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The old saying goes, love is easy to get along with. There is no once-and-for-all relationship in the world. Love or marriage is just the beginning of a long emotional life in the future.
A good relationship is inseparable from business. No matter how close people are, there must be a sense of proportion. Avoid situations that should be avoided. Otherwise, these trivialities will add to our emotional life.
Recently, I was watching the science fiction drama "Hello, An Yi". Although it was only an imagination of the future, the family feelings described during the period were really real and gave me a lot of inspiration. Write it down today and share it with everyone.
The TV series "Hello, An Yi" shows us a very typical family, a well-off home with couples and three children. The wife is busy with work, and the husband takes more responsibility for taking care of the family.
Life has never been smooth sailing, sometimes including marriage. Many of the TV shows we have watched, such as "Thirty Only", "All Very Good", "Settle Down", are actually magnifying glass of real life, the bumps of marriage It is inevitable to touch.
It is important to note that, regardless of whether a couple or a lover, once these "three points" appear in the relationship, the relationship is very dangerous. The person concerned must pay attention to it and improve it as soon as possible.
The first point: mutual suspicion between husband and wife
When did husband Qiao Mingyu start to doubt his wife? Maybe it was when I was busy with housework and my wife said that she was on a business trip with the boss at every turn, and she didn't come back for several days.
Maybe it was when An Yi said the phrase "I just heard Luo Yun call, she said, you don’t know her secret", maybe it was when someone from Luo Yun company said she and the boss Of gossip.
In short, because his wife “is often away from home” and because his wife “frequently travels with the boss”, the big man Qiao Mingyu is already very irritable in the trivial family in one place, plus some rumors from the outside world, Naturally put his wife on the opposite side of him,He is playing drums in his heart. Does Luo Yun have a fight with the boss?
Even Qiao Mingyu blurted out during a quarrel, "You think I don't know how you are with your boss, and I always follow him on business trips like a worm." Luo Yun became angry and became angry, and the family battle was on the verge.
It is also because of this distrust of his wife, and the anger, anxiety and unwillingness that follow all kinds of suspicions. After Luo Yun's appointment on their wedding anniversary, Qiao Mingyu drank a lot of wine and opened An Yi's Emotional model.
I have to say that from this level, Luo Yun did give less care to her husband and family, but Qiao Mingyu forgot to take out the key of "communication" to solve their problems.
As everyone knows, the separation of husbands and wives is the beginning of many marriage tragedies.
"Trust" is shared by two people in a marriage relationship, and the most important trait is also indispensable for establishing a happy growing relationship. Once this thing is broken, the marriage ship is likely to overturn.
The second point: Husband and wife conceal each other
Virgil once said: "Crimes live by concealment." Couples want to live in harmony and love as ever. One very important thing is mutual Must understand each other.
Concealing is the beginning of refusal to be understood, no matter whether it is good or bad, no matter what the purpose is to conceal, once concealment occurs, it means the arrival of the separation between husband and wife.
In fact, Luo Yun should not conceal himself For her depression, she took all the pressure alone. In order not to worry her family, she fights the illness alone, takes medicine alone, and bears the misunderstandings of her husband and children.
In the eyes of her husband and children She is a "selfish" wife and mother. For her job, in order to be a strong woman, she left her home to an "unarmed" man. She asked her husband to bear the burden that she should have borne for her. Part. In the eyes of the children, this is unfair.
This is why Qiao Mingyu has suspicions about her. From another perspective, if Luo Yun had stated this matter from the very beginning, and everyone faced it together, maybe there would not be so many family conflicts.Will not let her husband distrust.
There is a saying, what is the meaning of marriage? In fact, it is hidden in the dark side of life. When life goes smoothly, you don’t feel how important your family is, but when you are down and frustrated, there will always be someone there to support you, waiting for you to go home, giving you warmth, regardless of your success or failure. .
Whether you are a couple or a lover, never overestimate or underestimate the other person's love for you. Believe that the other party will understand you and will face you together. Don't conceal something when you encounter big things. Speak up, not only will the relationship between husband and wife be better, but things will also be easier to resolve.
The third point: Allow the third person to enter your life
The loving couple, Qiao Mingyu and Luo Yun, made the third mistake: Allow the third person to enter their lives, and this People are not others, but An Yi. An Yi is different from others in that she is a conscious scheming person, jealous, provocative, and troublesome.
How similar is this to a woman in the world!
I once received a letter from a reader complaining that she kindly took in her girlfriend to find a job in her own home. She lived for two months. Her husband reminded her that she could almost let her girlfriend go, but she was still heartless. She didn't understand the meaning of a man until she heard the "flirting" of her husband when she came home temporarily.
It's like Qiao Mingyu turned on Anye's emotional experience mode and quickly turned it off. In the end, he didn't even dare to face Anye directly, because he was afraid that he couldn't help himself and he couldn't control himself.
Therefore, a very important point between husband and wife is: We must set up defenses against the outside world.
The world of the two of you must not allow a third person to come in easily, otherwise, it is equivalent to opening the door of your marriage and letting others come in and destroy it.
As the old saying goes, the heart of defense is indispensable. Feelings cannot withstand temptation and are the most unreasonable thing to say. Taking care of yourself and the other half is the most basic self-discipline that marriage should have.
is written at the end
It is not easy to meet, marriage is a kind of practice, everyone on this road has to constantly learn and reflect.In order to better manage our own small family.
The prerequisite and basis of happiness are of course love and loyalty, and whether you can truly obtain happiness in the end depends on the good emotional habits between husband and wife. So, good habits make happy marriages.
So, what good habits are worth learning from in love and marriage?
1. No matter how busy the work is, the two people should chat for at least half an hour a day, whether they are phone or video, keep communication and communication, and keep understanding of each other.
2. You must communicate and resolve things, give each other trust, don’t suspicion, don’t hide, and don’t allow the third person to enter the couple’s life. There must be a consciousness that no matter what happens, the other person is the most Someone you can trust and rely on.
3. I have been to the two-person world as much as possible. For example, if you are married and have children, you should spare half a day every week to get along with two people as much as possible, just like when you are in love, without being disturbed by children and work.
4. Work hard and make money. The so-called "poor couples are sad", money can really reduce many contradictions in life. Two people work hard for the future in a planned way, the economy is worry-free, and the relationship is naturally better.
5. Cultivate some hobbies, such as exercising together, cooking together, and sharing housework. Two people love and cherish each other, are considerate of each other, and consider each other more, so no matter how the years change, love will only last longer.
Finally, I hope that every lover and husband and wife can help and understand each other more, less suspicion and concealment, and have a happy life and long happiness.
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