Undoubtedly, a pair of men and women who experience a dangerous environment together will involuntarily narrow their psychological distance and get closer unconsciously.
Is the feeling of rejoicing after the disaster dominates this couple? Make him cherish the other party more so that his psychological distance is closer?
Actually, the reason is just the suspension bridge effect.
What is the suspension bridge effect?
Suspension bridge effect means that when a person crosses a suspension bridge in fear, his heartbeat will increase involuntarily, and when he happens to meet the opposite sex, he will be wrong The faster heartbeat caused by this situation is understood to mean that the other party makes one's heart beat, so that it breeds love for the other party.
This was discovered by researcher Arthur Allen after detailed experiments. He discovered an interesting psychological phenomenon: dangerous or stimulating situations can promote mutual feelings.
How does the suspension bridge effect occur?
When people live in a dangerous situation like a suspension bridge, they will involuntarily experience physiological reactions such as accelerated heartbeat, shortness of breath, flushing complexion, etc. This is a physiological law , Can not be changed.
After this physiological reaction occurs, the first thing people will experience is the change in their physiological reaction. Then, people will find a suitable explanation for the formation of their physiological reactions in the surrounding environment, and will involuntarily actively seek answers to explain their physiological performance at this time.
In real life, there may be different explanations for the same physiological performance. Sometimes, it is difficult for people to determine which factor causes their physical performance. Because it is difficult to accurately point out the real cause of their physical performance, people will have a misunderstanding of emotions.
If he happens to meet the opposite sex at this time, he may attribute his physiological reaction due to fear to the appearance of the other person.Thinking that it was because of the other party, that he ran into the little deer, and was suddenly emotional, so he felt inexplicably good for this opposite sex.
A good way to enhance the relationship between husband and wife
In film and television works and daily life This scene often occurs in life: in order to get rid of a certain danger, the men and women fight side by side, and then the emotions of each other are further sublimated; after playing the thrilling bungee jumping game, the hearts of the lovers are closer; the husband and wife work together to solve a danger After the danger of the family, the relationship between husband and wife improved.
From the above situation, we can know that dangerous or irritating situations can promote each other's feelings, so this effect can be used to enhance each other's feelings.
In the ordinary marriage life, both spouses will suffer from aesthetic fatigue. Therefore, various phenomena of non-conformity arise from this, and quarrels and cold wars occupy all of the couple's daily life.
At this time, if you use the holiday, go out together, play thrilling bungee jumping or roller coaster games, the relationship between husband and wife will be much better. In these thrilling games, experience the feeling of rapid heartbeat and shortness of breath, and enjoy the illusion of indulging in each other. In the flustered state, you have the feeling of newly-married again, and the feelings of the husband and wife are naturally sublimated.
Life example
The relationship between colleague Xiao Li and his wife has been Very generally, like many families, after the honeymoon period, they directly enter the seven-year itch, which is unremarkable and often quarrels due to different opinions and barely maintains it.
Xiao Li is deeply troubled, can't it always go on like this? Leave, I still have feelings for my wife, and what about the children? Can't give a child a broken home, right?
Through a friend's introduction, he consulted a well-known local emotional master. After listening to his introduction, the master decisively gave him an idea: go to the playground together.Play more exciting games.
Xiao Li will be suspicious, can this work?
Anyway, let a dead horse be a living horse doctor. Using the weekend, he took his wife to a famous local amusement park and played a roller coaster together.
During the non-stop rolling motion of the roller coaster, he experienced the long-lost feeling of fear, exciting and shocking!
After the game was over, he looked at his wife who was also heartbeat, and a special feeling came to his heart. He felt that he was so obsessed with his wife that he loved her deeply.
On my wife's side, I feel the same way too.
After returning home, Xiao Li was surprised to find that the relationship between him and his wife was getting better and better, and there was more common language.
This is the magic of the suspension bridge effect!
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