Time quietly calculates everyone
If a person's time is fragmented, what is he more inclined to do? I've asked many friends this question.
Most answers are: browse Douyin , play Kuaishou, and see boring jokes.
A friend has known each other for more than 10 years. A small gathering 7 years ago, and he sighed, "The world is impermanent, I am about to be forty, and I can accomplish nothing." As he said that, he poured a glass of wine and drank it on his own.
I know that he had just experienced the failure of his marriage, but in fact it was the second time that he had failed in his marriage. It was reasonable for him to have any negative emotional reaction.
I poured a glass of wine and raised it to him and said, "During the Three Kingdoms period, Liu Bei ran around all his life. He was almost 50 years old and had no stable place. When he drank with Liu Biao , he felt that he had not ridden a horse for a long time and his thighs were not strong. Not only did he cry, he lamented that the years passed and his career failed, but he could still have one of the three parts of the world. Come and have a drink, we all have hope."
He smiled bitterly and raised his glass to drink it all.
Several years have passed, and my friends around me have achieved some success in their careers. I kept in touch with this friend in a close and distant manner.
Once I saw him again, he still said the past words, repeated his previous thoughts and understanding, got used to the past lifestyle, had a little more fat, and liked to hang on Douyin for most of the day.
He doesn't like reading and thinks that reading is too wasteful of time. Day by day, the words he said are gradually out of place with his friends around him. I don't know if it was because his friends were isolated from him or because he gradually stayed away from these friends, but in short, everyone was getting farther and farther away.
More than a year later, each other's success or failure slowly broke away.
General learning and reflect on one's own mirror
No matter the workplace or shopping mall, it can be collectively called the "battlefield". Why?
Because there is competition and cooperation , that is, competition and cooperation are required, which tests a person's resilience.
There is a friend who is almost 70 years old and he is in a state of like a child.
I am several decades younger than myself, and there is no barrier when getting along with each other. Everyone likes his "successfulness", "wisdom" and "transparency", and often listens to him talk about the "big truth".
He is a person with ups and downs. He was deceived in business in Shenzhen and had more than 7 million yuan in debt. His wife left him. Later, he became even more unlucky. He cooperated with a company and was plotted on the agreement. He "practice" in prison for four years.
After coming out, he continued to toss and simply gave WeChat a nickname called "toss".
The spirit of unyielding brings rewards. He made some achievements in his early 60s and achieved economic freedom.
Unfortunately, he was diagnosed with cancer by the hospital again. He did not give up and continued to struggle, fight against the disease, and had to manage his business and deal with his anxious emotions.
Every time I see him, I call him "Brother", and he is willing to call him that others. The most he says is Cao Cao 's "An old horse is in the stable, and his ambition is thousands of miles away."
How many times have he talked and savored tea and drank? He left in the winter of 2021. He was not suffering when he left, so he was considered "dead".
He and I have a common hobby, like to read history, and like to read " Zizhi Tongjian ". He likes two stages of the 1362-year history of "Zizhi Tongjian". The first is the Three Kingdoms Storm, and the second is Southern and Northern Dynasties .
I asked him why?
He told me that after finishing college in the early days, he was smart and had a good brain, and with loose policies, he managed several "speculative" projects, making himself "full of money".
Because I didn’t know how to manage my wealth, I quickly squandered and returned to before liberation.
From then on, he liked to read biographies and literature to comfort his soul, gradually fell in love with history, and even "entered the house" and liked to read "Zizhi Tongjian".
Read "Zizhi Tongjian" to help him review a series of mistakes.
He said, why can't Yuan Shao beat Cao Cao?
Because Yuan Shao's organizational ability is too weak and his reaction is too slow.
weak organizational strength and unable to control talents. His slow response allowed Cao Cao to always lead by half a beat.
He summarized that he made these two mistakes when he was " speculating on " in the past. Some people did not organize well and did not standardize the company.
When facing a certain type of fighter jet, he responded slowly and finally missed the opportunity to turn around.
I asked him, why do you like the Southern and Northern Dynasties?
He told me that Southern Dynasties Liu Yu had a great influence on him. Liu Yu is a calm person, not much culture, and has a strong ability to act.
Liu Yu's early alliance, his later opponent Liu Yi, was very talented, eloquent, and had an extreme personality. He admired Liu Yu's military ability and looked down on Liu Yu's lack of education.
Many literati and Yakemen moved closer to Liu Yi and alienated Liu Yu. Liu Yu was very tolerant and finally destroyed Liu Yi and built the world.
He analyzed that he was Liu Yi's style, he was very eloquent, talked loudly, and read a lot of books, whether it was negotiation or leading the team, which convinced everyone.
When I suffered a career blow, many people left him. To sum up, they thought they were very talented, but not calm and lacked "virtue". There is no way to carry this wealth.
I can’t remember how many times we commented on the “heroes”, “heroes”, “treacherous heroes”, “villains” and “gentlemen” in "Zizhi Tongjian". Every time we talk about it, we are passionate, as if we live in a historical scene.
