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Nowadays, many people are only children. There are no brothers or sisters, only oneself. So these only children, of course, regard themselves as the only ones, asking their parents to pay selflessly, and it is justified to chew the old.
These only children are really alone. They only know that they love themselves, but they don't know how to love their parents. In their eyes, the parents’ things are their own, and they should be paying for themselves.
What makes parents more speechless is that the only child not only nibbles the old but also brings his own children to nibble the old. If the parents refuse a little bit or are unwilling to take care of their grandchildren, the sons and daughters-in-law will threaten the elderly by not providing for the elderly. Such an only child is really selfish and makes parents feel sad.
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When the daughter-in-law became pregnant, Aunt Zhang wanted to serve the daughter-in-law at her son's home. But the daughter-in-law at that time refused to live with her mother-in-law. Aunt Zhang felt sorry for her son's hard work, so she gave her daughter-in-law 5,000 yuan to buy more supplements for her body.
When the daughter-in-law was in her mid-term pregnancy, she told Aunt Zhang that she would ask Aunt Zhang to help when she gave birth to confinement. Aunt Zhang was very happy when she heard her daughter-in-law say this. She didn't fall asleep all night.
She packed her clothes early, waiting for her daughter-in-law's call at any time. But the daughter-in-law's call did not arrive, instead it was the news that the daughter-in-law asked her to book the confinement center in advance. The daughter-in-law said that the elderly do not know how to serve confinement. Although the confinement center spends some money, it saves a lot of trouble.
Aunt Zhang looked at the 30,000 bill, very distressed. But the daughter-in-law insisted on going to the confinement center. Aunt Zhang thought of her unborn grandson and bit the bullet and paid the money.
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Seeing that the due date of the daughter-in-law is approaching, Aunt Zhang is a little anxious. She wanted to go on her own, but was afraid of her daughter-in-law's blame and complaints, so she never dared to advocate without authorization. It wasn't until the daughter-in-law called again that Aunt Zhang realized that she was wrong.
The daughter-in-law called and said straightforwardly, "Mother-in-law, give my mother 5,000 nanny fees per month.My mother is taking care of my confinement, so you don't need to come over again. "Hearing this, Aunt Zhang's mind was confused.
The daughter-in-law said again, saying that it was for Aunt Zhang's sake not to let the past. Aunt Zhang didn't pay attention to what she did. After all, she was afraid that Aunt Zhang would not know how to take care of her. , But her mother is different, she does things neatly, she is familiar with her eating hobbies, and knows how to take care of children. So Aunt Zhang gives her mother 5,000 yuan a month as a nanny room, of course.
And when her sister was in confinement, Her mother waited on her, and her brother-in-law’s family gave her 10,000 yuan a month. So she asked Aunt Zhang to give 5,000 yuan for their sake.
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The daughter-in-law was still persuading her, but Aunt Zhang did. She couldn’t listen anymore. She asked her daughter-in-law, why did her mother take care of her daughter’s confinement? Besides, her monthly salary was only 5000, all of which was given to her in-laws, so how could she provide for herself?
more What's more, she has already ordered a confinement center for her daughter-in-law. For the entire confinement, even if her in-laws come to take care of her daughter-in-law, it does not take much effort. Aunt Zhang is unwilling to pay the 5,000 yuan. She said to her daughter-in-law, "I am not used to you. Bring your mother if you want. I won't pay the money anyway. "_P1p
After hanging up her daughter-in-law’s phone, Aunt Zhang directly called and dropped out of the confinement center. It was not that she was unwilling to serve her daughter-in-law. As for her daughter-in-law, whoever wanted to serve her, she wouldn’t. She is accustomed to this stinking problem. The grandson is born, she is naturally happy. But if the daughter-in-law dislikes this dislikes that, she will find ways to get her to pay and empty her pension, she is resolutely unwilling.
Later son I also called to persuade her not to care too much about money. This is the grandson. If you don’t pay at this time, the daughter-in-law will definitely not support her in the future. Hearing these words from her son, Aunt Zhang has nowhere to say that she is red. I hung up the phone with my eyes. Rather than relying on my son and daughter-in-law to provide for the elderly, it is better to expect money in my pocket.
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The daughter-in-law’s disgust is like a thorn in Aunt Zhang’s heart. She is unwilling to help her daughter-in-law in confinement and childcare, but the daughter-in-law chooses different choices. If this is not satisfied, it is not appropriate.
The mother-in-law is willing to help her daughter-in-law bring childrenIt is love, not duty. The daughter-in-law cannot take her mother-in-law's willingness to give it as a matter of course. Therefore, in the face of an only child, parents should not tell them all, but should have reservations.
If children have the ability to have children, they should have the ability to raise them. I never heard that the mother-in-law must take money from the mother-in-law to serve the confinement. The mother-in-law has money and can provide some subsidies, but she is not obligated to pay her in-laws.
The son also married a daughter-in-law, and forgot his mother, and now he is starting to lose his life. But when everyone is old, when everyone is helpless, when you are young, you have done too much, and when you are old, your children will follow suit one by one. The causal cycle, pays for it.
Today's topic:
Faced with the request of the daughter-in-law, as a mother-in-law, should we subsidize her family by 5000 yuan a month?
Banxia Jieyu: Analyze the emotion of marriage, teach you to understand the human heart!
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