There is a classic line in "Journey to the West": "I used to have a sincere love before me. I didn't cherish it. I regret it when I lost it. The last thing the world regrets is this."
For most people, what you can't get is the best.
People who can't love it are always cinnabar moles in their hearts. Those who want to get things have to get them in their hands.
will miss it if you don’t get it. If you get it, you don’t cherish it. The things you like will not be so interested after the freshness. The same is true for people. With the length of the marriage time and the various variables in the marriage, slowly, she will not be the only one in your eyes.
Most people in marriage are the same. What changes are the hearts of the people, because marriage dilutes the feelings between two people, because the freshness between two people is gone, because after getting , I relaxed my vigilance in my heart, and felt that it didn't matter.
Therefore, there will always be so many men who only focus on the freshness and satisfaction in front of them. After they are possessed, they will no longer cherish or cherish them. The light ones are simply abandoned, and the heavy ones may be derived. Affair. But the final outcome is the same. When you lose that person, you will miss it extraordinarily and want to regain the goodness of the past.
Chen Feng is just like that. Two months after the divorce, he missed his wife very much when he was undressed. He had hot meals and was taken care of. However, now he has no news about his wife. Contacting her friends, they all avoided him. Chen Feng knew that it might be impossible for him and his wife.
It has been ten years since Chang Li and Chen Feng have been married. From meeting and knowing to the present parting ways, from being impoverished to having a rich life, the two have been through many difficulties together. However, Chen Feng did not cherish Chang Li's contribution because of this. Ever since he was promoted and Chang Li became a housewife, the relationship between him and Chang Li has slowly grown farther and farther.
Chen Feng is not the top leader in the company, but because he is highly valued by his superiors, most of his colleagues around him flatter him.He also heard more of these compliments, and his heart became more and more swollen, and he even brought this kind of arrogance to his home.
Before, he often helped Chang Li with housework, but since Chang Li became a full-time mother and he was busy with work, he felt that Chang Li could do it alone, and since he was working, there was no need to do housework. Otherwise, Chang Li will have nothing to do.
In addition to not doing housework, sometimes Chen Feng will be insulting to Chang Li and treat her like a babysitter. The first thing Chen Feng wakes up every morning is to let Chang Li iron her clothes; Chang Li also does it when he comes back every night. He put the slippers at the door himself, so he almost put them on for him. The housework at home is ignored, and he doesn't participate in the children's affairs.
Chen Feng said that she was tired from work, and Chang Li also understood. Therefore, facing Chen Feng’s abnormal behavior, Chang Li tried his best to consider him and take care of his emotions, but slowly Chang Li found Chen Feng Not busy, he just doesn't want to work. Chang Li began to nag him and urged him to help the family, but Chen Feng scolded her: "I was working outside for a day and I was exhausted. You still let me work. Besides, let you do some housework. , What's wrong?"
Chen Feng challenged Chang Li's patience and bottom line time and time again, and finally once, Chang Li broke out completely.
When he went to work that day, Chen Feng forgot to take the documents. When Chang Li delivered the documents for him, because he went out in a hurry, he didn't have time to change clothes, so he went to the company in a sloppy dress.
As soon as he entered the company and handed the documents to Chen Feng, the people next to her talked a lot, and some even asked: "This is not your wife, right?"
Chen Feng smiled awkwardly and said quietly: "No , The babysitter hired at home.”
Although Chen Feng's muttering voice was very small, Chang Li also heard it. Chang Li did not turn his face on the spot with him, but went home and quietly packed his things and returned in the evening. Looking at the packed luggage, Chen Feng remembered what happened during the day, and explained to her: "Isn’t I just saying something about you? You can’t rely on me if you see what you wear. Don’t I want face outside? Why go to the heart.”
Chang Li didn’t listen to Chen Feng’s excuse at all, and was determined: “The child is a bit older and sensible, so I don’t care. I want a divorce, and we can’t live anymore. Up,I don't want to be your nanny either, so what do you like. "_P1p
Seeing that the softness is not good, Chen Feng starts to be hard again:
"Don't forget, who supported the family these years, you see how old you are, and you divorced me, you think you After a divorce, can you find another better than me? The beauty of what you want, when you are divorced, don't cry for me, otherwise I won't forgive you. _P1p
When Chang Li heard these words, he smiled and said nothing. She pulled the suitcase and left without saying a word. Chen Feng was obviously upset by Chang Li's ignorance of herself, but he wanted to face and suffer. Still blindly confident, thinking that his wife will be back in two days, just like they used to quarrel, in less than two days, the wife will inevitably come back from her natal family.
So Chen Feng waited, waited one day, two days, two weeks, even one Month, now two months have passed, and there is no news about the wife. Finally, I just waited for a divorce agreement.
Now, even the child has lost contact with his ex-wife, and Chen Feng regrets it. At first he was really happy, his ears were clean, and no one was nagging him anymore. Moreover, he was willing to spend many nights outside at night, and when he came back, he could order the takeaways he liked, but he couldn’t keep going. Don’t worry about it, there are children in the family, and slowly he realizes that it’s suffering.
In the two months that Chang Li left, she woke up late in the morning and the children could only eat instant noodles with him. He didn’t divide the clothes and threw all the clothes in the washing machine. Unexpectedly, the child’s faded school uniform stained his white shirt. Later, he had to buy it again, and he never threw it away after eating. The takeaway box made the house smelly within a few days.
One day, Chen Feng happened to see the child’s mobile phone and discovered that the child has been in contact with Chang Li, but the child never spoke, even The child is not on his side, and his wife has already pulled him into the blacklist. At this time, Chen Feng regrets it.
In marriage, blindness and self-confidence are the most avoided. You think you can only think that you think the other party will not Too cruel, but how decisive a person who is broken by you is, you can’t think of it. If after the divorce, you are really cruel to clarify the relationship with you, or even stop contacting you, it’s also because you have brought Her injury,Too big.
Meng Fei said: "Some losses are destined, and some fate will never result. If you love someone, you don't necessarily have it. If you have someone, you must love her well."
If you lose it, you can get it back, but the person is different. Once the person who loves you is chilled and she has no faith in you, then you will no longer have her. The more intimate the relationship is around us, the easier it is to be ignored and the greater the possibility of loss. Therefore, we should treat the relationship between husband and wife carefully and cherish the other's efforts.
Here, I would like to advise the people around us to treat our feelings and people. We should be more serious and responsible. Don't hurt our closest person because of impulse and blind self-confidence, even if two people have lived for a long time and are familiar with each other. Now, you shouldn’t always ignore her, or even care about it.
Yang Lan said: "The bond of marriage is not children, not money, but the common growth of spirit. In the most helpless and weak, he (she) will hold your chin, straighten your spine, and make you Be strong, accompany you, and bear your destiny together."
Marriage is when two people support each other to be able to go on. The more you are in the marriage, the more principles you should have. The bottom line is to get along with each other. The other side’s days, when used to the other side’s support, I feel that the other side is dispensable and no longer cherish it.
If you have never paid attention to the person next to you who loves you, don't care about his feelings, don't want to empathize with him, and even give orders to him, then sooner or later you will suffer.
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Today's topic:
Is your husband blindly confident in marriage?
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