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There is no easy word for adults. There are many dilemmas, many complex and anxious problems, and many helplessness to lose sight of one thing.
The mother-in-law has deposits but refuses to lend them to her daughter-in-law to buy a house, for fear that her daughter-in-law will embezzle her deposits. This is human nature. After all, everyone is selfish and everyone has their own plans.
But if you don’t pay or work, and you still have to support your daughter-in-law in the end, it is not worthy of sympathy. After all, there is nothing we can do if a person who does not pay or work hard just depends on family affection.
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If it weren't for helplessness, Xiaoqin wouldn't have easily asked her mother-in-law to borrow money. I thought that after finally lowering my figure and borrowing money, my mother-in-law would help me. As a result, the mother-in-law refused to take the money and refused, saying that her money had to be saved for retirement and no one could move.
Xiaoqin was helpless. The child was about to reach school age, but they still rented a house now. If you don’t have your own house, your child’s study will be a problem. But my mother-in-law was holding a sum of money in her hand, but she refused to lend it, which made Xiaoqin feel worried.
Xiaoqin had no choice but to ask her husband for help and asked her mother-in-law to help, and promised that the money would be returned intact. But the mother-in-law was still unshakable and even scolded Xiaoqin for calculating her pension money.
In the end, my husband also returned in a miserable way. In desperation, Xiaoqin had to go back to her parents' home to borrow money, and then she successfully bought a house. Not long after they bought the house, their mother-in-law began to say that she could decorate the house for 100,000 yuan, but her name must be written on the property certificate.
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Xiaoqin doesn’t care what her mother-in-law thinks. She doesn’t have money to decorate and will borrow money from her friends, and will no longer take the initiative to borrow money from her mother-in-law. Seeing that Xiaoqin hadn't come to borrow money from her for a long time, her mother-in-law was a little anxious and said that I had spoken. Why did you take the initiative to bow your head? Are you still waiting for me to send money to your door?
mother-in-law said while taking out a bank card and let Xiaoqin take it away. But Xiaoqin has always been indifferent. 100,000 yuan can indeed reduce their great burden, and also allow them to decorate simply and have a home. But she didn't want to agree to her mother-in-law's conditions.
Mother-in-law is a strong and domineering person. Once her name is written on the property certificate, she will be like a dog skin plaster and can't get rid of it. Relying on her own money and having a name on her property certificate, the mother-in-law will be more and more arrogant, and she seems to be pointing in the mistress in her house.
Xiaoqin doesn't lend money, so her mother-in-law makes a fuss at home and even cries to her son. Xiaoqin is ungrateful and doesn't want to leave her family's 100,000 yuan, and insists on borrowing money from her friends and paying the interest. She is really a prodigal girl.
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Listening to my mother-in-law's words, Xiaoqin, who was not sure how to deal with it, immediately decided to write her parents' names directly in the real estate certificate. Anyway, my parents paid 300,000 yuan. At that time, she said she was borrowing it, but now it seems that the money is just taken as an investment from her parents.
Xiaoqin did it as soon as she said that, and without hesitation, she directly settled the house in her parents' names, and even spread the property certificate to her in front of her mother-in-law. Seeing Xiaoqin's parents' names written, the mother-in-law was extremely angry and grieved, blaming her husband for marrying her wife for forgetting her mother and becoming a wife for being strict with her.
No matter how her mother-in-law makes trouble, Xiaoqin did not waver or compromise. If my mother-in-law wants to make trouble, let her make trouble. Anyway, she didn't take a penny to her mother-in-law. She had a fuss and she couldn't help but attack her with confidence. Isn’t it normal for her to buy a house with her parents’ money and write her parents’ names?
The husband advised Xiaoqin not to fight against his mother. After all, his mother is not young anymore, so give in if you should. But Xiaoqin was unwilling tolerate her. At the beginning, they angrily borrowed money from her mother-in-law. She would forget that she didn't lend money, but she even called her scheming and calculating her money. Now that she is old this year, why should she ask her to write her name with her real estate certificate? This face is too big.
Xiaoqin spoke to her husband. When her mother-in-law gets older, she will either take her to retire at her own home or take her to a nursing home for 300,000 yuan. Anyway, she will not allow her mother-in-law to come to her home for retirement because she wants to support her parents.
Today’s topic:
Do you support Xiaoqin’s approach?
