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Author|Yang Xiaomi + Fat Girl Editor|Swallow
Source|Meet Xiaomi (ID: yujianxiaomi2015)
Hello, I am Yang Xiaomi.
This article is a manuscript I owe for a long time, and it is finally here.
Readers who are familiar with me know that I have a post-00 friend Pinkie, who is now in high school. She is independent and has extraordinary knowledge, which opened the door to a new world for me.
I want to use all the good words for her.
Whenever I write about Pinkie's story, many readers and friends leave me a message, said they want to read the story of Pinkie's mother Grace.
▲Pinkie (left) and Grace (right)
Grace and I met during a trip to Qinghai Lake organized by Teacher Qiushui in 2018. She is a very cold sister who does not speak much, but she only has a few Question, published a "single-point" opinion, the question has been forgotten, but I am impressed by her thinking.
You all know me, I have one great advantage: thick-skinned and lovable (hahahaha), I chased after her and asked all kinds of questions, thus forming a deep friendship.
In 2021, the two of us have met 4 times, and we communicated a lot each time. I think this time I can make up for the article I owe.
Next, I would like to share with what she did from 0 to 1. Recently, Grace opened an account in Xiaohongshu to share her life. In less than a month, she has gained 2.8 followers. Ten thousand. The highest note , read more than 700,000.
▲Grace's Xiaohongshu
Many people want to be self-media, and I am also updating on many platforms. I often study the rules of the platform. Xiaohongshu also has bonuses. I'm not surprised that
Grace can do this, because she does it.
I have learned a lot from her, so I won't say much nonsense, I will share her story with you.
01
"I don't allow myself to make mistakes"
Grace came from a democratic military family. In order to keep fit, her parents sent her to practice gymnastics when she was very young.
One day, she was picked by a teacher from the Guangzhou Military Region Art Troupe. After the teacher went home with her to discuss with her parents, she carried the box and a stack of empty envelopes with 8 cents stamps and the address of her mother's work unit. Green leather train, from Wuhan to Guangzhou , started his military life.
That year, she was only 8 years old.
The military training of troops is very hard. Grace gets up at 5:30 every day for morning exercises. In addition to the literary training , the shooting and skill training that male soldiers need to learn, she has not fallen behind.
In order to train physical fitness, push-ups , sit-ups are a set of 300, pull-ups 100 sets, handstand a set of two hours, one-handed handstand for one hour.
So much so that Grace's arm and calf muscles are more pronounced than normal girls in adulthood.
▲Grace's training and performance photos
When she was in the army, Grace followed the art troupe and went to perform in many countries and regions around the world, and achieved many achievements and honors.
18 years old, she was unfortunately injured while performing high-altitude performances and had to retire from the army.
Guangzhou Military Region General Hospital gave her a diagnosis of spinal fracture . The doctor said that she should not exercise vigorously or wear high heels in the future. Moreover, because she is 18 years old, it is not suitable for nailing. This pain will follow her life.
She said her mother was crying when her family knew about it, and she didn't shed a single tear. While lying in bed, she silently strained herself, and I couldn't be paralyzed.
Ten years of military life have developed her character of extreme self-discipline, diligence and self-confidence. When is doing things, she only allows herself to do it right once, and never allows herself to make mistakes.
I think she is too harsh on herself, she sighed: "I perform in the army, many of them are high-risk, and there is no chance of making mistakes again. At an altitude of more than ten meters, there is no safety rope for the official performance. One mistake Now, it may be broken bones, broken head, , or even death, how can I get wrong with ?" After listening to
, I was shocked, she said, The biggest problem with in life is that many people say that you can keep trying . Wrong , this is actually wrong.
"If you can succeed more than others, you must be less wrong than others." If you want to succeed, you must not try and make mistakes. You must do things with the heart of "trying and being right" as much as possible, in order to protect your enthusiasm and increase your chances of success.
In her opinion, only speeding up and avoiding mistakes can be successful. There are too many mistakes, and the opportunity is far away. This
has become her instinct. In , career , doing things to the extreme, taking into account any possible risks, is a trait that allows her to succeed every time she starts again.
▲Grace
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At the peak of her career, at the age of 40, she chose to retire .......
After retiring from the army, the military region can solve her work, but she wants to change her way of life.
One day she heard on the radio that radio station was hiring a host. She quietly went to sign up. In that recruitment, only 3 people were selected out of 41,000 1,000 people, and she was one of them.
Then she entered the radio station, from reporter, editor, to host, and won the highest media award - Golden Microphone Gold Award.
