
doesn't mean that because you are old, you have to compromise, but you can refer to the second point and find someone who is similar to you. Even if the economic conditions are worse than yours, other places can make up for yours.
Fourth, I have been hurt and dare not start again.
Some people lose confidence in love because of one or several emotional failures. They are afraid of getting hurt again, so they shut themselves up, or they miss out on getting married at an appropriate age. that person.
Therefore, they are always waiting, and I believe there will always be the right person. So wait and wait, a few years have passed, and I will soon reach 30. Excellent men are married at an early age, and your he does not know where.
Summary
In general, if you want to fall in love, you have to fight for it. It has nothing to do with age, whether it is 30 or 20, even if the right one really has to wait for you at a distance, you need to take brave steps.
It's really nothing to be 30 years old. Many people only succeed in their careers and find their love after they are 30 years old. Different people have different life rhythms. No one stipulates that 30 years old is the end. It can be the beginning of anything.
It's never too late to fall in love, as long as you want to do it, it's never too late, and you don't have to take other people's public opinion too seriously. You know what you want and just do it hard.
I wish you can still live like a child at the age of 30 and be your own princess and prince.
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