The sooner you understand these truths while you are still young, the better

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. They would rather invest in real estate than invest in themselves.

Many young people buy a house with a loan as soon as they graduate. They believe that having a place to live can not only bring a sense of psychological security, but also wait for appreciation, killing two birds with one stone.

However, if you place your sense of security on external material conditions, then once you face external changes, your sense of security will be greatly affected.

There was once such a young couple, girl Xiao Su, and her boyfriend Xiao Fei was an ordinary employee of a securities company. When Xiaofei and Xiaosu got married, Xiaofei had almost a hundred thousand in savings. Xiao Fei asked Xiao Su if the money is enough to buy a small house in the local area now, or should it be used to invest and make money to buy a big house.

Xiao Su chose the latter. In the fourth year of marriage, Xiaofei's career has improved a little. In the sixth year, he gained a firm foothold in the company and his income began to stabilize. He spent 300,000 to buy a big house.

When Xiaofei was 32 years old, he earned his first million in life. Instead of rushing to change to a bigger house, he continued to use the money for investment. His wealth snowballed and he eventually became the world's richest man.

This is the story of Buffett and Susan. If Susan chose to buy a house back then, it is estimated that there would be no Buffett in the future.

In this era of increasingly turbulent housing prices and stocks, once you buy a house, you will be overwhelmed by mortgage loans, and the pressure will increase. To be able to watch those opportunities slip by.

This group of premature home buyers may have spent the next 10 years changing their work direction, wasting the opportunity to start a business, and wasting the opportunity to triple their annual salary.

, guarding the "iron rice bowl" can benefit lifelong .

All road and bridge toll stations in Tangshan, Hebei will stop charging from 2018. This means that there is a wave of people who have lost the "iron rice bowl" that many people envied, and lost their source of income. All the employees of the toll booth gathered around the leaders to ask for answers.

One eldest sister said confidently: "I am 36 years old, I have dedicated my youth to paid careers, and I can't do anything except pay fees, and I can't learn anything.

Hearing this sentence "from the bottom of my heart" , many people find it sad. Why at the age of 36 said that she can't do anything except pay fees, why can't she learn anything? The reason why this eldest sister is so embarrassed is because she is an "iron rice bowl" in the system. After staying in the comfort zone for a long time, there is no sense of crisis.

In real life, there are countless such phenomena. As Jack Ma said: "Any powerful company will not give employees a sense of security.The company that does not give employees a sense of security actually gives them a real sense of security, because they have forced their strength and forced their growth, so they have a future. "

In order not to catch yourself by surprise when your life rhythm is interrupted and your life journey is blocked one day in the future. We need to learn some skills and knowledge, although this is not an easy task, but This is something that must be done.

3.Having a good marriage, you can let go It doesn't matter if he doesn't feel secure, at least his money or position can make him feel secure.

The protagonist of the hit drama "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun, just graduated from college, married the man who promised to be good to her for the rest of his life. The man who is willing to leave the workplace willingly, to be a perfect full-time wife at home with peace of mind.

In everyone's eyes, this woman seems to be "favored" for days, she can be bossy to the nanny at home, and can be called to the waiter in the store She was completely out of the social orbit. She never cared about her husband's daily work content, nor did she know how much pressure was behind her husband's high salary. What kind of mood.

As long as my husband comes home a little late, countless text messages will flood into my husband's phone without leaving a chance to breathe.

During the confrontation between her and Chen Junsheng, she cried and said: "It's Chen Junsheng. Take me home and tell me not to work! It was he who promised me a perfect and happy life, and the one who would support me for the rest of my life."

Luo Zijun was very fortunate to find Chen Junsheng, and then began to rely on it with all her strength, learning to control more and more, but lacking the ability to survive independently. Finally, one day, she became a person who had to rely on others to survive, and so slowly Become a slave to security.

Many people who want to find security through marriage have divorced, and Luo Zijun has not been spared.

Many of us regard dependence as love, and feel that love should be inseparable and affectionate. When seeing If the other party is still alive and well without him, he will be inexplicably angry and feel that the other party doesn’t love him anymore. When a girl buys something, she will rush to the other party's company to make a scene without showing any sympathy.

In fact, the real love is to give freedom to the other party and to yourself. Or unhappy, your fate is more determined by your mental model, whether you have enough courage in your heart to tear down the layers of obstacles you preset and grow into your ideal appearance.

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