Later, she left the system, first started with her ex-husband, and then founded a media company by herself.
I will not start writing about these two entrepreneurial experiences. She can achieve the ultimate in every job, and repeat the success path. This is a habit she has developed from the army, and it is also a requirement for herself. Do things right every time , do not allow yourself to make mistakes.
That's why I rarely ask her how she understands so much, because I know the hard work behind her. It is no exaggeration to say that at , she worked fifteen or six hours a day, three hundred and sixty-five days a year, all year round.
Let me say more, she has excellent strategic thinking. In recent years, I have often asked her how to look at a project. She will give me a logic first, such as looking at products or services first; who will do this project (the founder) important); where the ceiling of the project might be; how much market space is there; track status and timing, etc.
This is mentioned in many courses. She is very good at analyzing many cases and has a complete set of play styles. I followed her to help a friend in several meetings, each meeting achieved a few goals, and the level of discussion was listed one by one.(I learned this)
She once helped me draw the company's business strategy map, she kindly reminded me, Xiaomi , I have gone through many entrepreneurial cycles, in good times, we must take one more step, sometimes , the market changed, and soon fell off a cliff.
At the height of her career, at the age of 40, Grace made a surprising choice: retire and give herself back.
She has already achieved financial freedom, so don't worry about money. What I don't understand is, how can she let it go? This is what
Grace told me:
"Xiaomi, I have been working since I was 8 years old, then we will get paid, you can count how many years I have worked, but I have worked for 32 years, except for these , I still have a lot of interesting things I want to do.
I have to feel my needs well, life is a grand experience journey, and you can meet more unknown surprises without being attached. "
As she said, she resolutely canceled all the companies under her name, putting a stop to her career.
She said, "I only draw a period, I don't want comma , nor exclamation mark . I believe that there is something to give up, this is also a new beginning of life for me. "
She said, Retirement is not about doing nothing, not playing chess, calligraphy, painting and calligraphy, but can do whatever you want without making choices for any benefit or benefit. For example, she is still helping her friend's company in , but she doesn't charge any more.
In order to take care of her garden and fruit forest, she will spend a day in the orchard and ask farmers for advice.
She just wants to live as she likes, she doesn't want to restrict herself any more, she wants to according to her rhythm, and do what she likes and wants.
▲Adapting the color of the basket with acrylic
Sheng the flowers in the yard mine. (This is not the focus of this article, I will write it later)
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Twice marriage, she calmly accepts the homework in life
Every choice in her life is a gorgeous turn, not flattered, sober and self-aware .
Of course, life is not all smooth sailing.
At the age of 34, Grace ended her first marriage, gave up the familiar business and resources, gave up the career that has achieved tens of millions of dollars, gave up all the real estate under her name and all the equity in the company, and chose Start your life from scratch.
One can imagine those unknown pains at that time, but what I saw was only her chic and ease when she turned around.
Grace told me that her marriage in has helped her grow and she has exercised her ability to do a career from 0 to 1. In , she has improved her adversity quotient in the face of various difficulties and embarrassments, and she has also gained a treasured daughter, Pinkie.
I already mentioned this in writing about her daughter Pinkie.
From Grace's career, we talked about her being a very self-demanding person. She was very strict with herself when she was young, and she was full of sharp edges.
This is very good for work. In a relationship, looking at people, if the other party can't appreciate this, it is easy to have misunderstandings.
At that time, she and her ex-husband almost started from scratch and expanded their career, but during this process, she devoted herself to work and was a standard workaholic. Even when she was pregnant, she did not stop for a moment.
Two days before the production, she was carrying a 15-pound sample on her back and signed a contract with the customer on a business trip. The customer was stunned and the contract was successfully signed.
The husband and wife started a business together. The two are together every day. The advantages and disadvantages of each other are infinitely magnified. There is no appropriate space, and many problems occur.
Later, although the career was established and the country was defeated, the husband and wife gradually drifted apart.
Talking about the first marriage, Grace candidly said that she has a great responsibility and that things have happened. She chose to accept it, but she is still full of longing for love.
After walking out of court, she never had contact with her ex-husband or interfered with Pinkie's relationship with her father for many years.
▲Grace
on the trip About this, she shared with me that after Pinkie went to junior high school, she contacted her father and went to meet alone. She has never betrayed her children. She feels that how her daughter accepts her parents' divorce is also a practice in her life.
After the divorce, Grace met the current Mr. , . When she was 38 years old, the two got married. Looking at her status, she lived a happy life.
