Wen|Xueluowuchen
01
Cousin Yun is so worried these days. When she sees me, she holds on to her, asking me to help analyze what happened to her mother-in-law.
What is it that makes cousin Yun so worried? It turned out that the mother-in-law refused to go to the table for dinner, so she boiled the water for three meals a day, and the daughter-in-law was completely panicked.
Actually, to speak of it, Cousin Yun's mother-in-law, Aunt Li, is really a good old man. She has nothing to say. She never picks up his wife, has an easy-going temper and is easy to get along with.
And, besides the advantage of not picking things up, she has a big advantage, that is, she is extremely diligent and capable.
She always has life in her eyes. She usually talks less and does more. She is a very attractive old lady.
Cousin Yun was also quite satisfied with her mother-in-law. As soon as her maternity leave ended, she hurriedly took her mother-in-law to help with the children, and she was full of affection and trust in her.
There was a colleague who loves gossip talking to cousin Yun, to hear whether her mother-in-law is in charge of her, she will be scorned for everything she buys, is she watching her all day and so on.
Cousin Yun is really dumbfounded when facing the problem of gossip colleagues. In reality, her mother-in-law is not like this. She doesn't care what she does, she doesn't say what she buys, she is very relaxed.
For this, she also felt that her colleagues watched too many TV series and were too able to make up stories. It was really funny.
In a few days, Cousin Yun couldn't laugh anymore. She found that her mother-in-law had a very serious problem, and she and her husband were helpless and could not solve it.
02
In the first two days when her mother-in-law arrived, Cousin Yun felt that her mother-in-law was very restrained, and she couldn't let go of her at home. She didn't even pick up food when eating.
She let it out again and again, and her mother-in-law was reluctant to pick up one or two chopsticks, and then she said why not.
Cousin Yun didn't pay much attention either. She felt that her mother-in-law might be unaccustomed to the new environment for a while, so she should just adapt to a few days.
But whoever can think of it, not only did things not go in a good direction, but they got worse.
at noon that day,Cousin Yun took advantage of the opportunity to send the report to the relationship unit and sneaked home to see the child, only to find that the mother-in-law had dried steamed buns for lunch.
Cousin Yun was so shocked that she opened her eyes wide, and she said that she was uncomfortable: "Mom...you...you just eat this at noon. There are a lot of vegetables in the refrigerator, and there is rice in the pot..."
"Ah! Yun is back, Xiaobao is asleep, I know where the dishes are, I don't want to make it, it's good to eat this, I just love to eat like this, it's okay."
The cousin said that she felt that it was really nothing to eat like this.
But cousin Yun saw it but felt uncomfortable, as if she was slow to treat the old man, she hurriedly changed clothes to cook for her mother-in-law, but she was stopped by her forcibly.
"Oh, Yun, you're going to be busy, I'm done eating, it's useless if you do it, I'm full, so I can take a quick look at Xiaobao and go back to work."
Yuntang Just like this, her mother-in-law stopped her from cooking.
03
After work in the evening, Cousin Yun bought a lot of vegetables to go home, as well as convenient and fast cooked food, which is convenient for mother-in-law to eat at home when she doesn't want to cook by herself.
Cousin Yun felt that cutting some cooked food and eating it with white rice must be much better than dry steamed buns with plain water.
But she thinks too much. Her mother-in-law still eats dry steamed buns at noon every day, even three meals a day, and she buys the steamed buns at the pasta shop in the community at her own expense.
Cousin Yun and her husband are both having a headache. Cousin Yun persuaded her mother-in-law not to listen, and said to her son that the mother-in-law still does her own way.
Usually when three people eat together, she eats the dishes that cousin sister Yun and her husband gave to her mother-in-law, but she has a particularly painful swallowing, making others uncomfortable.
The two of them simply gave up the food for the mother-in-law, filial piety is to follow the old man, cousin Yun also wants her mother-in-law to live comfortably, and does not want to embarrass her again.
Cousin Yun is just curious, how could the mother-in-law be like this? What happened to her? Is there anything wrong with eating food from her son's house?
Actually,Cousin Yun, a girl who was spoiled by her parents since she was a child, can't understand the pain and sadness of a woman like her mother-in-law who grew up in hard times.
What did the mother-in-law go through to become like this?
04
Going home early, the mother-in-law's weird behavior made her daughter-in-law puzzled. After knowing the truth, she couldn't help crying.
It turned out that Cousin Yun's mother-in-law, Aunt Li, grew up in a patriarchal family. Grandma had killed their sisters when they were very young, so that they had to let their younger brother everything.
The younger brother was eating fragrant scrambled eggs. Aunt Li and sisters could only be greedy, but couldn't get a bite.
This childhood experience has been repeated more than once. Aunt Li and her sisters have formed a subconscious: "Good things, I don’t deserve to eat."
After marrying, if the husband is a wife who loves his wife, it might be okay. One point, but Aunt Li's husband is also a selfish person. Supporting his wife to work, he wandered around all day long, and he had to eat and drink well.
He wants to eat meat and vegetables at home first. He eats enough before he wants to give it to the child. As for Aunt Li, he can't even take a sip of the broth.
Not only that, he also "teaches" to Aunt Li every day:
"I am the pillar of the family, so I have to eat well and drink well. When I'm done, our family can be well, and you can't argue with your children. If the child is young, you can only eat a few bites less."
Habits become natural, and Aunt Li just accepts it, and gradually develops this behavior pattern and ideology.
She is not worthy to eat well, drink well, if she eats well, she will be uncomfortable, afraid, panic, guilt, especially uncomfortable and uncomfortable.
05
Cousin Yun's mother-in-law has lived in a patriarchal family since she was a child. In her environment, the status of women is very low.
Even if Aunt Li is diligent and capable, she still can't feel her own value, especially if she can't stand others treating her well, let her eat well and make her feel comfortable, she will feel uncomfortable.
On the contrary, others treat her badly, and let her eat dried buns and boil the water for nothing.On the contrary, she felt relaxed.
I am used to being ignored by my family since I was a child. Aunt Li feels that she is not worthy of having good things, and she has been short of love and praise for a long time.
She feels that she is not good enough to live a happy life. If the life is too good and God takes it back, she still suffers from herself.
Aunts Li, who are firmly bound by the thought of "I don't deserve", can't get out of the "cage" that they have drawn in their hearts.
Where can they get the ability to have a happy life?
The sense of low value and unworthiness deeply shackles the thoughts and souls of aunts Li, and they may not be able to get rid of them all their lives.
is really pathetic, pathetic, and sigh!
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