During his illness, we went to see him and occasionally discussed the characters in "Zizhi Tongjian". At this stage, he talked more about Zhuge Liang and Sima Yi .
Why did he think Sima Yi succeed? Because he focused on maintenance and won the country with "waiting" and "patience", Zhuge Liang did not let go of big and small things, and was too worried, and he was exhausted in the end.
He knew that he had not had much time, so he preferred to be a person like Sima Yi. Only with a good body can he have a future.
Not long after, he left us.
He spent most of his life "tossing" and his family and career were successful before his death.
He has read a lot of books. He said that only the classic "Zizhi Tongjian" is often placed on the bedside, which has the greatest impact on him. He constantly reflects on his shortcomings and deficiencies, constantly supervises himself and improves himself.
I like to read "Zizhi Tongjian" and have met many friends who read "Tongjian". He is one of them and it is also one of them that has a great influence on me.
Core competitiveness, short-term talent, long-term virtue
Many people like to succeed. Countless historical cases have proved that relying on talent alone is not enough to cultivate virtue when a person gets into something.
Let’s look at a key case at the beginning of "Zizhi Tongjian".
Zizhi Tongjian Original text:
At the beginning, Zhixuanzi was about to take Yao as his descendant. Zhiguo said, "It is not as good as Xiao. Yao is virtuous as others, and one is not one. Beautiful hair is virtuous when it grows up, and shooting is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is virtuous when it is not kind. Who can treat it when it is established by Yao, Zhizong will be destroyed." Don't listen. Zhiguo is a different clan from Taishi and serves as the Fu clan.
Hong Jin's translation:
At the beginning, Zhixuanzi wanted Zhiyao to inherit his position. Zhiguo, the same sect, raised objections. He said: "Zhiguo is not as good as Zhixiao. Why?
Zhiyao has five obvious advantages and one fatal weakness. A handsome beard and handsome, which is the first advantage. A strong archery power is the second advantage.
0 Versatility is the third advantage. Good articles and good eloquence are the fourth advantage. Brave and strongness and decisiveness are the fifth advantage. Although there are five advantages, he is not kind in character and uses an unkind heart to drive the five advantages to others. It is his own devastating disaster.
Who can control it? If Zhiyao must be established, the Zhi clan will definitely be destroyed. "Zhi Xuanzi did not listen to this analysis. Zhiguo was very smart and changed his name to "Fu".
When reading "Tongjian", the key is to be able to analyze cases in a conscientious way and find useful tricks?
For example, how to analyze the matter of Zhixuan Zili’s heirs thoroughly and make the most profits?
Why didn’t Zhixuanzi listen to Zhiguo’s analysis report?
There is a cognitive gap between people. Zhixuanzi is Zhiyao's father. The father looks at his son and looks at him well. This is caused by "cognitive bias" in psychology.
Zhiguo is only the same clan, and the bystanders are clear, and he can clearly see Zhiyao’s shortcomings.
It’s not that Zhi Xuanzi is very ignorant, Zhi Guo is very smart, but that he draws different conclusions from different perspectives.
People always want to act rationally, and in the end they have the upper hand. There are many such cases.
A girl was in love with a boy and was hurt by a boy. She made up the statement about breaking up. When she met, the boy apologized, and the statement about breaking up disappeared.
Why? In most cases, sentimentality is dominated by rationality and makes decisions.
What is the basis for smart fruit to look at people?
Sima Guang At the beginning of "Tongjian", it proposed the famous "Talent and Virtue Theory".
In the standard of Zhiguo’s view of people, virtue is also the foundation of everything. A person’s morality is very poor and lacks tolerance. The higher his talent, the greater his destructive power.
For example:
launched World War II Hitler is the most typical talent and lack of virtue.
So the question is, how can Zhiguo observe Zhiyao’s lack of virtue? The answer is: the details of getting along with people on weekdays.
We all have certain experiences, get aura with someone, don’t like someone, etc.
This is "not dealing with aura". A person with good morals can treat people with lenient, easy-going and neutrality. It's not about being domineering, stubborn, etc.
These are the keys to looking at virtue.
In daily work, we can learn from Zhiguo's simple observation method and be invincible.
Why is Zhiyao not good enough and has outstanding talent and high risk factor?
There is a saying in " Yijing ", that is, virtue carries things.
De is an abstract concept, how to understand it?
The easiest way is to observe the details of a person's behavior.
For example: Is this person tolerant? Is there any tolerance? Is there tolerance? Is there any fairness? Are you nitpicking? Are you chewing? etc.
Zhiyao is talented, but lacks virtue, so she lacks the core qualities of "inclusiveness", "leniency" and "resilience" that the commander should possess.
Once there is a conflict with others, it will inevitably bring disaster to others and yourself.
As expected, Zhiyao, just like Zhiguo's judgment, sent all the offending everyone and into the abyss.
What inspiration does this case bring?
Ability and talent make a person stand out, such as: Su Qin , Zhang Yi , Li Si , Lu Bu , Qin Hui , etc. Only virtue can make a person stop at the top.