Pinkie once said to me: "Sister Xiaomi, I think it's good that my mother remarried . PAPA has been very good to me and taught me a lot of things. I like the state of my mother now, and I like being with them."
Grace said : "After all, both of me and the other party have remarried, I can't confirm whether the other half of the other party is generous or not, it is a respect for the other party's wife and my husband.
In the past few years, she has grown a lot. In the past, she focused on her career and ignored the feelings of the other half. But now, she has been able to heal herself, slowly heal these "obsessive-compulsive disorders", and learn to enjoy life Give calm.
▲Healing herself
When we first started together, she still maintained a high degree of strictness. When my husband ate melon seeds, when the melon seeds were placed on the table, she would feel uncomfortable, and subconsciously cleaned them up. .
is a person who is particularly -tolerant to , and tolerates all aspects of her character. Even if she shows weakness and flaws, he accepts it all and tells Grace that no one is perfect, so let Grace relax.
Mr. Grace's career is very good Busy. In 2019, he flew 220 times to 6 countries and 18 cities. In the epidemic year of 2020, he also flew 102 times. It has only been 4 months this year, and actually flew 104 times.
But even so, they Still at ease. Grace believes that because of her trust, she fully supports her husband's career, and she has very few concerns and worries.
is just one sentence: "I believe in his thinking and decision-making ability, and agree with all his choices, because I care more about his mood and experience than about the ending. "
▲ She who is 40+ can still stand with her hands upside down.
I told her that I hope to be in my 40s and be like you. My words are really too low for emotional intelligence. But her state is what I want What it looks like.
For the future, she said that she did not think so far. Be yourself, lives in the present, and every present is superimposed, which is a bright future.
▲A self-driving tour, taking pictures of beautiful scenery on the way
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Make a small red book, a new channel to generate links with the world
I am also shooting a video of the little red book, and there are currently more than 4,000 fans, after listening to Grace's sharing, hurry up I'm blown away. Why are people so different? I am too good to myself, not cruel enough, I should ask for more.
Talking about the original intention of Xiaohongshu, Grace told me that she felt that this was a new channel for her to connect with the world.
"I am looking forward to hearing more voices in through such channels and methods, and can also provide more nourishment when I write in the future."
On the other hand, Grace believes that being a little red Books need not to follow the trend, not to deviate from the values for hotspots, and to constantly go to to output 's own sober views.
is not "I'm fine, you guys see how good I am", but "I've been through a lot, I can, you can too. Let's support each other and become better together".
Now that she has "retired", she regards this process as a kind of training, "Even if no one has set KPIs for me, it will still push me and keep moving forward."
I learned from her, She is very Versailles, and she is calm and calm, "correct her mentality, look for patterns, and continue to output."
I changed the question and asked her how to do it?
She read the guide of Xiaohongshu herself, and also read some content of others. First, according to my own style and characteristics, more than 30 topics are listed, so that there is a main line to share. She made a rhythm, 3 updates a week, first updated the pictures and texts, and slowly added videos.
She often thinks about what content she wants to convey to everyone to have real value?
Many people are now selling anxiety and stress, the content of the opposition between men and women, which is indeed a way to quickly gain attention and recognition.
But Grace doesn't want this, she wants to get attention by conveying the warmth in her heart, not by stabbing others or making a grandstanding.
▲Grace and Pinkie's new book sale
Even on a shopping platform like Xiaohongshu, she never shows off her clothes, bags and jewelry. Only her close friends know her real life situation. (I once took pictures in her cloakroom holding a cabinet of Hermes bags.)
She understands that her life is rich, but many people still live in embarrassment. She wondered if there was any way to give them some strength through some of her actions?
She believes the answer is "being seen" when she doesn't have the power to help reach it all.
's note with 750,000 reads received thousands of comments. Grace took a lot of time to reply to all that could be replied. Even if it is not convenient to reply to the message, she also gave a "like". During the operation of
, she has high demands on herself, even to the point of extreme self-discipline and diligence.
This is a habit. Now that she has decided, she must do it well. At present, she has also started to shoot videos. She can record a video 30 times until she is satisfied.
Xiaohongshu is such a platform, keep the rhythm and output content, even if you don't pay attention at the beginning, this platform will be recommended.
We always want a quick way, but there is none, as Grace already said, rhythm + continuous content output.
She started from 0 to 1. If you want to make Xiaohongshu, you can pay attention to learning.
Grace is really amazing. No matter in work or life, she has a lot of methodologies, which are very easy to use. I am so happy to see her share them.
Her Xiaohongshu account , everyone can follow, she will share various life experiences one after another.
There are no limits in life, bloom better.
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