People alive will understand that when you are at your peak, there is a lot of business, and when you return to the bottom, the door can be very different. The difference and disparity are particularly great.
To treat friends, you are sincere and take your heart out. Especially when others need you, it is incumbent to think that in the future, you can get the generosity of others when you are down.
I don't know if I overestimated myself or people's hearts.
Whether a person is willing to have a deep friendship with you, how long the relationship between you can maintain, all depends on your value.
When you have no value, don't test people's hearts easily.
01 Value is generated by demand
Everyone hopes to exchange the least effort for the greatest return. This is human nature.
One's own value can be low, but the other party's value is required to be high. If you can't see the other party's value, you won't give him the benefits of value. Value is generated by demand.
There is a lot of demand, and you will be looking for people with much value. Don't expect noble people to appear when you have nothing. The lucky ones are in the minority. You can't produce value for others. Why should others help you?
Like love or hate, there is no reason for no reason, and there is no reason to help or not to help. Instead of thinking about this, it is better to increase your own value and let others take the initiative to approach you so that your needs can be solved.
02 Maintaining value is about maintaining interest.
People are divided into classes and levels. What kind of person matches what kind of person, and the class is not right, and one party will be dissatisfied and hurt.
Since ancient times, I have been paying attention to you and me. The real long-term you and me is that you have what I want, and I also have your needs here, mutual benefit and win-win.In fact, it is maintaining the benefits for a long time.
When your values are not on the same line, there is no point of intersection, and your interests disappear. So it's normal for some people to ignore you, and there will be no contact if there is no intersection.
The best way is to stabilize your own needs, and don't let yourself lose the value in the eyes of others, so your interests will not change. Similarly, the good others treat you will not change.
03 is not worth enough, don't test people's hearts easily
Don't test people's hearts, the measured results are often you don't want to see.
Some people refuse you, some people don't want to give charcoal in the snow, some people stay away from you after you are down, and those who have frequent contacts in the past are now far away from you.
When you invite dinner or drink, the people on the table are your close friends. When you start to borrow money, you will not answer your calls one by one. You think they have changed. In fact, everyone hasn't changed from beginning to end. It's just that people's hearts, including yourself, also hope to get benefits and rewards from others.
Therefore, the value is not enough. Don't test people's hearts easily. The results are chilling.
Human nature will not change. What needs to be changed is the mentality and its own value.
Long message:
Many people like to complain that there is no true love in the world, complain that they do not have a friend who can share difficulties, and even family affection appears to be cold in the face of demand. Whether it is interpersonal relationships or the true relationship between people, in addition to your care to maintain, more importantly, you have to be useful to others.
If one day, you lose the value of utilization, you will find that you have no friends at all. This is cruel, but it is true. If someone is willing to assist you, it means that you still have residual value and potential.You can have the courage to start all over again.
No one can do everything with one pair of hands. Sometimes, they still need the power of others. So, learn more skills and become diversified. When you can provide value to others, you will become more valuable, and the more you will get from others.
It is better to ask the sincerity to test people's hearts, and ask what is your sincerity.
Original author : You You Jun. In this noisy world, we all want to have our own peace. Here, warm you with words, and hope that your brows and eyes will be the same as before, hand in hand with you, and enjoy the flowers blooming and falling.
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