Illustration: Stills from the movie "Like a Shadow"
Yi Shu once said: "The people in the city seem to be glamorous, but there are actually hidden loopholes. The crowds are full of friends, the guests come like clouds, but those who can really talk with their hearts , But there may not be three or two."
Youth is always fleeting, and the friendship that was once so for has changed another look. After middle age, if you have two or three true friends around you, you will be lucky enough. Classmate affection is not important in the eyes of some people, but for those who value affection, it is the wealth of a lifetime.
In the Spring Festival Gala of the Year of the Ox, there is a sketch about "Classmates Reunion", which is very ironic. The big Pan who runs the gym is very ordinary. His classmates seem to wear a gold watch, drive a luxury car, and live in a luxury house. They are actually just an illusion. They deliberately packaged themselves for the sake of comparison, and when Da Pan borrowed money from them, they immediately revealed themselves.
At the end of the party, Da Pan proposed the AA system. Even if it was only 700 yuan, they still found an excuse to escape the order.
Many people may think that such a thing is a bit exaggerated. In fact, in real life, such things are never rare. Chen Man is a person who emphasizes feelings, but after many years, she participated in a high school classmate, only to realize that some of the friendship has changed, and decided to withdraw from the classmate group and never participate again.
The purest feelings in high school seem to be yesterday, but we can never go back to the past. The world is like a big dyeing vat, letting all the beauty fade away.
Twenty years later, Chen Man attended the reunion of high school classmates. Seeing these things done by classmates, her three views collapsed.
One: Tend to the flames, just play with good friends
A true friend will not become a hot, but after middle age, Chen Man attended a party, but she saw some of her classmates Behavior, has regarded friendship as an unintentional transaction.
A boy sitting at her back table,He used to have poor academic performance and poor family conditions, so many people did not associate with him. But now he has mixed up good results by his own ability. As a result, in order to establish a good relationship with him, many classmates began to get close to him and only played with him.
In Chen Man's view, this kind of behavior was what she once hated the most. She thought that her past feelings would definitely not be changed due to changes in the living environment, but the reality was cruel. Those who do not mix well, no matter how sincere they are, it is difficult to have friends.
The students' behavior of becoming inflamed and standing in the way caused Chen Man's three views to collapse. Over the years, after she had a family, although she rarely contacted her former classmates, she always believed that the fate of living together for three years in the past is so rare. At the beginning, many classmates even agreed to be the best in a lifetime. friend.
Today's treatment of friendship is full of lust, which is really disappointing.
2: Comparing with each other, look down on the poorly mixed
In this class reunion, the communication between the students has been less sincere, and more of mutual comparison. Everyone has a strong sense of self-esteem. Male students who have some grades start to show off their income, where to buy a house, how many luxurious cars and so on.
has a female classmate. She didn't go to university and got married after working for two years. Because of her good looks, she married a wealthy husband. In order to satisfy her vanity, she also brought a bag of more than 10,000 at the class meeting.
Some female classmates start to be envious and jealous, and compare each other, even girls who have a bad life are not outdone.
The classmates who used to have very good feelings will meet again in 20 years. They don't really care about each other's life at all. They compare with each other and look down on the poorly mixed people.
After experiencing a disappointing reunion, Chen Man vowed not to participate again in the future. Useless social interaction is just a waste of time.
3: Mutual use, there is no classmates
Good friendship will not use each other,But when people reach middle age, their attitude towards friendship has completely changed. They are very hypocritical, and don't talk about classmates.
Chen Man remembers two male classmates. They used to be very good brothers. When they were in high school, they often participated in basketball games together. The relationship can be said to be very good.
But now they are at the wine table, talking about work matters. Everyone uses each other. If they find that the other party has lost their value, even the basic greetings are unwilling.
Time is too cold, it takes away the best side of human nature, and what is left is selfishness and desire.
4: Extramarital feelings
From middle age, most classmates have their own families, and they are also fathers and mothers. When we were adolescents, we were very sincere about our feelings, but at the party, Chen Man discovered that several male classmates had extramarital feelings.
Obviously they did something wrong, but men have been making excuses for their behavior, despising their wives for being unattractive and nagging and so on.
Men who once seemed very honest, once they have money, they will be like those irresponsible men, they don't know how to respect marriage at all.
Chen Man saw their behavior and Sanguan was constantly being beaten. If she knew that, she would definitely not attend this gathering. She originally thought that her classmates had not seen each other for so many years, so she could talk about the unsatisfactory feelings of these years, and encourage and comfort each other more, but all this was just her beautiful fantasy.
In order to satisfy their own desires, people will really lower their principles and bottom lines again and again, and there is no sense of awe in marriage. And some people become inflamed in order to have a better career development. Classmates have not sincerely cared and greeted them, but compared and jealous of each other.
After attending a class reunion twenty years later, Chen Man's three views completely collapsed when he saw these things done by his classmates. In life after middle age, we will become more and more lonely. Because of the complexity of the human heart, and the friends around us gradually leave, you should also understand that the true state of friendship may not be what you imagined in your heart.
Chen Man has always regarded friendship as a very important emotion. Although everyone has their own life, the past feelings are so real, how can they change when they change?
It wasn't until she attended a class reunion that she realized that some friendships were no longer suitable for deep friendship.
The reunion of middle-aged people has changed its taste a long time ago. It is not just a gathering. Everyone no longer wants to be attentive to friendship, it is more about mutual use and comparison. Instead of spending precious time on meaningless things, it is better to work hard and spend more time with your family.
The goodness of the past is true, but time has passed, and today's friendship has long since become a human being. Once you do not mix well, you will be looked down upon. If a girl is married to a husband who has no money, no matter how sincere you are to your classmates, it will be difficult to fit into such an occasion.
British writer Alan Debord wrote in the book "Identity Anxiety": "Every one of us is afraid of losing our status, because it determines the warmth and coldness of humanity."
This is the weakness of human nature Well, we don't want others to know that we are not doing well, so we have to show off what we have now in class reunions. But the more you show off, the more you lack.
And those who are truly outstanding, they are not only self-disciplined but also confident enough, they don't care too much about other people's eyes, and they don't need to find a sense of existence in former classmates.
After adulthood, we will establish our own three views. Whether it's friendship or love, you want to treat each other sincerely. People who do not agree with the three views are like two parallel lines that cannot intersect, and they disperse as they walk. For those friends who disagree, let's stay away as soon as possible.
Everyone's time and energy are limited. Don't waste it on people you can't really get together. Don't participate in the reunion of classmates that make your three views collapse. For the rest of your life, you can only get along with people who are in harmony with your spirit, and get along more comfortable and promote each other's growth.
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Topic of this article: Do you think the current class reunion is meaningful? Will you still participate? Leave a comment and talk about your views.
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