New writer Gong Gaofeng wrote in "Father's Black Fish": "The daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are each other's natural enemies. I don't know how the Creator designed it. One generation of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are endless."
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a cliché topic. Most families may be troubled by the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. For the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, couples quarrel, and even part ways in the end.
Many women believe that the bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law only shows that the man is incompetent, slutty, and does not protect his wife, which leads to his wife being wronged, and his mother-in-law being arrogant and dares to bully his daughter-in-law.
In fact, there are many daughters-in-law who do not have a grateful heart and do not regard the mother-in-law as a filial piety to the elders.
If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law themselves are reasonable people and are not selfish to the extreme, then they quarrel over trivial matters and cannot understand the other party’s thoughts. The man mediates, explains for each other, and says something good. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law takes one step back to the man’s face, and the conflict can be resolved. However, if someone is unreasonable and only cares about his own interests from beginning to end, then no matter how powerful a man is, he will not be able to get along with them.
There is a saying on the Internet: "All feelings in the world are mutual. With hard work and gain, the best maintenance of a relationship."
If the mother-in-law is a qualified elder, knows how to respect the daughter-in-law, feels sorry for the daughter-in-law, and helps the best of her ability when her son and daughter-in-law need it, and the daughter-in-law knows how to be grateful, filial, and be kind to the mother-in-law, then the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is benign.
On the contrary, whether you are a mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law, you will probably feel disheartened when you see that your efforts are not cherished and you will not receive any gratitude or benign feedback. You will probably feel disappointed and are unhappy to continue to use your hot face to stick to the other person’s cold butt!
"On the 7th day of National Day, you took your parents out to play and asked me to see my grandson at home. You can think of it. I quit and don't serve you anymore. You can take care of your children by yourself, I'll leave." After
After saying that, Aunt Wei ignored the obstruction of her son and daughter-in-law, went to the house to pack up her things, left her son's house angrily, and returned to her hometown.
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The reason why Aunt Wei was so angry was because her daughter-in-law was extremely disappointed with the arrangements for the National Day holiday. She felt that she was a tool person, not a family member.
"The daughter-in-law told me that her mother was retired. Her father worked hard to work overtime some time ago. Finally, she got a seven-day holiday. She wanted to be filial. Because her parents both like history, she wanted to take her parents out for a trip, visit some museums, and have fun."
The daughter-in-law had already arranged the arrangements and said that her parents arrived on the evening of the 30th, rested for a night, and set off the next day, and expected to come back on the seventh.
"Where are the children? Do you take them with you too? The big treasure is fine, but the second treasure is only one year old, isn't it very convenient?" Aunt Wei has a grandson and a granddaughter. The grandson is five years old this year and her granddaughter is only one year old. She is very worried that her two children will not be able to adapt to long-distance travel.
I didn’t expect that my daughter-in-law had no intention of taking care of her children at all, just because she had a wishful thinking. Not only did she not want to take the children, she also didn’t want to take Aunt Wei with her.
"Of course the children don't go. With them here, how could my parents have fun? Mom, the children stay at home, you have to take care of them." And it was this sentence of the daughter-in-law that angered Aunt Wei and made Aunt Wei unacceptable.
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"Maybe, many people think that I am doing something big and think that it is normal for my daughter-in-law to be filial to her parents. However, I really feel very uncomfortable and wronged, and feel that they don't take me seriously."
Aunt Wei's daughter-in-law's house is not far from here, and it only takes four or five hours to drive over. Therefore, the daughter-in-law often goes back to her parents' home, at least once a month.
Last year's Spring Festival, Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, National Day and this year's Spring Festival, the daughter-in-law all spent the holidays at her parents' home, the reason was "Mom, you have always lived with us and enjoyed the joy of family, how like my parents? I am the only daughter, they miss me, and I hope I have time to accompany them."
"What do I mean to enjoy family happiness? I am clearly helping them take care of their children, okay? I not only have to serve her during confinement, but also take care of two children. I often wake up several times by the child in the middle of the night, and can't sleep well, and have to do housework. Since I came, how many meals have the couple cooked? How many times have they swept the floor?"
. The daughter-in-law's parents did not help with taking care of the child, but just came to live at home for a while after the daughter-in-law gave birth, saying that they were taking care of their daughter, but in fact they did nothing. On the contrary, their arrival made Aunt Wei, who was already busy, even busier.
Not only that, Aunt Wei’s monthly pension is 3,000, almost no penny is left, and it is all spent on her children and grandchildren.
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What disappointed Aunt Wei even more was that she had paid so much, and her daughter-in-law seemed to not take it seriously and did not express anything.
"Last Friday was my 53rd birthday. Both of them remembered it, and I didn't say it either. So, that day, I didn't receive the same birthday gift, and I didn't even hear a happy birthday. When her mother celebrated her birthday, she ordered birthday cake , and bought gifts online, hey."
"Also, last month, I was hospitalized and I knew they were busy, so I didn't expect them to take care of me. However, for a week I was hospitalized, she only came once, called twice, and complained to me that I was sick and no one took care of my child. She was under great pressure."
To put it bluntly, Aunt Wei's heart had already accumulated a lot of dissatisfaction with her daughter-in-law, and this time the daughter-in-law's arrangement for National Day was just the last straw that crushed her.
After hearing Aunt Wei’s complaint, the neighbor expounded the reason: “Is your daughter-in-law’s problem a big deal? It’s hard to say. The biggest problem is actually your son. You spoiled your son. Otherwise, he wouldn’t even remember your birthday, nor would he say nothing when his wife wanted to leave you behind to see the child.”
At this time, Aunt Wei’s son was sending a message to Aunt Wei, complaining that Aunt Wei had a lot of trouble and made his wife angry and returned to her parents’ home. He asked Aunt Wei to go back quickly. Looking at the words he sent by his son to accuse him, and hearing the neighbor’s comments, Aunt Wei sighed, not knowing what to do, and not knowing whether to go back.
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There is a saying on the Internet: "The higher the expectations, the greater the disappointment in the relationship between people, and the psychological gap caused by this is often the root of our pain."
You have given everything for your children and grandchildren, and you are willing to sacrifice your happiness. You have expectations for them, longing for them to remember your efforts, have your place in your heart, care about your feelings, care about you, and respect you.
However, in fact, the more parents give, the easier it is to make their children get used to asking for things and not know how to be grateful. Not only will they not be grateful for their parents' efforts, but they will think about filial piety to their parents, but their desires will become more and more inflatable, and they always dislike their parents for not doing well enough and not giving enough.
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